So my girlfriend and I don't have sex very often. I'm not complaining because when we do its amazing. But she use to date this guy who would pretty much force her to having foreplay and sex. Now she associates sex with fear, every time I try to get in her pants she denies me because she get scared. I don't know how to help get over this. Any ideas?
Iunno. Instead of going all out... maybe take it reeeeeal slow. Try massaging her breastplate between her breasts.
Maybe do some really romantic things to show its more than just sex. Light candles, give her a massage first, tell her how much she means to you etc. And then hopefully it'll just happen after that.
She'll have to overcome this on her own time. However, there are things you can do to help her. Just show her you love her, and don't push the issue. Others have mentioned being romantic, and that's great, but don't assume it will lead anywhere. Has she gotten professional help to overcome this? Therapy does wonders for these situations. Good luck to you both!
