This fuckin sucks...ugh!!

Me and my husband decided to end things. Amicably I guess. We both acknowledged that its not working out for us. The only thing is that our lease isnt up until next summer....and I gotta see his family at Christmas. I guess it's kind of a secret now. This fuckin sucks. I left work "sick" today cause I felt so bad. I dont want anybody to know yet. I'm considering calling in sick tomorrow just so I can be alone all day and let the shock get out of my system a little. This is what I wanted but it's still sad.

 

:grouphug: Hang in there and take some time to be good to yourself. One step and day at a time.

 

That sucks, man. *HUGS*

 

if's it's amicable then why bother lying to family?

just own up to it now and spend the time as friends as you work apart all the details of whatever you have to do to separate

 

You going to try live together for another 6 months whilst broken up?

That aint gonna work

 

ive seen it work with my own two eyes..

 

you could bail out of the Christmas plans if you wanted to. I don't see any point in tormenting yourself further.

Do you want to talk about how it all came to this?

 

Or... It could end up like one of those Hollywood Romantic Comedies where some kind of major event happens and they realize how much they mean to each other and start fresh.

I mean maybe.

 

I've seen it too. We lived together for over 1 year, even after the divorce was final (3 months). It wasn't great, but we survived. We made it work, as neither of us could afford to live on our own.

I'm sorry CrazyDreamer

 

I completely see what you mean. His family is in another country and he's afraid everybody will worry too much about him if they find ot he's on his own. cause he has no family here. I told him I could still be his emergency contact and that he can still be in contact with my family. but he is afraid of dissapointing his family and making his mom so upset that she gets sick or something. In the end I think they'll be more upset to find out he his stuff from them.

 

I honestly feel the same way. I'm thinking of moving out earlier but I dont know. It snows a lot here from like jan-march and i just dont feel like moving in the snow to be honest. but like....sleeping in the same bed and going through the day to day routine acting like nothing is different is not working for me either.

 

I was in the same situation in 2006, when I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years.

We had a lease, and many things bought in common. I slept for two months on a small mattress in the living room...the bed was hers.

I had a fling with a bartender and my ex spit in my face! But I survived! Stick to your guns, girl! :2thumbsup:

 

Thanks for your comments everybody. I really appreciate it.

 

He's going to have to decide whether he wants to disappoint his family or stay together, he can't have it both ways.

Don't do things you don't want to do just so he can lie to his family. If you are breaking up, he is a big boy and needs to look after himself.

 

try fucking his brother. you'll feel better

 

I slept on an old futon the entire time. Not fun, but it was affordable.

For the record-I did not have a fling with a bartender. lol

 

I agree with this^^^. Lying to his family is his problem. Dragging things out and making you a part of the problem isn't necessary at this point in your marriage. The whole point is to distance yourself is it not? It seems a little too late for you to be made a part of his problem.


Sorry to hear you're upset. I hope you find happiness again soon.

 

Just to give a little update.....we both told our families and that has helped me to feel so much better. I am not into lying and hiding things from people. I plan on moving out into my own place at the beginning of March. Oh....and I am not going with him to visit his family. Overall I feel much better. I dont know how I'll feel when it's time to move out but I am also looking forward to it too.

Everybody thanks again for your comments. They really helped.

 

maybe write some things down about why you are separating and read it when you start to feel like staying around

 

Glad to hear you made things more comfortable for yourself.

I hope things go well for you from here and into the spring with your move