...its been almost a year..help!

i still can't seem to get over my last relationship. i was totally in love with this guy and he was my best friend but he doefinatly is through with me. Since him ive met and went on dates n slept with plenty of men who are better on paper (nicer, hotter, more financially stable, muscular, mature, well endowed, ect) but nobody has managed to give me the spark of excitement i got from this guy who didn't even value me the way i did him. This isn't meant to sound self serving but men seem to really like me. they try and do a lot for me and woo me and compliment and just generally try n fetch me for themselves but can't really seem to get excited for them...when the hell will this pass?? will i be able to find someone to give myself to again?

 

So was this like a "first true love" thing? Sometimes there is such a powerfull load of emotion around a first love that everything else pales by comparasion. When I was a young man/boy I found myself totally crushed that my first love really didn't share my feelings. It took forever to move on. It actually took me being willing to move on and stop holding that experience in such a dream state. Perhaps you need to really want to let go. I'm saying this without knowing anything other than the bit you related. You very well may be ready to be done and simply can't get over him yet. I wish you luck and love.

 

Yarapario is right.

Basically, you ought to WILL YOURSELF AWAY from him. Let's face it, I do not know a single guy who did not go through a very similar experience at one point in his life. Sometime at the beginning of your dating career, you meet a dude who is totally your match, (or so you think). The r-ship, good or bad comes to its end, and no one ever can take his place. Because no one else is exactly like him. No one will ever be. This really has to do much more with your dreams of who he really should have been than with him as a real life person.

The sooner you part from this mirage the better. Reconcile yourself with the fact that he did not entirely share your feelings and that he may be chasing a different mirage of his own. Break that cycle and move on. Hard as this may be, this is the only possible course of action. Having no choice here makes it actually simple and easy for you.

KD