is this bad?

When you meet a person they represent either your jailer or your compatriot. If you regard them as threatening, then they become your jailer but it is a prison of your own design.

But then this information may be inappropriate in this thread because whiners, talk about what is not there rather than what is there.

 

well i definitely would not consider myself a whiner
although what you say is definitely interesting
i was trying to empathize with the op since it felt like she was being picked on a bit
i do have my own trust issues like i said
and yes they are unhealthy, i know

 

thats a tough one
i'm not sure

 

That answer shows some insight.

Today I am hating my inner dweeb...therefore if you say anything that makes me feel like a dweeb, it will hurt me and I will have to stop talking to you...

 

i don't find you dweebish at all

 

Thx MissB. Actually I can be quite dweebish sometimes, which I hate - the point is (and this is an insight I'm having about myself today) I'm the one hurting myself, because I don't love the part of me that seems dweebish to me. Therefore I distrust other people because they might think I'm a dweeb - see how this works?

 

They are what they are. Getting sick is part of the immune system's process of being healthy.

There is some information that you can rely on even though it may be terrifying initially to do so. For example you might be afraid getting poked with a needle and it helps to transcend that fear to know that it involves a reliable benefit. So we are willing to go beyond our immediate distrust to have a true benefit, in this way the truth sets us free.

 

i do see what you are saying
and yes you are probably spot on with that answer to a point
i have been hurt in profound ways that i won't even elaborate on here
by the people in my life who were supposed to love me the most
so it goes much deeper than what i think of myself or what other people might think of me
i'm talking trust
as in with your heart and your most intimate parts
not meaning sexually but most intimate
i think this probably goes much deeper than this thread intended lol
but i see your point and i agree with it

 

Maybe it's a deeper subject than the op knew. I have been hurt profoundly also, and after getting hurt a real, real lot for a very long time I've started seeing that all along it has been me hurting myself. If I love myself, other people can't hurt me.

 

Yes
That's the hard part though isn't it?
For me anyways

 

That's where what thedope was saying comes in. In order to trust you need to just...trust. You'll get hurt a lot. And by getting hurt a lot you'll eventually realize that it doesn't kill you, and that you're a helluva lot more worthy of love than you've allowed yourself to be for so long.

But yeah, I'm not saying it isn't hard...it definitely is - unbelievably hard sometimes.

 

this may be the most valid conversation i have ever had on hf lol

 

Sorry bout that.

 

ha!
i know right
but its sometimes good to just come here and just bullshit
i need that at times

 

Damn right. We need some healing between battles.

 

my kiddo is waking up from his nap but its been nice talkin with you
again soon hopefully
have a great day <3

 

<3 It helped me, too. The universe provided me with this conversation today to help me solidify lessons I'm learning by explaining them to you. See ya around, MissB.

 

hummm idk why i don't trust people. also i don't wanna let people in because i can be selfish. and i don't wanna put anyone to have to put up with that

 

Welcome to the club, LHC!