If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best

...even if you are cheating manipulative user when your bad?

 

Did someone say girl trouble? Been there done that


Hotwater

 

It was just something Caitlin wrote in her facebook status.
I was wondering if it made a whole lot of sense but didn't want to start a debate with her as as she has just split up with her b/f and doesn't need me winding her up saying things like: Your status has flaws in it's argument.
I must add the above "even if" wasn't about her.
It was about how I perceive somebody.
I was wondering if I should be her friend even if I think she is cheating manipulative user.

 

that is awesome. ultimate honest best friend love the shit out of my say too much よけい shit.

after that we are good man! communication forward!


*if you think she is a manupulitive user, challenge that shit to see how much niceness and realness she has inside her. My "at worst," I talk too much, wanna learn about you too much, wanna share bout me too much, annoying behavior I suppose, but best intentions at best. But that's the dumb shit I fall in love with, so the thread title alone I feel is good love and wisdom.

 

The fact that you ask yourself the question is probably a good sign that you shouldn't, or subconsciously don't want to be.

 

I should probably add she acts like this when she has been drinking.
She apologies for her behaviour in the morning and makes excuses about what she has said and done.
E.g: Inviting an ex around her house after losing her b/f in town and telling her ex she loves him while at the same time talking to her b/f on the phone telling him the same thing.
She claimed she was just drunk and wanted to get some free drinks and a taxi ride out of her ex (so told him what he wanted to hear).
Now, I can believe people say things when they are drunk that they do not mean.
You have to have your head screwed on (soberish) to keep track of what you are saying with things like that, though.
Plus, she never seems THAT pissed.
I just have a feeling she is less subtle when she is a bit drunk.

 

True.

 

I got drunk once and said some dirty things on her page and she barred me from posting altogether, even though I apologised. So I then decided to go back to my previous status where I kept hipforums and my real friends facebook world separate, so I kicked everyone from HF off and sent them a polite note explaining why I had done this, because I could not be trusted not to post dirty messages when I am drunk. I only had two HF friends on there anyway. I have recently broken that system again and started to allow HF friends on there again, particularly if they are young females. I have learned from my previous mistakes and now I use a beer filter whenever I am on facebook and I am drinking.

 

Well it’s good to have a wide variety of friends and you never really know when a conniving manipulative bitch could come in handy :2thumbsup:


Hotwater

 

Oh wow, she's one of those women. Stay the hell away from her. Seriously. They're emotional and intellectual dynamite, and not in the Nietzsche context...well, along similar lines.

I can think of at least 5 popular words for that kind of woman.

 

lol fuck that.

people when drunk are their most honest. I never understood why people dismiss drunk behavior -- if anything, they should light it up and see what's really going on.

It's possible she still is a good person, as I believe all/almost all are, but the fact the next day she wants to cover up her shit rather than maybe be embarrassed and make excuses for her drunkenness "reaching out of love" (for her ex, maybe her bf), and loving of ppl (shit I would do), tells me she is still to obssessed with protecting dumb images.

Alcohol brings out the truth in real ppl, maign.

:"Oops, I told you I love you too much last night" -- good drunk person
"I meant none of that. I am really this 'controlled, cooled, self-projection lie-of-an-ass person. You believe me?" -- not their yet person.


My opinon.

 

I don't think you are two faced, though.
I know you have a bit of a dirty mouth/mind even when sober.
I can understand Caitlin not wanting some guy only she really knows posting inappropriate comments on her page.
I doubt she would have cared if you said the same things to her here.

This woman does a complete 180 when drunk.

 

i would totally give her some drinks and a ride home...she can chat on the phone with her boyfriend while i am banging her,,i dont have a problem with that

 

I'm not. I just talk a great deal of shite. She sort of over reacted I think,and I don't like being censored. It's no big deal. I was going to poke her on xmas day but it looks like she has blocked me altogether now, I don't know why.

She was talking about the sex and the city film a lot and i posted that dulcese parody advert to her page, you know the one that is a pardoy of SATC but it's about women having toilet problems LOL it's funny! She deleted that, anyway it's no big deal, I am still friends with her but I don't know why she blocked me. Tell her I want my engagement ring back if you see her.

 

To a certain degree.
She never really wants talk about it the next day.
She doesn't play games with me while drunk...

I do think she is a nice person on the whole.
She has had some issues with men...I'm not 100% sure what.
But she is self-aware of her behaviour (and her man issues) and claims she is embarrassed...
...but then does the same thing over and over again.
It's come to a crunch point now because I have seen her at her best and worst and she knows I'm not falling for her excuses anymore.
The thing is, it isn't affecting me in any way aside from having to listen to it.
She isn't being this way with me, and seems fairly genuine with me.
I just don't think it fair on others and do I really want a friend like that.

 

I think I remember her talking about the film in question.
Perhaps she did over-react...but I think she prefers her page to be fairly conservative.

Will that go down well?

 

Well I didn't actually give her one.. I mean an engagement ring that is.

It will either go down humorously as intended, or not.

 

dont bring your facebook drama here bitches

 

No dramaz Brah. We is just tockin

 

I guess at some point you have to decide why you are in the friendship in the first place. If you like her, think she is -for the most part- a genuine person, and you like her for who she is, why not have one more friend? even if you dont hang with her ALLLL the time, everyone needs people in their life who accept them. Maybe you could be that person to her. Especially if you care for her deep down, why just ditch the friendship?

Of course you are allowed your own opinion on her behavior and have every right to tell her it worries you, just make her scarce first. No one wants to get the impression from someone they trust and respect that their actions are wrong or bad. And trust me, she probably already knows.

Friendship= okay (unless it bothers you so much you cant stand looking at her anymore

I just hope you never fall for her! haha