The effect of weed on behaviour and relationships

Its not just weed, everything effects everybody in its own way. As many people have already said, I know people (myself included) who smoke daily, and are in post secondary education with far reaching aspirations and good grades. I also know people who do nothing but sit at home or other peoples homes and smoke. Everyone is untitled to a treat in their lives, but it sounds like this guy can not handle life under this medium. Clearly he has reasons for using the way he does, so either he needs to change the frequency of use, or change the medium. If you have hope to be together then he will need to control his drugs in an acceptable way rather then making using priority number 1. A joint after a days work is just like a few beers while watching the game, no harm no foul. However many people do not see how sitting around all day burning and doing nothing of any productive value is the same behavioral patterns as waking up and having a few shots just to feel "normal"

Looks to me like you gave him that second chance, gave him the opportunity and emotional connection needed to come back in to your life. You had bottom lines that simply needed to happen. He messed up the first time, you left, he says hes changed, you go back, held your bottom lines, turns out nothings changed, so you left again. I say you did the right thing and should probably move on, until at least he can show solid evidence of getting his life back in order, its not your job to fix it for him.

 

to smoke everyday but make an eighth last 6 months? maybe an eighth of a pound

 

I once knew this chick that thought her old man had a weed smoking problem. She was a controlling bitch anyways, Nicknamed "fatburger" she was kinda big but not really fat.

anyhooo.. I knew my friend for a long time and know exactly how he smoked marijuana ,, and his habits wouldnt get a tree squirrel high.

That dude took 2 hits and was done. he got lost hunting with me in his own woods".. if anyone had the problem it was her, even if he didnt smoke weed. She didnt want him with his friends "fishing and hunting" in my opinion she cut off his nuts.."

 

Eighth of a pound makes more sense, for sure, or a kilo.

I smoke daily and an ounce lasts me the better part of three months - less, if I'm sharing a fair bit.

 

In 1986, when I relocated to my current state among the entirety of my worldly possessions (which fit in a '75 Chevy Caprice Estate wagon) was an eighth I purchased just before leaving... lived with a relative who didn't smoke for seven months... kept a three or four hit bowl in my car as well as the eighth and basically took one hit before bedtime and nothing more during this time... nice little buzz and a good way to wrap up a busy day. The bag lasted all but the last couple weeks before I got my own place and- after locating a new source through a co-worker... you can guess how that new apartment was broken in! :sifone:.

Had I been permitted to smoke in the relative's place that eighth would have been history within a week or two.

 

I could see a well weighed out 1/8 of some fire bud. Person with low tolerance maybe even having it longer... To return to my last comment, my friend would have marijuana on him from the previous year deer hunting.. Idk you could always depend on him having a little bit of bud some where in storage.. ;p

 

OK here's how it works. I buy an eighth. The last one I got was G13. One of my clients gave me some OG Kush. After I'm done with work I'll have a toke form the bubbler with a tall boy of something fairly hoppy with a nice % of alcohol. Then maybe I'll have another toke and watch a movie. I'll have a nice buzz going and not have smoked myself retarded. I hate that feeling.

That is the only time in a day that I smoke. I don't go wake and bake to Crash and Burn while smoking constantly. That is how an eighth lasts me 6 months.

And in the name of full disclosure I'm writing this on 4 White Russians and a quarter of a pot brownie.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

I think he's developed a psychological dependency on the drug, like you said, it's his way to cope with whatever problems he has with life. He needs therapy or some soul searching to find out what he's trying to cope with, before he stops being this lethargic, lump of a person. If not, then he's going to either a) continue on this self-destructive path, or b) quit smoking weed and move onto something that may or may not be more physically harmful, like alcohol or hard drugs.

Remember guys, though pot may not be inherently physiologically addictive, anything can be the object of a pyschological addiction. He needs help to deal with whatever tendencies are causing him to rely on the weed.

 

If it took my girlfriend that long to explain a simple question I'd probably stay ripped all the time too.

