i CANNOT orgasm with my boyfriend

i masturbate 2-4 times a day (for a girl i have a terribly high sex drivee hahah) and always get off on my own. of all the partners i've had in my life, not one has made me orgasm. the guy i'm with for 4 months now is definitely my first true love and despite the fact he turns me on in unimaginable ways, i CAN NOT seem to orgasm with him! i've come reaaaaaal close (is shaking when standing a sign your close to orgasm?) i know this bc i've HAD orgasms, just not with anyone. it's not about what doesnt work for me/finding a new position bc i can feel it coming but it just never does.

please, please give me advice. my bf is getting really discouraged, i'm getting frustrated and our sex life is getting boring even. plus he thinks it's his fault and it's most definitely not, i get wet just thinking about him!

 

Keep your hands off yourself for a day, or a week, fucking DUH.

How's he supposted to stand a chance if you can't GIVE him a chance?

 

Yeah, what RooR said dude.. stop masturbating for a few days or a week. Also, when you have sex, try to simulate what you do during masturbation.. Like for me, I personally can't orgasm from just vaginal penetration, so when someone is fucking me I HAVE to rub my clit (or they do, w/e) or else I won't come.

Simple!

 

You need to *LEARN* to have an orgasm by someone else's touch. You've become too accustomed to your own touch bringing you to climax, and the touch of someone else is quite different from your own. It took me like 4 months of almost daily sex to be able to finally orgasm from sex, having the same problem as you. It can happen, but you need to work at it, and don't give up.

 

All the above advice is great, but like seizedbyanger implied, sometimes a little help is necessary

So try combining sex with your partner with what you would do by yourself. If you're having sex and feel yourself getting close, help to push yourself over the edge...try moving into a position where you can stroke your clit, etc. So much of orgasming is psychological, so cuming while having sex (whether you help yourself out or not) may help you break through the orgasm barrier, so to say.

One other thing - sex is so much fun, try not to stress yourself out about "finishing" cuz you might be psyching yourself out! Best of luck!

 

Tell me about it.....

 

low blood sugar.

 

Might be a control thing. Like my gf can't seem to orgasm unless she's on top. When i'm on top she feels the need to tell me to adjust stupidly. Another way you might want to try is missionary anal. Last night we tried it and she couldn't stop and just kept cumming and even squirting even after i had came in her ass.

 

LOL,
kinda figured when the head rush started

 

i think this may be the case.. i had to teach my self to orgasm from clitoral stimulation with a vibrator, so i can imagine it pertains to sex as well.