Consolidating religious vs. sexual issues (advice)

So, I am more just curious what other people have to say. I am 24 and an observant Jew (not like crazy orthodox or anything, I wear pants, and whatever) and while I have come terms with my sexuality for some time now, it always seems to be running head on into my religious views. I am fortunate enough to have good friends with whom I am out and they too are also observant (modern orthodox and the like) and are extremely supportive of me. (My best friends want to set me up a "shidduch" - they want to play matchmaker - but how they'll find a girl for me is beyond me). It's very important for me to meet someone of similar religious beliefs because it is a very important part of me life. The problem is that many people in the gay and lesbian community find themselves (including myself at times) estranged from their religious communities and therefore often avoid them to the point of being somewhat or completely secular. I completely understand this, but it makes it very difficult for me to meet someone. To make things even more complicated, I live in Israel. While there is a gay community, the extremes are even more noticeable here at times.
One of my good friends thinks I should move back to the States to find someone. That the odds of me meeting a woman of similar religious and intellectual background may go up over there because there is more outreach and support in the gay religious community there. The problem is that Israel is very much my home, and I don't know how much I am willing to risk on the *possibility* that I *might* find someone, and even then I'd have to convince her to come back to Israel.

I was just wondering if other people may have had similar experiences (not specifically Jewish) and how you came to terms with it. Or if you just want to share your thoughts, those are also welcome.
Thanks.

 

perhaps this is evidence that religious views that condemn a sexual orientation are probably not the best views to adhere to.

 

I just came from a place with a large gay/Jewish population (Palm Springs, CA). It could help to live somewhere like that if it's worth it for you.

 

Okay, well... as for the first comment. That's the same attitude that I am talking about. Why should I compromise my religious views if (a) I even have friends within the observant community who support me, and (b) I am sorry to say that I find that it's people who do the condemning not the religion. But the same attitudes come from the secular camps. People who are secular don't always understand the need to stay religious, especially if they have been burned before, and I understand that. As for Monkey Boy, that's very interesting to know. I'll keep that in mind.

 

lmao ok,my point is that you either have to compromise who you are at the core, or you have to compromise your religious beliefs.
any religious belief that condems a basic human need doesn't seem like the truth.