So Im going to have a vasectomy

I am a 25 year old male, and while many people have advised me to wait until I am older to make such a decision, my research shows that people who had vasectomies while young have turned out to be very happy with the decision. There are several reasons why I want this done, mainly because I just dont believe in bringing more people into a world that I view as steadily declining in quality. I could rant forever about over-population and consumption of resources but I wont go there right now.
The way I see it, even if i changed my mind when Im older, I would be forced into adopting as the alternative option if I had a vasectomy. I think of adoption as being the ideal choice, it is a wonderful social service.

Anyway, on to practical matters...
I am so nervous about the procedure. I have been educated by the doctor and know its a very simple, safe, and fast procedure. However, the thought of my scrotum being pricked is almost too much to bear. I have received mixed information on the pain I will be in (even if it only lasts for a minute while the anesthetic gets working). Some have told me that the discomfort is mild, while others insisted that it is indeed a very sharp pain of great magnitude. I can tolerate reasonable amounts of pain anywhere else, but NOT DOWN THERE of all places! Has anyone on here undergone the procedure and can share their opinion? Either way, I will eagerly accept the xanax they are going to provide me with prior to the procedure.

They also require me to shave down there on the morning of the procedure. I dont even know how to shave my face using a standard razor- I have always gone electric as they are very fast and convenient. I am not supposed to use an electric razor for my scrotum and dont even know where to start on what type of razor I should get. Perhaps I should practice on my face for a bit?
Essentially, I am asking for advice on shaving one's balls.

The inconvenience of having to remain inactive for 3 days after the procedure is minor to me. I am prepared to handle post-surgical complications such as expected swelling and what not. Its having to prepare for the procedure that is getting to me. Any discussion is appreciated!

 

Don't do it man - you're only 25 and might change your mind. While they say it can be reversed it is not always successful.

Have you any kids already? Are you married. If not, what if a woman you meet and want to marry wants kids? While I agree that adoption is a wonderful there are a lot of factors that come in before you are allowed to adopt.

If, and you may well be right, you don't want to bring in kids to this world to face the questionable future then use one of the many types of contraception. My wife (post two kids) has a Mirena coil - good for 5 years at a time, a great invention.

I was pressurised to have a vasectomy and resisted - it's like voluntary 'change-of-life' before your time.

It's your life but at 25 you may well regret it later.

Simon

 

What are the benefits of getting this done?

 

just use a condom dude or have your partner go on the pill.

vasectomies are not 100 percent sterilization either. Although it is highly unlikely it is possible to impregnate someone after having the procedure done

 

alright, si69 and myself are the oldest ones here, so far to respond to your thread.

in my case, i never had kids.
i always used birth control, and never once had a condom break on me.

as far as i know, i never fathered any kids.
that did not prevent me from being forced to raise my niece and nephew, when my sister abandon them, and dumped them onto me.
i'm sure it cost me over a millon dollars to raise those kids. i would not be surprised if it were more like two million dollars.
meeting the physical needs is one hell of a responsibilty.
most people never even consider if they can meet the psychological needs of a child.
your quite correct in that, most people do one hell of a shitty job in meeting a childs psychological or spiritual needs. we see that lack of child rearing skills in the world around us.

as for a vasectomy at your age... i have ment a lot of people your age and younger, who have had it done and almost all of them are glad they did it. a few of them did regret it.
not knowing you personally, i cannot truefully tell you one way or the other, what might be the best course of action for you on this matter.
the only thing i can say on this matter is, you check out the facts in very, very, great detail and think this through... it sounds like you have done a very good job of doing that so far.:cheers2:
the other thing is, listen to your gut feelings on this matter as well.
if both of your thinking and intuition are in agreement on this matter then, more then likely it is the right for you to do for yourself.
i stress here the "more then likely" part. there is always the small chance that your intution and thinking could be wrong... nothing in life is 100%.

as for people telling what to do or, not to do; well... in my experence in life. i have learned it is best to take most people with just a grain of salt.
there are a few people i listen to that, i have learned over time give sound suggestions over and over again.

it is your discision to do what seems is best for you in the long term.

 

I'm sure there's much research that would claim the opposite. Though, you can get a reversal, so to me it sounds like the lazy mans choice of contraceptive.

 

NO Not the nuts!

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your decision though.

 

I had one when I was 30 I guess, but in my case I had 3 daughters with a 4th on the way. The 4th daughter being my wife's idea that lets try, it could be the boy you always wanted. I got it done right after I found out the new baby was going to be a girl,

I didn't have to shave anything and they never did give me the promised zanex. The numbing shoot was kind of like a couple of bee stings. and I really didn't feel anything until he was doing something with the tube and it was like someone smashed me with a jack hammer, he gave me another shoot but the damage was done. I can tell you I wouldn't do it again, so it's good it took the first time.

EDIT: I forgot to include this last night, the whole thing freaked me out so much that I passed out in the bathroom at the doctors office after the whole thing was done. Anything that involves putting me in stir-ups and the doctor coming at me with a big ass syringe is not good.

 

If you think adoption is a "social service," you certainly shouldn't have ANY children. Adoption is about having a family. It isn't about being a saint, and if you think you're a real champ by taking in "a little urchin," you're delusional. Children deserve to be with someone who wants them and doesn't view raising them as an act of charity.

Also, they're not going to give you Xanax for a vasectomy. That's an anti-anxiety drug. You seem really ill-prepared and ill-informed. I'd recommend a second doctor.

