guy texting the girl first?

Why does it seem the guy always has to make the effort? i hear alot of girls saying its because its shows he interested and thinking about you. Alot of people say they don't like texting first because incase they annoy the guy but then isn't it the same the other way round. For example i have been texting this girl i meet and i have been the one to start the texting,don't get me wrong we have some awesome banter and fun when we text each other but it feels like i do the hard part. She did one day text me saying sorry for not replyig because she forgot abot my text the night before( Does this mean she was interested or just being nice?), we got really close when i met her but i hate being the one always to start texting first.

Any opinions?

 

throw your cell phone into loch ness and find a land line...call her up and ask her if she wants to hang out...:mickey:

 

I've fucked myself over trying not to make the first contact a few times. I been threw that rule out the window.

 

i play hard to get, i do it so well in fact most women don't know i even exist.

 

i hate that game, "i text him first yesterday, so i'll wait for him to text me first today"...its a load of bull. if she likes you she'll text you!!

 

just chop off a finger and send it to her. it's romantic.

 

If I am always the one having to call or text, then screw him, he's not worth my time!

 

i love when boys do that...

exactly!

 

I agree. The game sucks.

 

yet as a guy, he doesn't have this option, unless he wants to be alone..

 

So i should text her?

 

I think you should. But if she doesn't respond, DO NOT KEEP SENDING NEW TEXTS!

 

Nah i never do, thats the worst thing you can do is double text.

 

Maybe not the worst, but top 3.

 

what is the top 3 then?

 

Top 3 would probably vary between people. So I guess I really couldn't answer that... Due to me not being a party within your problem. And it was a literal top 3, more like I was trying to say it isn't the worst thing you can do, but is up there on bad things you can do.

 

i found this load of shite..maybe it will be helpful

The Do's and Don'ts of Texting In Relationships


Texting Don’ts

Don’t guess. If a message is cryptic or vague, wait until you’re face to face with the sender to ask what the heck they were talking about. Texts leave so much to the imagination that it’s easy to let wishful thinking or insecurity take over. When you get a message that makes no sense, respond with “What?! Let’s talk l8tr!” Then stifle your urge to analyze.
Don’t over-abbreviate. You want to be brief in a text message, but stick with terms and symbols that most people know and use. If you try to make up new texting terms on the spot, you’ll end up sending gibberish.
Don’t be a tease. Text-flirting is all fun and games—provided that you’re being honest about your feelings. Verbal flirting is such a blast that it’s easy to get carried away. Over-do the Sex & the City style banter and you run the risk raising someone’s expectations only to hurt his or her feelings or, worse, attract an unwanted admirer.
Don’t text angry. Sure, you can express general frustration with a ‘Grrrr…” or a “Humph” or an “Ugh,” but pick up the phone to hash things out. Attempt to resolve a volatile situation in 25-character bursts and you’ll create a hot mess that will be hell to clean up.
Don’t be rude or break bad news. Breaking up via text may be efficient, but it isn’t classy—and in a hyper-connected culture, a bad reputation can spread fast. Any type of textual bad behavior is likely to get around.
Texting Do’s

Do text sweet nothings. With today’s crazed schedules, it can be hard to pick up the phone or even send an email. A short text like “Hey, qt,” or “Hope ur havin a gr8 day, ” can make your significant other suddenly happier to see you when you get home. 52% of texters surveyed said they’d rather receive a “Thinking of You” message than any other kind.
Do text long-distance. According to the AT&T survey, 15% of daters in long-distance relationships send texts more often than they email or call. Texting can create a surprising sense of connection because it’s so immediate—you can send messages the second they pop into your mind. Even though you’re miles away, your partner feels right there.
Do text before a first date. 34% of people surveyed agree that they’d feel more comfortable on a first date if they had exchanged texts beforehand. Keep pre-date communication light and fun. Ask about his or her favorite bands, movies, and places to hang out, then use the info to kickstart conversation when you’re sitting across the table.
Do respond ASAP. Most people are never far from their cell phone, so if you don’t reply within an hour or so, the other person will assume they’re being ignored. As a matter of fact, the biggest texting turn-off according to the AT&T survey was a slow response. If you don’t have time to answer, reply with something like “Stuck in mtg. Will hit you soon!” If you can’t even do that, be sure to add “Sorry! Just got this,” when you finally do text him or her back.

 

Well, then it's either being alone, or being with someone who may not be as interested in a relationship as he is. Or at least not giving as much. Or perhaps he just isn't getting the hint.

 

So what? "It´s one less bitch you gotta worry about!"

I keep that quote hot against my hip...It´s served me well over the years.

 

Because women like men who are confident and on average men are more aggressive than women so it's sort of instinctual for the woman to want to be pursued.

When you aren't the one doing the pursuing women will interpret that as either disinterest or lack of confidence.

Exceptions to every rule of course, but this I have found to be quite common.