Am I addicted to masturbation and porn?

Am I addicted or compulsive?

I started masturbating when I was 13 and I loved it a lot back then. After that I started watching porn online and have been hooked ever since. I watched porn every other day and masturbated once a day until I was about 15 or so. Once I got into high school I got worse. I started watching porn every day and masturbating about twice. Which wasn’t that bad by some standards.

But by my sophomore year, I began staying up late watching porn for hours on end and masturbating constantly. After I came I’d go again until I went to bed finally. That year I was pretty bad. During the next 2 years of high school, I started watching more porn and masturbating around 5 times a day. I’d leave class sometimes saying I’d have to use the restroom when I’d really go and masturbate in the bathroom because I felt like I really had to and if I didn’t, I’d get antsy or distracted. I’d convince my parents to leave the house to go shopping or go out of town for the weekend so I could stay home and masturbate and watch porn. Sometimes I’d delay going out with friends to masturbate.

Eventually I began dating this girl (my second girlfriend) I met for around 10 months but our sex life was alright…I had a terrible time staying hard to have sex and even during oral I could never orgasm from her stimulating me alone. Luckily I could stay hard during oral, but everything else didn’t do much for me. She was beautiful and the idea of sex with her turned me on greatly but when I was actually in that situation, it just wouldn’t work for me. I still masturbated the same amount and watched the same amount of porn, and couldn’t cut down to save my life. I figured this had something to do with my problems with actual sex. I’m 19 now and am still struggling with it. I can’t keep focused if I’m not getting myself off frequently. Since I was a Sophomore in High School I would occasionally masturbate in a public place like a restroom or store fitting room for the thrill of it and because I really felt like I needed to. I really always enjoyed the thrill of masturbating where I shouldn’t. I’ve done it in more places than I want to admit and still do every once in a while if I feel I have to. I watch porn for hours and masturbate at least 4 times a day and sometimes 5 or 6, and I would do it more if I had the time. There have been times where I have been forced to go without masturbation and porn for a day or two due to traveling and no private place to do so, and it about killed me. I was constantly agitated and grumpy and extremely antsy. I finished my senior year online and got so far behind in class because I couldn't focus on anything but masturbating and watching porn.

My best friend (whom I dated in 8th grade) has been trying to tell me for a few years that I’m addicted to masturbation. And addicted to porn. And I’ve 2 of my other friends say that too. And these people are horndogs themselves. I have porn friends with whom I share links and talk about stuff with. Out of my 25 instant click pages on my home page of my internet, 13 are porn sites. I’ve gotten into different types of porn because some older stuff isn’t as stimulating. And I try to find different methods of masturbating too. I masturbate every chance I get and even when others are home and I’m at risk of getting caught. I don’t care about getting caught at the time. I really want to control myself but I can’t even go a day without masturbating. I can go without porn for a day or two but I don’t like to at all.

But I feel like I'm really addicted to masturbation and porn and need some advice…

Thanks in advance for anything.

 

Hi Everybody, My Name Is StoneColdCrazy, And I'm A "Wankaholic"....



Cheers Glen.

 

I was looking for serious advice but, I'm not gonna act uptight.



:rockon:

 

I can relate somewhat. I feel that porn if not causes, definitely aggravates certain sexual problems of mine.
Including, occasional trouble getting and staying hard during foreplay; horrible trouble staying hard between the time of putting the condom on and getting a good fuck going; and premature, or more aptly, short ejaculation time (which doesn't effect me during blowjobs, which are one of the most boring sexual acts for me to watch [overplayed but cumshots are still my favorite]).
I don't think it's necessarily normal for shitloads of random sexual images to be popping through your head while you're having actual sex -- and when your favorite is cum.. well, it doesn't help.

My real problem with porn isn't usually frequency (which is 5 times a week minimum), but length. I will have porn sessions hours long and can even take up most of my waking day.

I've been thinking of trying to take a break recently. Cold turkey, for a set amount of time -- masturbation discouraged but allowed imagination only.
I stopped smoking Black and Milds cold turkey; but this seems way more challenging to me. I know I would have to replace these sessions with things like working out, meditating, and writing; which sounds both awesome and terrifying to me because let's face it, porn's made me rather lazy lately.
I look back on my teen years and don't understand how I could've done so much stuff while porn-addicted. I really don't feel like I've gotten worse, but I must've..

What do you think of such a porn-fast?
What do you think your own chances of being able to live up to such a challenge is?

 

If it is an addiction go by the twelve steps used for alcohol or any other type of addiction.

Which is just a whole lot of stuff to that basically says you need to get out of your little world, be objective and analytical about yourself, project some kind of higher power to be your guardian, and seek the help of others.

Roughly, cos since it has to do with masturbation, not all are going to exactly apply, you might freak out your friends by getting too detailed

But first you have to identify what the addiction is, say to a lot of people that your addicted to jerking off and they might respond with "well, who isnt?" getting addicted to doing it in public place or places you might get caught, or not going out with your friends in preference to jerking off are different things than being addicted to the act itself.


Maybe try the tantra stuff, which isnt really about sex, just about holding off gaining control, which yes can be infinitely frustrating and annoying but it teaches you the differenence between ejaculation reflex and orgasm. Ejaculation reflex, pressure blowing is actually the fun part, orgasm is just the tingly all over body thing. So if you read up on it and here them crap on about full body orgasms they dont mean orgasms as you know it, just extended all over tingly stuff.

At least try and train yourself not to be as fast and furious about it, you aint going to be any good with the ladies if you'vge trained your dick to blow 5 mins after touching it or it doesnt feel anything unless you've got your hand wrapped around so tight its cutting off the circulation

 

StoneColdCrazy,

We always thought we had a masturbation addiction. But after reading your thoughts, we now understand what a true masturbation addiction can be.

We're also concerned that you may eventually be criminalized for your public behavior, if you don't get a handle on it.

The fact that you can openly discuss your concerns with a few friends, though highly unusual, is to your advantage. Most of us here would not feel free to confide in such intimate things with our real-world friends.

Have you considered asking your girlfriend to join you in mutual masturbation? Although she may not be wild about the idea, she might join in, simply because it's so important to you. And such a relationship would also provide a natural reality check and a solid foundation for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. You will eventually develop a true appreciation for the way a real woman's body looks, feels, and smells -and tastes.

And as some have already mentioned here, try holding off, by masturbating less, if you possibly can. Doing so will naturally build up your erotic desires and create mind-blowing orgasms, especially if your focus on fantasy induced orgasms, teased along by light stroking. Also try reserving your masturbation sessions for bedtime, as you would then wake up the next morning completely refreshed and rejuvenated, ready to take on the real world. We've discovered that bedtime is best for us, as masturbating in the morning leaves the rest of the day a complete haze -totally wasted and dysfunctional.

The same applies to porn. Try to use it in moderation. The fact that you share and communicate with your buddies about porn is yet another healthy reality check that we encourage.

We don't feel at this point that professional counseling is needed.

We hope this helps.

hugs,

HotCaliforniaCouple

 

Thanks for the reply.

And my friends and I talk about absolutely everything (one is my first ex girlfriend who's now a lesbian, ironically) so we're all close and talking about sex and stuff is usual topics for us. Those convos can be interesting to say the least

I would try a mutual session except my girlfriend of 2 years had an affair with my friend and left me over the phone on my birthday. It wasn't sex related (the reason she broke up), but she said that I put her last for a week or two after I was working too hard on school and my new job and it hurt her. Since then I haven't wanted any contact sexually with someone, since I lost my virginity to her 3 weeks prior to her cheating and break up. So I'd love to try that but she's having too much fun with my ex-friend and I'm not sure if I'd be ready for anything sexual with anyone else yet because she meant alot to me.

I'm trying to work on holding off but it's just impossible most of the time. I have little self control when it comes down to it. Same thing with porn.

But I like what you had to say and it sounds reasonable. I guess that's all I can really do (cut back and use porn in moderation), I just got to have the willpower I suppose. I'm not delusional to think I could ever stop, I just want to learn moderation.

 

Maybe you secretly don't like women, and you are channeling a married man from a previous life...

 

Dear God....you may be right...

lol nah, I love women dearly, and if I am channeling a married man from a previous life, he must have had one neglectful spouse!