I need to get something off my chest. This may or may not be the correct avenue to do so..but I know of none better. There was a thread on this forum a week or two ago about a case of abuse, and because I'm capable of such meanness, I said some things that were insensitive and stupid. I said something along the lines of 'the abused always harp on as though they are the only to have ever suffered', and I just showed a lack of sympathy...and now after hearing a real testament of a sexual abuse victim I regret saying such a thing. I've always known that sexual abuse, particularly of children, is a despicable thing. I just didn't realize the full severity of it's consequences. The testimony I saw was of an elderly man who had been abused by catholic priests, he was beaten and raped as a child. The sincerity of his voice was so harrowing..it made my realize what a stupid person I was for saying what I said. And for that I'm deeply deeply sorry.
Enk thats the mark of a real man to publically own your own mistakes and ask for forgiveness. I can't speak for the victims but I can tell you I am impressed by your consideration and decency is making your statement. Thank you for a good example of self reflection and action.
To be honest, I think anyone who trivialises any child abuse is a total moron. I do however, think a traumatic childhood is far too often used to excuse a person's wicked actions as an adult, Plenty of children who had terrible childhoods turn out to be decent adults, I myself had a very traumatic childhood, and indeed, adult life too. And Im still a caring person. So I dont buy into that really.
You've still got a few more pennies to drop: - What happens when the perp is just as or more innocent than the victim (another child) - Situations where the perp isnt even consciously aware their actions have a big influence (overparenting) - With the way the brain is formed, pretty much everyone has close to zero recollection of their life 4yrs and under, so some can go decades with issues having no clue until that memory surfaces, if at all
