She's in babymaking mode. Her brain is awash with hormones that help her get up in the night and nurture those kids without killing them (lol). It's just the stage of life she's at. A couple things that helped my hubby and I reconnect after the kid phase. (ours are older now). A trip to a tropical area JUST THE TWO OF YOU (if you don't live in one) to an All Inclusive Resort, some trips are very reasonably priced but it's best to get an adults only resort if you can afford it (no kids running amok to remind her to miss hers). (If she's nursing, you'll have to wait until baby can be babysat by grandparents or others. It's hard not to feel sexy when you are alone with your man, in a hot climate where there is free booze and food and scantily clad bodies everywhere. After 10 years of work and kid-dom, we took a trip like that and now do it once a year, even if it stretches the budget. Two days into that first trip and a few tequila in me, I swapped my one piece for a sexy bikini and never looked back! In fact, this year we've been looking at places like Hedo! (we aren't swingers). Two: Establish some rules to help with stress. For example, Dh and I do NOT talk about business, bills, kids, etc after their bedtime. Bills, work, kids and all discussions distracting from who we are as a couple are disallowed in the bedroom, no exceptions. Do you help her out? There is a great little book called "Porn for Women" that is truer than men think, doing the dishes for her can be foreplay, I kid you not! That little book is full of sexy men doing every day chores and I have bought it for all my friends who rave about how true it is! Do you help her feel sexy without making her feel like she has to put out? It's an art form but can be done and helps make her want you. Just remember, it's hard for a woman to go from nurturer to horny, not an easy transition! What can YOU do to help her along without her feeling pressure? My husband cooks, cleans and helps when he can and it makes me want to eff him right then and there....... just a thought. Hopefully, in a couple years when she hits peri menopause you'll be back posting about how she wants it ALL the time and you can't keep up! These are just things that worked for us, take it or leave it.
well, sugar, you sure have your hands full, don'tcha? God bless you! But, on the other end of the scale, one of the things that happens to the working parent is that they feel such an overwhelming sense of responsibility for the things that are going on in the house, with little opportunity to put their hands on the problem and "fix" it. It's hard for them, too. Try to see things from her side, too. If you feel screwed, you can imagine that she may too. You have sole responsibility for handling all the runny noses and dirty butts, education, nutrition, medical issues. She has sole responsibility for job-keeping, rent and utility paying, food buying,etc. It's gonna be hard as hell for you guys both, but y'all are gonna have to find ways to decompress. you gotta git her loosened up before she starts shucking her wrapper. women are just that way. Too bad, really, cuz sex is a great way to decompress. save pennies, if you have to and get a sitter. or barter by sitting for someone else. but get away, for both yer sakes.you've gotta find a place where you're not mommy and daddy, just chuck and tina, or whatever. Find a local motel/hotel with a bar downstairs. Have a nice dinner, then a coupla cocktails and some booty-shaking. then go upstairs and relax in the tub. Even if there is no sex, the two of you will feel closer and that's a helluva start. find ways to remind each other of who you are outside of your parental identities in order to reestablish that connection. don't lose yourselves in the mix, cuz that's what it sounds like y'all are doing
OMG she is very very wrong ...she has a depress period, but climax ... ? .... to early for her age Sex make women's hair and skin be more beautiful and look younger - just some motivation
I feel for you on this...I am in the same boat but im female and my hubby doesnt want sex... Im 37 and we have 3 children youngest being 6 and we haven't had ex for 5 years due to him not wanting it. Now for me I could have it every day (more than once a day) my sex drive i high.
So, sounds that is different to any other women, any other organism that probably is normally ? So, how you are satisfying your needs ?