Looking for years for just one real breathing person I can relate too

Not a lover who has some inane attraction (don't get me wrong that is basically the biggest perk to being alive) Just someone who has brushed shoulders with my experiences, who understands what I came from and where I've been, and where I have decided to go.

It's nice to know that my teenage isolation/anxiety didn't fall into the similar monotone of most adolescences. I got to find out that I was actually a standard deviant above the norm. But though it's a nice trinket (individuality) I'd rather be just a herd animal, one of the many who have never wallowed in it. Not one of the rarer men who has been chest deep and then was able to walk out of it.

I read crime and punishment recently like lolita it felt so fucking good to hear someone I can relate to. But like a doll they just repeat the same thing every time I ask, they don't answer my questions, they don't listen to me; it's quite unsatisfying. (can't wait I think in about 15 years the statues of limitations will have expired and I can at least be open without legal problems)

 

Same boat for me. It's difficult to find people I can relate to. Dissapointing actually. People just suck in general : / Hoping one day I meet someone who proves me wrong.

 

same here. :S

 

Yup.

Only, I don't want to be a pack animal. I want to be comfortable being a lone wolf again.

 

I understand how you feel, I find it so hard to find people like me. I'm basically an outsider. Don't get me wrong, I have friends, but I find it so hard to find people I can REALLY relate to. The whole soulmate thing... hmm....
I'm not sure if I believe in hokey things like 'destiny', 'fate', 'soulmates'.....

 

You have to be able to just laugh like children.

 

like attracts ... like ~ time... :sunny:

 

I feel ya...

 

I think the best part about my good friendships is that we don't relate on an experience level, but we can understand and respect each other to the point where we can put ourselves in each others shoes...if that made sense?

 

I have a hard time relating to people, even my twin sister, who I have a freaky close bond with. I just don't relate. It's also hard for me to let others come into my life.

 

I have a hard time letting people come into my life, too. I realize that the few people who remain true to me have obviously fought their way in so they must be worth it

 

I've always felt alone. I don't really have any friends. I've always tended to only hang out with the person I was seeing romantically. Maybe It's because I've moved so many times. Idk. Just too independent and too unlike all the idiots in the world haha. I'm happy for the most part. I work full time and am in a wonderful relationship. I don't have a lot of spare time anyways. Sometimes I just wonder what I'm missing out on. And on rare occasions I wonder what's wrong with me and why I can't just be like everyone else. But everyone's different and I have a wonderful boyfriend. He doesn't seem concerned that I have no friends.

 

ebbs and flows everything changes .....

 

yeah i went to a new school this year for my senior year thinking things would be different but this year ive changed even more and become even more abnormal in relation to all the other people my age. Literally i have never found anyone with my same interests. all people care about these days are talking about other people, dealing with irrelevant 'dilemmas' and starting drama. no one looks outside of the box of life, i mean we're on this trip in the mortal world for what, 80 years at best? And it seems like no one i've come across even cares about spirituality or expanding consciousness, everyone just thinks i'm weird. it's quite unsettling not to be able to relate to anyone, not even my own family. i've always been a misfit/outcast, but this year has been very humbling because i've gone the whole year without friends so now i am at peace with it because i've gotten so into my spiritual self, the real me.

 

Crime and punishment, great read, I hear ya. I felt similar when I read it at 22... hey are you winking at me... do you know?

 

I think its possible to retain individuality while becoming a member of a "pack."

I was a lone wolf for a long time because I could never find anyone to relate to. I have a strong sense of individuality, but in the past few years I've also been very lucky to find a great group of friends that allow me to be an individual. Finding friends that allow you to be yourself without judgement can be a magical thing.

 

I know you'll find the many pockets that share your interests. I've been to a few. After high school of course.

 

I know how you feel, big time!

 

It's comforting to see this post with people that feel similar. I've always been a shy weirdo. It's hard for me to relate to people. I'm constantly looking for that person that I connect with on some deep level, but everyone turns out lame. Sigh.

 

Usually everything negative you see in everyone else you can find in yourself, you've just convinced yourself it doesnt exist to make you feel better about yourself.

First step in relating to others is recognizing you yourself are a selfish little turd that uses people for your own gain and are a slave to your loins (female just as much as male).

Mother Theresa was an egomaniac with a superiority complex who thought she was better than everyone else, and was motivated to do all her good charity work out of sexual frustration and guilt resulting from a strict upbringing