My sister (no I don't want to fuck her, you weirdos!)

Didn't really know where to put this question. Sure I’m going to get the usual smart-arse, insensitive responses. And a cynical response from crueluserboy. But I’ll put up with that.


Guys, do shy girls put you off? My sister is incredibly beautiful. But she was picked on in high school by other girls (I honestly think because the bitches were jealous) and is very shy and awkward. She has no idea she is beautiful but she truly is. Guys stare at her when we are out. They have followed her and asked her out. She did modelling with me in Japan. Part of the reason she doesn’t realise she is beautiful is her complete lack of self-esteem. She is also of the most caring, aware and funny people I know, but she takes time to get to know. She is 27 and has only just met her first boyfriend who, unfortunately, is a dick. But that's another story.

So, my question is; is a beautiful, shy, awkward girl someone you guys are just not interested in? Is it the blonde, loud-mouthed dumbass girls that get your attention? Because you have to work to talk to her is she not worth talking to? Do you see girls like that as ice queens or do you realise she is just shy? What tips can you give me on how to help her be more socially interactive with guys but with still being herself.. A lot to ask I know.

 

I dont think I can give you any tips. I'm always fighting a losing battle when it comes to helping a women friend get over her self esteem issues.

But, I can tell you that personally, I dig shy awkward girls, partly because I am usually the same way, and if another person is just as awkward as I am, I can be myself without worrying about it. Although, however beautiful she is would really make not that much of a difference to me.

It's too bad she's dating a dick.

 

You couldn't help yourself, could you?? You were doing so well 'til that last comment. Yeah, I don't set her up, I know that is not on. Even posting this question is a bit lame, I know. She does say she doesn't know HOW to be herself, sometimes. I am the louder one of the 3 of we girls. My youngest sister is the cute one. She is the quiet one. She has been labelled that and doesn't know how to break that mould. She doesn't know where she fits in she says. But that is another issue.

Pizzicatofive, that's part of what I wanted to know, if it matters that she is beautiful. In a way that seems to be her problem. If a guy does approach her, she is awkward and embarrassed and they seem to read it as aloof. She just doesn't know how to appear interested without seeming awkward or over-the-top or what.

Here in Australia the way to meet people is at the pub, but that seems to attract the loud-mouth male types, whom she isn't in to. I don't know exactly what my question is anymore, I am just curious for input from males and females with anything interesting to suggest/say.

 

She is brunette. You git. It isn't stupid if they are shy because of low self-esteem. It has nothing to do with how they look, does it? Beautiful girls can still be shy.

 

What if she's just picky (while still being shy)?

 

Yes, Australia is a culture that likes the over the top, but that just isn't her. Australian guys seem to prefer the louder girls so where does leave someone like my sister? If she isn't loud, I think they secretly dismiss her as unfriendly and an ice-queen. How can she maintain being herself which isn't really loud but also appear friendly (which she actually is when you get to know her). Do you view girls like that as unfriendly or do you see them as shy?

 

It is true that males shy away from the quiet shy girls. Im a shy person to start off with and thats what has limited myself to being outthere and getting a guy. Thee r guys out there that give shy girls a chance but mayorly of them are too shy to approach the quiet ones.

 

Never a truer word spoken on this subject i too am an Aussie male 32 y o and im not the type to just walk up and talk to a girl i guess its hard whichever side you look at it from guy or Girl

cheers Rob

 

I feel for you. I do. It is hard for someone like my sister, or you, to interact with the opposite sex apart from the odd obnoxious guy at the pub it seems.

 

Is that the only place you meet guys in the pub ? I guess thats why im single still since ive only been to a pub 3 or 4 times in my life

cheers Rob

 

No. Not the only place.

 

I don't know I always liked the shy type. You never know with them. Most of the time when you get to know them you can be surprised by how they really are inside.

Peace

 

I don't know if this will help but I can tell you how it is where I live....A lot of it depends on the stereotypical social class and obviously looks.....I'm not saying this how all woman are but how a lot woman are where I am from if your not in an upper social class or this guy that just fell out underwear magazine they won't even talk to you.....Everyone knows the saying if its too good to be true it probably is...well apply that to trying to pick up a woman when a guy sees a woman that is incredible beautiful and the typical 1st thought is a negative cogitation....."She's def out of my league" when the guy does get the courage to start a conversation he's shut right down (I've watched a lot of friends go through it) So that becomes discouraging so if your sister is gorgeous like you describe its almost like she has a bullseye on her forehead....because the stereotype is that she is a stuck up girl...high maintenance.....out of my league....so the average guy won't approach her to find out that she really is a down to earth/shy kinda girl.....so the upper class (cocksucker) thats full of himself will approach her and he ends up being the asshole b/f.....now I don't know if that is her exact situation but that is kind of how society works...why do celebrities mostly date celebrities?

So I would work on the self-esteem to be a little bit more open/flirtatious during conversation..... HOWEVER be strong on your values and beliefs and that will ultimately reflect on the type of person you are and how "you represent yourself" which will attract guy of similar quality......if you act sleezy thats what your gonna get and if you act like you are better than everyone else thats the kinda guy your gonna get..

I hope that makes sense to you

 

hey Angelina if your sister and I ever meet I'll make her feel like a goddess... I promise!

I like shy girls a lot. I'm also a sucker for brunettes. has she ever lived on her own? you know like had to make her own way in the world at all? that helped me personally a lot. I'm an only child though so I kind of got used to finding my own way.

I'm sure she'll be fine she's just finding her way. if you're the louder older sister maybe she just needs to get her own feel for things. maybe she's used to finding her way through you? I don't really know the situation that well, obviously, but honestly I wouldn't worry about her. I'm sure there are plenty of people in oz who are capable of seeing her beauty, beneath the skin as well!, for what it is.

and you used git in a sentence, that's just cool.

 

well shy girls are more mysterious, which doesn't mean that if you get to know them they are more interesting, but definitely makes it more interesting to find out what is her personality

 

I know how to turn a shy girl into a full smiled face with devils eyes
I've done it to some of the girls i've been with, i've made them raise their self esteem to a level they dumped me! how stupid of me to repeat the same mistake

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

Put any girl who looks fine but who has low self esteem in my shoes for a few hours, then they'd really know what it's like to be ugly, and totally unattractive to the opposite sex, and they'd be instantly cured! Some people dont realise how lucky they are.

 

^ chill man every one is beuitfull, if no one else loves u i still will,

Hugs and happynes .. Jo

 

You sweet man, white dove, but surely the secret is to learn to love yourself and then who gives a fuck what others think! seriously, I know a lot of people who are not classically good-looking but they give off an aura that makes them attractive.