I joined this eharmony.com and had a few dates. There was a girl I met her once and she text messaged me that she enjoyed our meeting. So a few days later I wrote her message and expressed my feeling and asked for the second date. Somehow, I made myself an idiot that the email sounded like I want to move forward with her. She sent me back a message to tell me that she wanted to take it slow otherwise we should just forget about each other and move on. Also, she said she's be meeting other guys also. So guys, what will be my best strategy here? I would like to see her again, but I don't think I could be one of the "options" for too long. How long would it take for a girl to decide which person to date in the future?
I don't think she wants to see you again, and I think she's already ruled you out as an option. On eHarmony, just like any other form of dating, if you are really interesting to a girl, she may decide then and there. If you are more or less as interesting as some of her other pursuers, you may have to be more aggressive and prove your worth more than they do, and wait it out a little. If you two don't click as well as she'd like, you may be out of the running. The time frame can really vary based on the people in question and their schedules, and lives.
I would agree with you in most of the cases. She did say that she wanted to get together again. But I know she's seeing others the same time. What is a click? If I like her and want to get to know her more. and she's like, you are okay, but I want to wait... This is not a click, isn't it? anyway, I did reply to her. I gave her a time frame for the second date. I intended to send a message to her that my schedule is not flexible to you anymore. But now I am asking myself, why bother? you two don't click...
Persistence can never hurt. High hopes, however, can allow reality to fall short of expectation. I see no problem with continuing pursuit, keeping this in mind, however, it may be more worth your time to pursue other opportunities.
Move on, you already gained something from your interactions with her, you learned never to do ^^this^^ again.
She's probably freaked out and letting you know that she isn't too interested - hence the meeting other guys. I feel the same when I feel someone coming on too strong.
anymore, the advice i saw on 'The Defenders' the other night looks good to me....never, ever contact a woman after a date. let them contact you. i don't date...i support fully legalized prostitution. it would be far less confusing and more efficient.
That is the worst show I've ever seen. I would recommend doing the opposite of everything they suggest
i've never heard of the defenders, but i know if you wait for a woman to contact you, she'll be a great friend who never touches your dick.
Then explain this sentance. "That shit hurts my feelings, say it one more time and you're a fucking stain." That's how I roll:afro:
awww, bitch, bitch, bitch. i drink cheap bourbon while i'm watching. looks pretty good to me.:sunny: the op should help the economy and hire a prostie. the hell with e-harmony. they aint no harmony in 'relationships', anyway.:love:
