I need some help/advice...

Discussion in 'Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans, etc.' started by xaimeex, Feb 27, 2011.

  1. xaimeex

    xaimeex Guest

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    I'm 18 and I've know I've liked girls since I was around 11 or 12. I've always liked girls. I've never told anyone. I feel like I can't because alot of my family members are homophobic and I'm scared of how people will react. I met this guy a few months ago and I thought that I liked him. I really thought I did. I would get butterflies whenever he would text me and I was really happy when he asked me out. I said yes. Retrospectively, I never really liked him in that way. I was just hoping that he'd make all of these feelings go away & I thought he could. I've been with him for almost 3 months now & I've never felt so miserable in my life. I know for sure that I'm a lesbian. I'm in college with him 5 days a week and he always wants to meet up after college. I feel trapped. I don't love him, at all. He's a really, really nice guy & I trust him but I have no feelings for him at all. He is obsessed with me though. He talks about me all of the time to his friends and he is always telling me how much he cares for me. He writes me love poems and tells me that he can't wait for the future & it kills me. I'm terrified of hurting him. I'm scared of how he'll react. He could do something self destructive. I wish it was as easy as just telling him the truth and then being friends like we once were, but we're in college together 5 days a week so it's going to be so awkward. What should I say to him? Should I be honest? I don't know what to do and I have no one to talk to so if anyone has any advice or anything it would help alot. :)
     
  2. djomalley

    djomalley Fanch King

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    End it with the guy. No reason to string him along, if you are not sure of yourself. Honesty is a must.
     
  3. Si69

    Si69 Senior Member Lifetime Supporter

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    yeah, sounds like you have to tell him before he gets more obsessed with you. You obviously like him as a friend - telling him that you prefer girls and confiding in him with be kinder for him; he knows then that it is not him personally, and maybe you can turn the relationship into one where he is a great friend and confider?

    OIf course the other possibility - since you said you got butterflies over him - you may be bisexual. Take small steps and talk to him about it.

    Good luck,

    Simon :sunny:
     
  4. terilynnmaria

    terilynnmaria Member

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    You really should be honest with him.
     
  5. niceyearjiejie

    niceyearjiejie Banned

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    should be honest
     
  6. xaimeex

    xaimeex Guest

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    Thanks guys... you're right, I have to be honest. It's so selfish keeping it going when I know I'm lying... I'm f*****g terrified though, I'm stressing about it sooo much but I'm gonna have to tell him next week when I see him. Ahh...
     
  7. GLENGLEN

    GLENGLEN Banned

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    Don't Say Your Gay, Just Tell Him You Have Discovered You Have Strong

    Bi Feelings, This Way It Lets Him Down Slowly And You Both Have

    Time-Out To Think This One Through..:).

    Please Don't Say "I've Turned Lesbian, So Piss Off"...:eek::eek:..j/k

    Best Of Luck, And Keep In Touch..:).



    Cheers Glen.
     
  8. p0ly

    p0ly Senior Member

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    Wow i feel for the guy, you really do have to tell him.
     
  9. xaimeex

    xaimeex Guest

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    I'm going to tell him when I next see him. I'm scared. A few days ago I planned on telling him the truth, that I've realised I like girls but now I'm worrying about the consequences so I might just tell him that I just want to be friends with him. I feel sick and so stressed just thinking about it.
     

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