Virgo girl asks what's wrong with Cancer man?

Hi all,
New person here. I know you probably have had thousands of posts like this but I really need your help. I think this Cancer guy may have a thing for me but, who knows (first experience with one), this guy is quite confusing. I'm a pretty typical virgal by the way. Very shy, haven't had many relationships, quite aloof, can come off cold etc. I feel in my gut like he may like me but I could be wrong so...
how do you know? What will he do? True love vs. the mind games he is known for? Is playing mind games his way of testing you? What's the fundamental difference between knowing that he truly likes/loves you and is not just toying with you
Some of the things that made me think he may like me are:
flirting w/ me (at the beginning, he doesn't really flirt with me anymore) teasing me, improving his appearance, laughing at my un-funny jokes, getting jealous when I talk to some of his other male friends, compliments me, gets really nervous around me, finds reasons to come around me when he doesn't have to, doesn't really make eye contact etc.
I'm pretty new at this and this is my first time having an experience with a Cancer man. Don't want to make a fool of myself and I admit that I have blown hot and cold on him many times and I virtually never talk to him about anything besides work even when he tries to start a conversation with me (because he makes me so nervous!)
I do like him and perhaps he can tell (intuition) and is just playing me? He's quite flirtatious with other girls and I noticed he has simmered down with me in that area (I never flirted back!). I've heard Cancer men can be some of the biggest players so I just don't know. Some days I feel like he can't stand me and I just annoy him. When I feel like this, I ignore him and leave him be but he always manages to come back around.
So confused and don't know what to do. Don't want to make a wrong move and get my heart broken. Some guys like a challenge and maybe that's all I am to him.
Heard this is a good pairing btw. Any help would be appreciated.

 

First of all I'm guessing you are talking about your Sun Signs. Sun Signs are not the part of us that falls in love, its the Traits from our Rising Sign that likes and loves another Rising Sign. Without knowing all 3 Signs for both of you (Rising, Moon & Sun Signs), any help would be just speculation. Getting charts done free online for both will help to see how u two might fit together.

 

Cancers like to be needed and can't stand to be ignored. Cancer + aloof = 0.

 

thedopes right. I was cancer(until yesterday). We havvvve to be needed. I had one girlfriend that needed me, which was a pretty good relationship, the other was cold and distant. dont be cold and distant to a cancer

 

Well I'm a Capricorn, which isn't too different from Virgo, and am dating a Cancer. When I first met him he was rather straight forward and friendly. He can be stubborn at times and somewhat emotional. I can always tell even though he tries to hide it. If there's a problem you can't just shut down and keep to yourself. Show them how you feel even though it might seems difficult or unnatural to you. I'm grateful for the relationship because it has taught me to be more open about my emotions and showing affection. From the sound of it, it seems like he has a little crush on you. I've noticed that Cancers seem to have these mood swings. It could just be his personal life affecting it and you're maybe doing the right thing by letting him be. Then again you always want to make sure they're ok.

Idk about the player thing but that can always fall back into them having to be needed, so they leave their options open when not settled down? Then again who doesn't. Perhaps he keeps coming back to you because he wants to figure you out and finds you rather mysterious. I would give it a shot and try being more open with him even if it's just by flirting back. It'll show that you care and maybe he'll start gravitating towards you a little more. Beat of luck!

 

Thanks so much for all of your help guys. This really is wonderful and fuzz_acid_flowers, I will take your advice.


Best,