I'm curious. My wife prefers quicker sex. She says if we go too long she gets too wet and cant feel anything. Or often she'll cum when I give her oral and then encourages me just to enjoy myself during intercourse because its too wet for her to cum again. I know everyone is different, just curious if any ladies have experienced this and would share their own perspective. Honestly I love it, it feels great, but I want to make sure we both enjoy ourselves. I get off on her getting off. Wiping my penis off with a shirt can help a little, but generally she prefers it just to be quicker so there is more friction. She grew up where discussion of sex wasn't just ignored but rather discouraged so isn't comfortable describing in detail what she enjoys and what she doesn't, so looking for ideas to make sure she's satisfied.
Too wet? I understand what she means when she says she can't feel it, but I don't think that's because it's too wet. Try a different position? I lose feeling after a while of just doing missionary, so I switch to doggy, that brings it all back.
Thanks for your replies. I don't think size is the issue. I'm not going to claim to be huge or anything, but I'm just fine. Black Ice, maybe that is the case. She describes it as kind of numb too. She's never been real big on other positions. She cums easiest in missionary. I've been really into doggy lately (I like the view of her butt), but its not her thing. We'll do that if she cums before me. Curious, do you like doggy with deep and hard pounding, or do you prefer a guy to angle it downward to more hit the g-spot? What about clit stimulation? Maybe if I do it differently she'll enjoy it more.
Although I've always preferred Missionary, a lot of women have preferred doggy, as they say that position gets the G-spot better. Another one, which I understand to be called the 'Pussy Position', is a simple variation of the Missionary Position, with the man's body positioned further upwards once penetrated, thus forcing the penis to be angled slightly downward. This angling of the penis, in itself, is not what increases the sensuality to the woman, but the fact that the upper surface of the penis shaft gets to apply an increased amount of pressure to the the clitoris which, in most other positions doesn't even get to make contact with the clitoris at all.
Wet may not be reason she is not feeling. I get wet also too much till my pubes get wet. The solution lies with both of you. Use trial and error method in positioning you and her such a way that she feels. I feel doggy is the best. Let me know.
Get adventurous, get her to try more things. Personally I prefer doggy deep and hard. I also really like "lazy doggy" - where my head/chest is on the bed but ass is still in same position as doggy, that gets the gspot really well. Clit stim is a must! Maybe get her a little bullet vibe (I have one from Ann Summers, the little silver ones) which I use on myself when he is behind. So much easier doing it myself, encourage her to do the same
I need that friction too. I don't get too wet myself, but when we have used lube before, I had trouble orgasming, because of the loss of friction. For me it doesn't matter the angle/position, I just need that friction. We have used a towel to decrease the wetness in those instances, but it doesn't really work for what's inside of you. What about her orgasming from intercourse first, and then finishing/continuing with oral for another orgasm? Trying different postions, as others have suggested might work for you, though.
