Why do some people care what online people think?

Why do people get upset/hurt if someone online doesn't like them, or insults them? They have no basis in your real life, and will probably NEVER meet the person, so why put stock into what online people have to say?

 

Because some take it more personal than others?

 

You have a good point. I think it has to do the way communication is conveyed.

Typed messages, unlike verbal messages communicate a stronger message to an extent, because when you type something, you can easily review what you say before submitting it. In verbal communication, you cannot. The person you're talking to (or insulting) knows this and therefore can take greater offence.

At the same time people express themselves and say things on line that they're afraid to say in real life because they're protected behind a monitor and the opposing party won't physically lash out at them. That's why you see more animosity online than you do in real life.

 

I'm offended that you don't take the interwebz more srsly and feel the pain behind my words! :computer:

 

I don't get offended with people online or in real life.

Honestly, I don't care much about what people think of me...

 

I am what I am = True to my character and conviction of conscience
If this isn't the forum to state ones honesty then where is?
If it is that others make judgements by them, then c'est la vie, and though everyone likes to be thought of well, there is always going to be those that disagree with my credo, and Free speech is entitled to be open to everyone.
There are times when I may feel comments to be inappropriate, inconsiderate and at times discourteous - I am reminded by the olde phrase, and forgive them for "they know not what they are on about"!
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why do people get upset/hurt if someone in real life doesn't like them?

 

I don't think many people really care whether somebody online necessarily likes them or not. That's just a case of having outrageous expectations that ANY stranger should like you.

But insults online are different than in real life because once they're there - they're always gonna be there. It's like being insulted in a crowded room with a really bad echo.

All insults, though, can be hurtful (regardless of who dealt it) especially if they hold some truth. Or if it is coming from somebody that the recipient respects.

It would all depend entirely on the unique combination of the recipient, the insult, and the giver. People can get offended or hurt over innocent comments, too. Like "oh, that's gay" or "that person's a retard". It happens all the time. Can hardly be avoided.

 

it doesn't matter who it is that says something, if someone says something and for one second you think its true it can hurt bad. the truth is the truth and it hurts no matter where it comes from.

 

Because they are mad at the truth...

If I say something on here to get people that think the same thing, and they don't. Then I probably wont like what they say since I know they are all right. Majority rules

 

Because people on the Internet are still people.

If you don't care what they think, something is wrong with you.

 

not necessarily...if everyone took every single thing to heart, it could drive them insane. I think of it like a defense mechanism...I close myself off when people get harassing or judgmental toward me

 

you are assuming that we all have lives?....many people talk more online than in real life...i know there are lots of days where i talk to y'all here way more than real people...and i jhave friends in rl...i can imagine people that are in wheelchairs and more home ward bound or just really reclusive..this is all they have..so it follows that they would get upset about online shit because they have no offline shit.....

 

That's complete horse shit!

Why live a life that is set on pleasing the expectations of others?!\

Especially strangers

 

If you don't care the least bit about what anybody online thinks of you or what you are saying, then why bother talking to them at all? When you are talking to somebody, it is normal human nature to care what their reactions are. I don't know how you can avoid this.

Some of us live in places where people are just not friendly. I don't think anybody in this town would give me the time of day.

 

Never seems to bother me I just get on here to insult random people I don't know cause I don't get the reporcusions most get when I do it in the real world
Some people treat these types of forums as a way to make friends and share ideas. Others use forums like these as an escape from their boring lives and use em to just get a rise out people
just clashes of interest on what one wants from the site.

If jerk poster A makes fun of lame taste in music poster B for liking nickelback if he gets a response his job is done. If I... er he is ignored in his attempt to flame they'll seek more gullible posters like posters C, J, and Y... oh gullible Y... I digress however
I'm hitting send now

 

I wouldn't (and don't) really care about anything somebody has said if I hadn't talked to them before or I knew they were ********.
But, like IRL, you do find people you like talking to and people that you value their opinion. Plus, unless you are a sociopath, it helps if you have some "relationship" with the people you are talking to - in any type of communication. I guess it is about departmentalising. Anybody getting butt-hurt about anything and everything people say on-line, probably needs some form of therapy.
But caring about what people you like think of you is human.

Burberry, If every response to your posts was "Fuck You"... how long would it before you quit posting on the forum?

 

Fuck You.


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Just kidding Odon! Just kidding. :mickey: :sunny: