Not having a partner that is into swapping, my quetion is a curious question more than anything? 2 questions: First....say your relationship is an open one and you can have a "fuck buddy" on the side in a one on one.....do those of you in these open relationships have boundries? For instance, say.... is anal taboo and saved for the partner only and not a fuck buddy, etc.. Second...again while your partner is present (3sum etc) you and your fuck buddy are in the same room, are there any taboos that differ from when he/she is not in the same room? Mark
First (in no particular order) 1) Not in our marriage bed 2) My boyfriend must use condom (not always observed *blushes*) 3) My hubby must know ahead of time 4) My hubby gets all the details afterwards 5) Frequency must be reasonable (my husband can usually tell when I begin to have yearnings for my boyfriend and it is usually him that will say something like "Why don't you call _____ and see what he's doing this weekend") 6) If I find myself beginning to have too much of an emotional attachment to my boyfriend it is up to me to break up with him (I'm pushing this already because he's already occupying a little chunk of my heart. I really, really like him so I've got to be careful not to see him very often.) There was one other rule that my husband and I talked about before I was with my boyfriend. I was supposed to get enough of him the first time because my husband didn't think he could tolerate me being with him more than once. That rule quickly fell by the wayside, by mutual agreement. Second doesn't happen because my husband doesn't want to be around when I'm with my boyfriend. That's a good thing because I would probably have all sorts of self-imposed taboo's. I'm an incurable romantic and I like to get totally carried away when I am with my boyfriend, giving all of myself to him including intimacies and utterrances of endearment that a happily married woman really should reserve for her husband.
If that arrangement works in her marriage who has a right to judge, they are all consenting adults. If I were the husband I would want to be involved at least sometimes, but that is just me.
^ did you even read what I quoted? It's not an arrangement that works in her marriage; it's violating an arrangement made in her marriage.
Thanks for sticking up for me, Nakedman, but Duck is right. I messed up. It only happened twice; the first time we were together because we were not prepared, and then just a few weeks ago in the passion of the moment. I told my husband about it both times, but it was still foolish.
I find myself explaining what should be obvious; risk of std's including HIV, and risk of pregnancy. The latter is a small risk since I am on the pill.
Just wondering. Some couples wear them because they don't want to share another man cumming in the wife. Other than that if you know the guy to be trust worthy and clean then why not let him cum in you. But you do have to be careful. In our case the guy was 100% clean and trust worthy. She also wanted him to cum in her so why not. Sex can be rather intense and putting on one can slow down the natural pace. I loved it when sh came homw and filled me in on the details. She said it made her feel like a teenager.
Your situation is just all kinds of fucked up isn't it? I'm betting you already know deep down that it's not going to end well. You realize you've already demonstrated that you are willing to break the rules in the heat of the moment and that you are getting too close to the guy already and haven't yet broken it off. You understand that once you get that close and know it's dangerous and you don't do anything the next step is when you just decide "fuck it" and step over the fence. I feel sorry for your husband but then again he started it didn't he? lol - your situation is so fucked.
With us we have lal been tested and so we are 'fluid-bonded' which is great, no worries about swallowing or spurting. Of coulrse you have to trust the others 100%. Good luck to all you polamorists, Simon
Thanks for your insight, i hope it all works out and that your lover doesn't take you or your marriage for granted.
A lot of the times her other partners got the same treatment as me and sometimes they got a bit more out of her such as public sex outside or roadhead. During our 5 years of open relationship she's had quite a few bareback in her and 2 of the guys she really likes have cummed in her and one of them currently is still cumming inside her. Everyone is tested clean and trusted of course.
You are an asshole, Yazzz. Not up to you to judge others. I think you missed the whole point of this site. Best you return to your right-wing, conservative, nut-job religous beginnings. Judge not lest ye be judged, eh? We all have weakness and passion that don't always make the most sense. Clearly, you've never had either. To bad for you...
any 3-sum or relationship where one partner has a FWB or fuck buddy must have rules/boundaries if it is going to work. And all three must agree and accept those rules - they can always be reviewed and changed if all agree but you need to lay down dos and don'ts. with my wife and I - we are the primary relationship and we look for someone who will fit in with our desires/needs; that said we must also take on board the needs and desires of our third partner. In any three-way relationship there is no society-fixed role-model! Simon