 

i still find it hard to believe that a daily smoker could get a buzz from 20 mg of weed. that's 3.5 grams divided by 180 days...rounded up. you can really make a gram last 50 days?! take a tenth of a gram, 0.1 (which is less than a hit for me), and get high from it five separate times?

in the name of full disclosure i sit here after having wake and baked two bong hits.

funny. not nice

 

You have me trying to remember back to how I made the small amount stretch so long... I may have skipped some days but I never scored anything new until I got my own place... until I moved the only thing I had to get for smoking was a replacement lighter after I left a Bic on the dashboard and the summer sun did its thing. The weed itself dwindled very slowly... I did not share with anyone in large part because I wasn't all that anxious to make too many contacts until after I had my own place. I never got "baked" during this time but enjoyed a modest buzz regularly from what was purchased as an eighth from a regular dealer... who I always smoked out when I got anything... so the amount may have been generous too... never double checked that either. He was known for rewarding regulars who shared... but I very highly doubt he put in any more than a gram or so extra. There are a lot of variables when I think back that make me less and less comfortable contradicting you... doubt what is being posted if you like- that is your prerogative and makes no difference to me whether you believe or not.

I think in relation to the OP... it's very possible to carefully measure how much you smoke if you have the motivation to do so... and make even a relatively small amount last a while. The dude isn't going to value anything more than his pot smoking until he is ready to... and I wouldn't take seriously any verbal commitment he makes about not smoking until he has actually stopped for an extended period of time with no concrete plan to restart.

 

I cant imagine making that little last so long. Unless I bought it, waiting a few months, then smoked it.

 

As somebody has already posted - it is compulsive behaviour.

I have been smoking weed since 15 mostly daily till now - I'm 59, though I have had some breaks occasionally. I have almost never been heavy and mostly smoke in the evenings - as you say - a recreational habit. I enjoy it and find it enhances many of my pleasures.

I have rarely sat around and smoked it all day - I knew many friends who did (some of them ex-friends) - I always prefered to 'get-on'with the day.'

It definitely is the cause of his current behaviour, but that said, the attitude lies in his psyche. If it wasn't dope then it would be something else.

I think as a starter he should voluntarily have a break, maybe one - three months, without replacing it with something else as an alternative. I'm sure he can continue to smoke in moderation after such a break. But what will motivate him to go along with it only you can know, and he has to want to do it, and to do it voluntarily - it's no good if you have to police it.

Only working from your description I don't feel I can offer more advice except that any future with the two of you should have some goal you both wish to achieve - some aims/picture of where you are going and what you want to achieve. It's mayne a bit like advertsiing - people want to be shown what they're going to get/benefit if they buy the product.

Good luck,

Simon

 

So, you are suggesting she wastes more of her life on the chance it may help her EX boyfriend? That maybe if she tries harder, he may see the point she tried to make long ago?

Really?

 

Again I have to reiterate that I only have a couple of tokes a day with a decent beer. Beer has Hops in it which is also a natural source of THC and close enough to Cannabis that you can graft plants from one onto another. I realize that it is very little THC but it ads up. On top of that weed and alcohol have a tendency to amplify each others effects. Usually if I have a couple of tokes with something like Arrogant Bastard ale which has a 7 or 8 percent alcohol content by volume. Usually I'll luck into a bud or something during the 6 months between eighths. For example a couple of months ago someone gave me a joint on the train because they couldn't get on a plane with it. That lasted me about a week. I ran into another guy a short while later who gave me some cookies and a bite of rice crispy treats. I also had a co worker give me a pot brownie that will probably last me about 4 days. But like I said I only have a couple of tokes a day not enough to make me stupid but enough to buzz me. I can still have conversations and follow movies. I don't think this makes me any better or worse than anybody else it is simply my preference.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

i wish i could make an eighth last a month even. one of good weed will last me about 5 days. but i haven't smoked myself stupid.

 

Well that's up to her - as she states it he seems a real waster but if she loves him and thinks it's mutual and wants to try again..............

Simon

 

Haha, perfect example of weed thinking-we start on the OP, ex boyfriend smokes to much, girlfriend loves him, blah blah blah, and then we move on to how much weed we all smoke per hour and then....... I needed a bite to eat........oops there's a devilled egg sandwich with my name on it

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zkU2iyL9Kw"]YouTube - Weed Rant for all my People.
here he goes another cannabis rant..

 

I get the oddest feeling that you are him, or a very similar person.

Why else would you suggest someone return to someone they already dumped, and try to change them?

The guy is a useless putz who has made his own decisions that in no way shape or form indicate he even likes her let alone loves her.

Her best bet is to keep walking away and find someone that she doesnt have to "make' like and respect her...

That is NOT what relationships are about.