Why Should I Bother Anymore...

Sorry if I come off ranting but I got to express my feelings somewhere to please bear with me. :2thumbsup:



So I have this friend who I enjoy hanging out with whenever possible mostly because he is a really cool guy to be around and almost every time I hang out over at his place its always a crazy night.

We have been friends for a very long time and I always thought that he liked to have me around to. I'd always set some of my stash of different things aside for when we planned on hanging out.


Well now lately he says we should hang out whenever I see him at a party or whatever because he is rarely in town with his new job.

I tried to get together with him at least 5 times this holiday every time him saying he had something coming up and that we should hang out the next day. Well now I am getting sick of going out of my way to call him up only for him to tell me he has something to do. Now he is about to go back out of town and he just blew me off again on the final day we can hang out.

I just truly don't get it... I'm the one to call him up, give him a way to easily meet up with me and have shit for us to do, Yet he still blows me off. Now i'm just saying fuck it and he can do everything.

If he doesn't like me or something I don't understand why he wont just tell me that straight up instead of constantly getting my hopes up only to let me down the next day.

 

Sometimes it's best to just quietly back away. he has other priorities and pressing the issue is likely to cause problems. Find other friends and things to do... when he is ready to hang out with you he'll let you know.

 

I had friends just like that. It's not worth it.

 

His loss buddy, friends come and go, what can you do :sunny:

 

find some new ones

 

yup pretty much! OP just got to now look for new drinking buddies...:sunny:

 

I have been in a position of having moved away from my home town and coming back for visits. Sometimes it is almost impossible to see everyone in a single visit and at times it can be a little stressful as you try to but can not make enough time. You also know that even with the best of intentions sometimes you hurt someone because time is too short.

Maybe that is the case with your friend on this visit. Being the holiday season does not help as often there is so much family time to also be considered.

Hope for the best and maybe the next visit will be one where you have some time together.

 

Some people do change with age. I had a good friend for many many years one day just change entirely. I don't believe i did anything at all but it was like WTF? Anyways i don't think ill ever see him again and i could careless.

If someone doesn't treat you like a true friend forget them, its not worth your time. I've heard lots of stories where people fight and fight and fight to remain friends but it always makes the current situation worse. =/

 

Maybe he just doesn't want to hang out with you. People change and interests change. And sometimes it's just a bad time. My friend came home to visit for an early Christmas, but she came on the same week that I had a very busy work schedule, and the only two days I had off, I was going to be out of town. I had to gently let her down. It just was a case of unfortunate timing. Same with a friend who visited last week, there was just too much going on. Lately it's just a lot easier to try to maintain friendships through Facebook. We all grew up and life got in the way

 

Fb is artificial for thats why I dont have one. Its nice to keep in touch but for me it by having the person phone # that matter more to me. I also feel you cant mature when you have FB and loses that whole thing with the feelings that come with high reunions....I mean whats that fun in going to one if you had that person on your FB and can see them also everyday.

 

he sounds like me. i'm rather introverted, and i have a lot going on lately, so when i do have a little free time the last thing i want to do is spend it with people. it's hard though, because i have to keep turning people down even though i like them, and it makes me feel like kind of a dick.

maybe he's similar.

you want to go streaking together? i'm in!

 

Artificial is kind of a lame way of describing keeping up with friendships through Facebook. Most of my friends live forever and a day away and the only phone I have is pretty much for emergencies and brief conversations only. I'm like undies, though, I'm just a very introverted person, and a lot of my friends have changed and so have I, but very few of them have changed in ways that fit my lifestyle, so it's just easier to keep in touch on there. And fuck fuck FUCK high school reunions, I won't ever step foot in one. A big convention so everyone can play the better than you because ____ card? Yeah, I don't think so. And I also don't buy the friendships don't "mature" because of Facebook either, the very closest and best friendship I've ever had grew after she moved away and we kept in touch mainly through messengers and MySpace. It may not work for you, but it does work for some people and that makes it far from "artificial."