please help

I wonder if I'm doing the right thing staying with the person I love. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and we now live together. he promised me the world if i moved in with him so i did he had a steady job and a good head on his shoulders at the time except for we were both battled our addictions to pain killers which we have now stopped well i have stoped for good. after we stoped buying pills we had more money and life seemed better to me but it was the other way around for him about a week after we quit he dropped out of college and also lost his job and now im in school and i work to support him and myself, hes recently developed a drinking problem and things have just been hell lately i dont know what to do i'm going crazy..my family and friends have begged me to leave him but i can't do it because i know hes my soulmate and i could never picture being without him he makes me feel like noone else can...i dont know how to get him back on his feet i know u people dont wanna hear about this shit but id rather tell it to people i dont know who might of been in or had similar situations then let friends and family know whats going on..any suggestions would be gratefully appreciated

 

And here I am, a stable, fully-employed, considerate, kind, loving, attentive guy who flies airplanes and skydives and plays frisbee and kayaks and does no drugs and hardly drinks at all ever and even is good-looking and I can't even get a girlfriend, and here is a guy (your boyfriend) who's essentially all screwed up (sorry, but it's true, not trying to be hurtful or insulting) and he's got a girlfriend?!

Life is not fair.

-Jeffrey

 

Sorry, that post didn't offer any advice.

I think you need to leave him after telling him that you love him but that you, in your own life, need stability and sense in it, and you can't get that from him the way he is.

Move on. You owe it to yourself.

Most importantly, when you say that no one else makes you feel like he does, you are giving in to a FALLACY. You only THINK that's so because you haven't found the others who would do it. There is not just one single person in the world for you, or anyone. Do not hold yourself back from seeing what else is out there, BETTER, for you, just because you are believing a myth.

-Jeffrey

 

Ask yourself, "am I a better person, and am I happier being with him?" If 'yes,' then ask yourself, "Am likely I to be better off without him?" You probably don't picture life with out him. If you didn't have him in your life, could you have a better, more fulfilled life? Which situation has the greater potential?

The best advice is to be found within. Sometimes it's a matter of asking yourself the right questions.. and answering them honestly. You have to be honest with yourself, or you do yourself a disservice.

 

Jeffrey honey, all I have to say is you must be in the wrong place (or I am). You are absolutely beautiful and I would be honored to be your girlfriend anytime!

 

Magnificent; When you say, "please help," we hope you think on the replies. The saddest day in my whole life was the day I walked out on the one woman who could have made my life a dream beyond perfect! Yet she was a roadblock (because of certain life styles she would not adjust - NOT change, just adjust.) Years later I am not quite so happy as I could have been, but it never wouldda worked. 'Twas just a dream in which she lives on! My wife doesn't know. She lives on in my dreams. She is dead - went on down the road I couldda walked with her - and be dead also, or at least dead of disappointment. Yes, I'm blessed with a good woman, 2 great kids, pleasing work - and all that goes with it. Still, once a bit, I slip into my dream world and think what mightta been, but could nevera been. That's life, and it's not perfect. It's liveable, and pleasureable. Sorry to be so long. (This isn't fastswitch, by the way. It's his dad.) God bless you, sister. You can't have heaven - yet!

 

well are his problems fixable? Like can he go to rehab ect? Do you love him? Does he treat you well? Is he making an effort to get his shit together? you have to answer those questions and than see

 

and you are wondering why you have no girl friend?

 

you're so mean Joe so mean just flat out wrong dude...but funny

 

How long have this issues been going on Nuggets? How old are you guys? Is he trying to make things better for the both of you? I think if you really truly know that you love him you should try to help him... Ask him if he thinks rehab could help make him happier. Ask him not to drink so much cos it worries you... Let him know how his actions are affecting you and see if he's willing to work on it. Love is a very important thing....but certainly not a tthe expense of everything else that makes a life... As the others have said there are other fish in the sea that might make you happy...but consider carefully...you've put a year into this relationship and alot of sadness and gladness... Don't just throw it away cos he's going through hard times...everyone has hard times and maybe you're the one to help him out of them... Help him but don't let him ruin your life.. once unhappiness is your life you know something is wrong....


good luck,
god speed.
Tracy

 

Do what's best for yourself and your future. If you had children, what do you think would happen? He'd either change and have to be a different person, or he'd get worse.

 

to be sure there is something so much deeper than your own personal happiness...if your boyfriend is jumping from one vice to another then there is something going on inside of him that has him wanting to escape....

i know its what drives users to use... im a user .... only weed now but at one time i was looking for the shyt that killed elvis! and the deal is simple.... being his "soulmate" you are the only one that can help him identify,rectify and overcome whatever it is that makes him need an escape... he could be feelin like shyt that his woman is his supporter, he could have some childhood issues that surface... who knows? apparently not you! which means not only is something bothering him but also he doesnt feel as if he has an avenue of release once again not about you... but him...

so i say to you if you love him truly then you will go through whatever for him, you will also either be his destroyer or his creator the choice is yours... but dont leave him!!! whatever yall had that manifested itself into this great and wonderfully marvelous love you speak of is the very things you need to hold on to when times is tough...

dont end up knowing you may could have done things better if you only followed your heart...it is far worst to love and lose, ironically imma say dont listen to outside influences... other than those that agree with me

all im saying is some of us spend lifetimes trying to find the one we love can have for EVER! and you have it... dont throw it away cuz if anyone can help him you can... and truly addictions themselves are cries for help!

 

and yet you want to get nakid with me

 

Joe blue long sleeve company logo shirt an olive green thermal monogramed hoodie, jeans, and a vintage scarf around my head oh and brown uggs sexy eh?...I am hardly ever nakid.

 

LOL......thats not what that comment meant

 

you mean you didn't want a run down of my poor fashion sense this morning? bad and good thing abou thte laundry mat-your pants don't sag in the ass anymore but there too short ): what the hell am I going to do my favorite jeans show my socks when i cross my legs.

 

LOL.....no problem if your pants are tight on your ass ...then the guys will not be looking at your feet.

 

you haven't seen my ass so you don't know that for sure. my lower body is a lot different than my upper body. the cleavage thread would give you no indication of what I fully look like-trust me.

 

looks like a cute ass to me, i just love that thong

 

did I send that to you? damn