Only have had sex twice

I had only had sex a few times at your age. I think the nice guy thing was my problem too, I felt like if i went further than a woman was ready for she would be extremely pissed off. Turns out that if you go slow and pay attention to if there warming up to you or getting uncomfortable, almost no woman holds it against you if you stop at the point where she starts to seem uncomfortable. Sure if you were to ignore that to the point where she had to tell you to stop maybe. The awesome thing is that most of the time it goes as far as you want and she just keeps getting more into it, and that's probably the most awesome feeling in life. And if she does start to shrug you off, hey at least you got to feel a boob or however far you got. And she'll like you for not pushing too far, you'll probably get there soon.

 

If you don't have more sex (and soon!), your dick will probably shrivel up and fall off. Sorry .

No but really, there is no "right" time to have sex, and there is no "right" amount of times to have had sex by a certain age. Don't worry about it.

 

I wouldn't worry about this. Every woman is different which means that whether you've been with 1 woman or 100, you're going to have to adjust your technique everytime anyways.

I will say that there are a lot of women out there, myself included, that find rugged, independent, outdoorsy men ridiculously hot. If you are ever in a place where the attractive women are more abundant, I don't think you're going to be lacking in finding a woman thats interested in you!

Don't let your lack of experience psyche you out. All you have to do is ask your partner what she likes and be sensitive to her needs. Just doing this will propel you above most of the other guys shes been with

lol..yeah...don't do this. Most porn that I've ever seen has been competely unrealistic in terms of what it takes to please a woman.

 

I agree with this, porn will give you completely wrong expectations and they do a lot of things that aren't for every girl. Not that I think you're going to call her a bitch and try shoving it in her bum suddenly without any reason to think she's ready for it. But there are several more subtle bad habits there.

 

You could always vacation in the Bunny Ranch. Hell, bring a suitcase full of wild carrots with ya.

Just joking, kiddo.

 

wedding night?

5 minutes after giving $200 to a hooker?

i'm a tad worried about his font...

 

Don't try to get laid. Works for me everytime.

Everytime I try to get laid I don't. Everytime I don't, bam. Surprise surprise

 

so the women are no good in these places - do what most of the world has always done then - check out the guys -

"the future is bi" - yaaaaaay :sunny:


Simon

 

Alright, I'm going to explain my thoughts on this.

Sex can be overrated. I'm 17 years old, & I haven't had sex yet....I used to feel bad about it, but now I don't, & the people around me that know that fact don't tease me about it or try to poke fun at me all the time because they respect me. Now, the way I look at it is that you have sex when you're ready for it, whether you're a virgin or not.

For me, except for one incident, I haven't really tried to put myself in predicaments to have sex, not because I don't feel that I'm ready, but because I haven't really wanted to. I don't think it's a necessity to have to lose your virginity by a certain age, that's ludicrous.

Truthfully, I don't find it weird you've only had sex twice at 21. But, what I will say, is that if you really want to have sex, you have to put yourself into those situations. Often times, people think sex is something that can easily happen, & they don't work to put themselves in a position to have it. If you want to have sex, you have to be social & what not, but if it doesn't really worry you that much, don't stress about it. My point here is basically if it really bothers you, & it's something you want to change, you have to be willing to work at it, but at the same time, be safe about it, don't just sex it up with anything that moves or gives you the time of day.

Life is full of choices, & it's up to you to make the decisions you're comfortable with. It's your life, live it according to your preferences, not the world's.

 

Completely true, although I DO know people who are still virgins at 40+ years. This in my view is unhealthy, sex is great. For me, I was in your boat for awhile and went through a depressive phase because I thought that me not getting laid was the same as me being gay (Took 3.5g at the peak of the depression, issue dealt with, lol ) :biker: Although, after I started having sex I realized that waiting was one of the wisest decisions I have ever made. I was with the right person (God did she turn out to be a bitch later on though ) and in the right environment.

Back in high school, I was in the play video games and not get date crowd and quite a few of my friends from then (We're juniors/seniors in college now) are still virgins. I've told them many times what you're saying right now and it seems to lessen the load for them now and again. Even though they are completely socially awkward and lame I still love them and invite them to social gatherings when I can. Don't know if it helps, but I think they appreciate it.

In a certain context. If you're getting up into your 20s and still having bad luck with it, I don't see anything wrong with that. Yet, if you're 40 and have given up completely, please go to Amsterdam and visit the red light district.

When I stressed about it and tried, nothing ever worked. When I stopped trying and went out just to have a good time and meet new people it came to me pretty easily. Same happened with LSD and MDMA... weird, huh?

All in all man. Really well said, glad we have an intelligent addition to the forums.

 

Yep. Hope to one day find a really cute one. :sad:

 

I agree. It can be overrated. And the thing is I also don't feel like I WANT to have sex all the time. Of course i do sometimes, I am a guy, but most of the time I am just out to be social.

So here's the thing with me. I am not bragging here, but I am just putting it out there so you know where I'm coming from. I am very outdoorsy, have an awesome beard, women already love me because of that. Now, at the bar scene, I am one of the guys that is the life at a party that has no party yet (if that makes sense to you). For instance, Sunday night when the Green Room (popular bar in Flagstaff, AZ) was sorta slow after the Packers won (WHHHOOAAA!!!) there was karaoke night. Well it was a regular karaoke night (no dancing) until around 11 when I finally had enough to drink and I started dancing, which in turn brought a girl and started dancing with me. Which in turn brought her two friends up. Which in turn brought more dudes up. The whole bar knew me by 2am in a very good way. I could have got laid with atleast two different chicks that night if i wanted to. But I didn't. Instead I went to a house with a few other dudes and a couple of girls who weren't down to drink anymore.

Well now I'm just rambling. BUT, what i was trying to get out is that I could get laid a lot, if, I wanted to. (and if I actually lived in Flagstaff instead of just visiting )

 

That's how I feel now. From the ages of 12-16 I used to think that sex was so important that I absolutely had to have it whenever the opportunity occurred (even though I never put myself in a REAL situation to do so). Now that I've matured, I'd just be happy having sex with someone I'm in a relationship with instead of just a random anybody. Personally, I don't want to be 20 & still be a virgin (no offense to anyone here) but at the same time, I don't stress about it or make a big deal about it.

Often times, I've found that the people who make the biggest deal about sex either aren't really having it as much as they proclaim, or they end up receiving a gift they can't return.