Getting with a best friends EX?

Case by case basis.

 

speaking from experience you go with your heart. I have been on both sides of this. My buddy married a girl I was dateing for years. It didnt bug me at all. I mean it didn't work for us so why harbour hard feelings. THey are happy and that is all that counts. You may go through some hard times but if you really like this person and they like you that is what matters. If its just for random sex....well that could be different and maybe you keep that quite...LOL

 

I know that no one can help who they fall in love with, but at the same time I understand where you are coming from. My personal rule is that I never date my best friends EX. But that is just me. Anyway if they do end up together don't let that get in the way of your friendship. Something like this is not worth losing a best friend over.

 

I wouldn't do it...i think it's disrespectful even if your best friend didn't have a problem with it...i think it's a bad idea. Lovers come and go but good true friends are hard to find.

 

You two have finished, you were the one to break with her and you don't care if she has another boyfriend, right?

To me it sounds like you don't want to share your best friend. Now where does that come from?

 

now i have feelings for her again and she doesn't for me, she just wants my best friend. the situation is fucked to be honest and i fucked it. feel so messed up don't know what to do.

 

I would never date a friend's ex. I put up a wall whenever my friends start dating someone that pretty much makes it impossible for me to ever view them in a sexual way.

However, I did date and fall in love with one of my ex's best friends. We became good friends and it just happened very organically. One day we realized we were much better suited than I was with my ex. It all worked out for the best; my ex was cool with it, although he had every right to be an ass about it, and we had a really great relationship for a while.

I currently have the biggest crush on one of my ex's friends. I feel bad about it sometimes but I just can't help it; we just click. I was also cool with him briefly dating one of my friends so I hope if it comes down to it he will repay the favor in full.

Case by case, like others have said. Sometimes friends have a way of being very forgiving.

 

could be that she's pissed about being dumped, and the fact that you said "don't get with him" is why she wants him.

I don't think you have a right to try to make them not get together if that's what they want, but I think you do have a right to be pissed and not talk to them if they do.

You might want to make abundantly clear to your friend that you're not going to be buddies anymore if he gets with her.

maybe in time you and her will get back together. though it might be better for you to get beyond this, find someone new, and then let them get together if that is what they really want.

ideally, I think that if you really love someone, you want them to be happy, even if they are not with you

 

uuuu..that sucks.
Does your friend like her as well and are you sure she's over you (I've just been reading a thread about people getting back at their ex's and "I fucked his best friend" is all over the place)?

Whatever happens, you and your best friend need to stick together. If he doesn't want anything serious, than he's to stay away from her.
If they really like each other and could have a long lasting relationship, then you'll just have to just deal with it.

I know it's really awful, but you two already had your chance and it didn't work out. If she really doesn't feel anything for you anymore, then there's nothing you can do.

 

I've actually had two experiences with this.

When I was in high school I dated my best friends ex. That ended in a horribly drastic situation. But it wasn't the situation that did it to us, it was the lack of communication. I would say it ruined our friendship, but I don't believe that was it, it was how we handled it.
I recommend NOT doing that. It would have avoided a lot of drama and pain for a lot of people. But I don't regret any of it, to be honest.

My second situation is with another friends ex and there's literally no drama. Granted, that friend and I hardly ever talk anymore and neither do they. So it's all good.

I still recommend not doing it, but hey...it's all a matter of perspective and situation.

 

I think it all depends on a situation really. But technically it's really NOT wrong since she's your EX, meaning she's AVAILABLE. So you really can't do anything about it if your best friend decided to date her, other than maybe complain about it.

I personally see it like, if she's going to be with someone, then I'd rather she be with someone cool like my best friend. Funny, I only had female best friends until like two years ago, lol.

Although, in a scenario where the girl actually had a bad attitude, then I may speak to my best friend about it and try to talk him out of it. If such was the case, and if he still wants her, then that's when I cross my fingers and pray it all works the fuck out for them at least!