i really hate stubbornness.

If it's your Bf then it's usually something like-

"oh no, not again... what have I done now?"
"Is this the week she has the painters round again?"

:willy_nilly:

 

haha no no.. just a friend ..

 

these two statements describe my ex boyfriend perfectly. trying to talk to him about anything always ended up being the most frustrating thing in the world because he would never in a million years admit when he was wrong, and no matter what I said to him I could never make him see that he was in the wrong because he adjusted events in his memory to suit him. It was so annoying. He thought if he just pretended like something didn't happen, that it didn't really hapen.

One thing I learned from dating him though is that theres nothing wrong with sucking it up and admitting when you're wrong. I always made a point to do this with him, to lead by example of nothing else, and I think I came out the bigger person because of it.

 

well at least you learned something from it :sunny:

its annoying, i like communication. i dont like people ignoring me, or avoiding situations. makes things worse!

 

Maybe they are having an affair with your boyfriend..

 

haha.. i hope not! its a boy-friend!! friend boy.. wahtever :sunny::rofl:

 

I know right, its so much better to just talk about something immediately and get it out of the way. I always ended up having to hold things in with my ex for days because he would just ignore me until he thought I had calmed down, but that always made things ten times worse. what could have been a reasonable and short conversation if we talked as soon as a problem arose turned into me ranting and raving like a madwoman because i was so frustrated at being ignored for days.

so i know exactly how you feel lol

 

haha, exaccttllyy!!!

ha you really do <3 :sunny:

except this isnt my boyfriend. but just someone close

and i feel exactly how you just described!

 

When I talk its always a uphill struggle to try to conversate with a 'raving madwoman' , I just choose to be quiet usually but its good to know this is not the best thing to do.

 

I agree, especially when someone is so stubborn they don't wanna hear your point anymore so they just shutdown....reminds me of a child

 

exactly.

 

I'm stubborn as hell..

 

I always find the other person being stubborn very aggravating! Funny that!

I only deal with one person, on a personal level, who is as stubborn as a mule about a lot of things.

When it happens I tend to drop and ignore the topic. Usually they bring it up later and amazingly they are not so stuck on it anymore.

If I were to hit it head on with them it would result in confrontation and no resolution. Waiting until they bring it up instead leaves them a graceful out.

Tends to work for me.

 

yeah looks like i dont have a choice but to wait it out :sunny:

 

Sometimes that is a better option instead of having to apologize for over reacting to them over reacting.

 

like the great ralphie mays says:

"you can either be right, or you can be happy. happiness leads to oral land."

 

yeah i suppose!

ha truuee

 

I guess that means I should keep asking you out.

 

What's really bad is when 2 stubborn people are in a relationship together. It will never work.

 

I am very stubborn when it comes to myself...like I won't accept help from anyone and I usually don't do things others "suggest." But I'm ok when it comes to apologizing to people and admitting I was wrong...if I know I'm in the wrong with something, I'll come out and say it. Sometimes, I feel that's not stubbornness more than it is pride...