 

From what slappyman said, they do, or at least claim to. And they'll give you something like lidocane I'm sure, but there's DAMN good reason to give you a xannie of two beforehand, as any and all men should understand....

While you may be totally right on him and adoption, I think you misunderstood. It's a social service for all. It's a huge service for the person who has a child and can't or won't take care of it, it's a huge service for the child, and it's a huge service for the person who wants a child... sounds like a social service to me... The only people it's not helping (other than through gratitude) are the adoption agency. The ones who are USUALLY disrespectful and ungrateful are actully those who are adopted, who have a habit of going looking for their "real" parents, even though their biological parents DON'T want to see them and they have parents who CHOSE to take them in....

 

They're not going to give you a prescription of Xanax to take home. Because of the relatively short half-life of Xanax, I guarantee they don't. I've had a few surgeries and it's my field. The standard is an Ativan shot before surgery. I've never heard of peri-operative anti-anxiety drugs, and if a doctor told me, "I am going to give you a prescription for Xanax post-op," I'd see about getting a second doctor. The implication was that the doctor was going to give an anti-anxiety that could be used after surgery.

Some biological parents do want to see their children, and there's been much written on abusive adoptive parents. Adoptive parents who display heroic attitudes have been linked to abuse. Sometimes adoption is in the best interest of the child and the birth parents wish to place the child and the adoptive parents are great, but this simply isn't the case as often as you think.

At the end of the day, adoption is a service about money and the ones who benefit from it are adoption agencies, especially in the case of private adoptions, which make up the majority.

As far as adoptees not having the right to access their birth parents, those of us raised with our biological parents have constant access to our culture of origin, family health history, and things we take for granted every single day. Does that mean we're all selfish for wanting to know? I don't think you can judge adoptees (or adoptive parents) until you've walked in their shoes. It might be a far different fit than you imagined.

 

there is much to be said for a childless lifestyle...my brother chose this route...his marriage is great after 25 years,he has a garage full of high end toys,his home is paid off and he has never had to bring a child to youth court or the hospital.....fuck over population...i think the harley and the happy are good enough reasons to 'opt out'

i say chop chop

 

Wanting high end toys and a more free lifestyle is a perfectly valid reason. However, bullshit about not being able to bear the thought of bringing a new life into this world sounds just like bullshit. There is nothing wrong with being selfish, for Christ's sake.

 

It depends on why you are making the decision and what it means to you... Six months after my daughter was born, I had a vasectomy. I don't regret it for a second, however, I did make sure I had a child first.

As for shaving your balls... it isn't hard... pull the skin so its tight (non wrinkly) and make sure you only pull the razor in the direction it is supposed to go... and use shaving cream or lather...

 

Just to clarify, doctor was going to give me a xanex or something before the procedure, that never happened. I think he did prescribe something for pain afterwards. Mostly I just spent the next two days rotating bags of frozen peas between my legs. Had it done on a Friday went back to work Monday but I was a die setter in an injecton molding plant and the first tug of that wrench was my last for the day. Went back Tuesday and was ok.

Personally I think your reasoning for not wanting kids is BS. I didn't want kids for a different reason and the first just kind of happened, but from the moment they put her in my arms, my whole outlook changed.

 

qft

It really does define who a person is.

 

That's all well and good, but the OP did specify it was prior to the procedure. Which I can sure as hell understand, if I were to ever get this done, I would want as many drugs in me as possible.

While there are certainly many people unfit to adopt a child, and surely many adopt for the "wrong" reason, adoptive parents would be no more inclined towards abusive behavior than biological ones. Some people are assholes, that's all. Those people would probably abuse their kid whether it was their own or adopted. At the end of the day, our species' ability to care for the offspring of others is one of those things that sets us apart from other animals, and people who are unable to have children of their own can often provide a better environment and upbringing for a child than, say, the junkie or teenager who spawned it.

In response to the OP, why must you get a vasectomy? Why not just use birth control? Don't get me wrong, if you were to get one, you probably would be doing the world a favor. Some of you might think his point of overpopulation is bullshit, but chances are good his genetic material isn't really worth passing on any way, and honestly, we don't need to insist that everyone has kids - while we might not yet be at the point of overpopulation, there are certainly enough people in the world.

 

I can't believe how closed minded people are to the thought. Geez, you are choosing a childless lifestyle for yourself, not for them.

I understand what you mean about adoption being a social service and don't think that means you'd be a bad adoptive parent or that it would dictate how you raise a child.

I am a young male who is about to get the snip for similiar reasons. Primarily, my wife and I have chosen to be childless. It's a personal choice. We were using birth control pills until she developed another condition that makes birth control pills very dangerous for her. We are using condoms, but they are not as effective as a vasectomy.

In light of our disinterest in raising children, my wife's inability to use hormonal contraceptives, and the fact that using condoms for the rest of our lives would likely lead to pregnancy, having a vasectomy is the responsible thing for our relationship and sexual health.

More power to you

 

Yeah. You should have had an injection of something for anxiety. I'm really sorry.

 

Actually, many animal species do this.

I don't know why people keep going on about anxiety shots and such...

You get up on a table, they give you a shot of freezing in the sack, chit chat for a minute or so, duck under the sheet for 5 minutes, of which you feel nothing besides movement, and they are done...

The worst part of it is just the discomfort for the first couple of days.... try to avoid people who make you laugh, oh and try not to cough... besides that, its not a big deal.