Alright so before I get married to my boyfriend within the next two or so years, I decided to tell him a secret of mine. I wanted to have a threesome but under two conditions. It had to be before we get married and with an Asian girl. (I have a weird Asian fetish.) He actually agreed and I was just wondering if anyone could tell me, whose had them before, how to go about doing that. Where should I go to find the third person? The risks of ruining our relationship? How pleasurable it was to you? Experiences you've had? Anything that could be of help to me before I actually do it. I've been thinking about it for a good three years now, well before I met my current boyfriend who I have been dating for a bit over 7 months now. I'm new to the site, so I hope this is the right place to ask. Thanks, any help is appreciated.
I don't know how you would go about doing this, but why the "before your married" rule? Is it in case it makes you not want to be together anymore so you don't have to get a divorce? If it's something about the sanctity of your union it doesn't really make sense, marriage isn't magic and your relationship before will be the same one after.
Because I don't want to do it during marriage. It is sacred to me, I wanted to kind of get it out of my system or I'll always wonder. When I'm married it's just him and I. No one else ever.
(Warning-old joke coming) The new German-Chinese restaraunt has good food ,but an hour after you eat,you're hungry for power!! warned ya'.
So, funny thing about threesomes and such... they tend to blow away a lot of illusions that people have... Especially ones regarding their relationships... Tends to make people think about whats going on, who treats who like what, who cares for whom and so on. When they are entered into honestly by both parties after long conversations about what it all means, they can be good.... otherwise they will usually explode in a brilliant flare of accusations and fights... Of course, this isn't all about YOU, so there should be no problems right?
You're really reaching with all those bold "I's" I do agree with you though that most people are not meant to be monogamous. Most... but not all. I have known people who had threesomes and just didn't like seeing their partner with someone else. It's a sly trick to say that everyone has an eye opening event that shows them that monogamy is an illusion OR they are immature people who didn't prepare correctly and that's why they didn't enjoy the experience. Makes it so no one can disagree with your view on it. Edit: I guess you didn't directly say monogamy - I felt like it was implied though.
