Hey guys, looking for your comments on this one: My wife and I have been in a 3-way relationship with anothert bi-guy since last September. When we meet we have good sex and interact fully with oral and anal etc. Until two weeks ago we have always met together - I should add that since we have teenage kids our meetings almost always have to be at his place - but about 2 weeks ago my wife went to a rock concert with him (I've moved on from heavy rock) and then stayed the night at his place during which they fucked. While I would rather be there to take part I have no problem with them meeting up and spending time together - in any three everyone has to respect all our rights. However while both my wife and I have both made suggestions and dropped hints about me and him meeting up together alone sometime (when we meet he is generally voracious for my body and almost chokes himself over my cock) but he always refuses. Since he is so unrelaxed about our sex - except when in bed - I have been getting a bit fed up and so wrote him a provocative email; I find it a bit insulting that he is prepared to meet my wife alone but not me. For instance the three of us spent a night together and he fucked me and we did 69 etc. and played with my wife, and lots more, but in the morning I was not allowed totouch him, not even to stroke his back. I can't help but feel rejected if I'm only of interest when he feels like it. I object that in a three-way relationship sex is reserved only for bed-time and there is never any variation on this; that we have to fit in totally with what his needs are but whenever I push him and make a query he treats it as a personal attack. His response to my email - his reply - and my further provocative response - was to say that he was 'hissing' and really angry that I questioned him. You can guess that since I decided to be provocative I am prepared to see the end of this relationship - which is a pity since my wife has some emotional sympathy with him and I like his body - but at the end of the day I have started to feel like a prostitute since he appears to only want me for intensive sex when he feels like it and with my wife present - as chaperone? This is also our first threesum and it may not be so easy to find another bi-male who is genuine and either monogamous with us or out to his wife. Do people feel that I'm being unreasonable - I did offer him that I was prepared to be his fuck-buddy/unpaid call-boy but that he must make it clear to us that that was what he wanted and adjust our relationship accordingly? Simon
Well, It sounds to me like this guy isn't all that into men, or he hasn't explored them much? Do you now much about his previous partner(s)? if there were any? Maybe he also enjoys your wife just for the easy fuck, i say easy because its not that serious of a relationship where as your marriage, is well more complicated / serious. Not easy as she is an easy lay, and you said something about her becoming emotionally sympathetic towards him, how so? and do you think their attached in some way and this email / possible relationship termination with this guy would cause problems for you and your wife? Maybe he had more intentions of being with your wife more so than you? Just some things.
Thanks for your input Glowstick - I reckon actually that he is maybe gay in denial. He was married for the last 12 years but his wife left him and he has been in psychiatric care for depressions until last May. As said when we are all together he just ravishes me - so I don't think that he is not into men - just been closeted I think tho he admits to one of two anonomous m2m liasons. I think with my wife, as with many women, they need to establish some emotional feelings with someone before hopping into bed with them. Us men do not have such a need - but I do feel the need to be on some wavelength with someone I am going to be intimate with. Simon
