Hey all, I have to make the quick so I can get to work on time. For the last few nights I've been having dreams were I have a girlfriend. They have been different girls and it has been pleasant. The first dream I was having dinner with this one girl, I can't remember the second except another girl was there, and the dream I had last night was about visiting an art gallery/museum with another girl. I've been single for about a year and I have no want for a girlfriend at the moment. Any ideas folks?
I could lie, but no; you just need to get out more. You might not want a steady girlfriend but I bet you want company.
This sounds incredibly similar to my own experience at the moment. Theoretically, I have no wish for a girlfriend, either. But, I have been fantasizing about having one for the past few months in a major way. In fact, I asked a girl out on a traditional date recently (which is very uncharacteristic for me) and...she, cancelled. Paradoxically, though, I felt relieved! :biggrin: Often, after I have asked a girl out I suffered from "buyer's remorse": I immediately start hating my date, and finding fault with her, and comparing her unfavorably to other women whom I could have tried dating, and I just feel tremendously encumbered and tied down...and this time was no different. Sometimes, when I peruse around a shopping mall on my own, couples cause me to feel jealous. Other times, I feel tremendously lucky to be alone. I think it is just a conflict of motivations within me. I value my independence very much, but I also value intimacy and friendship. Recently, my independence has been talking louder, and I am quite happy. But, I also strive to remain open to changes and new experiences. Does that sound like something you might be feeling as well?
I do feel like this most of the time. For the majority of my life I have been single and have been fiercely independent. After giving this a little thought yesterday I'm figuring that intellectually I'm not wanting a relationship in order to have control over my life. Biologically I'm at an age were my body wants to pair off with a mate and emotionally it would be beneficial to have someone in my life to create a legacy with. The scales are tipping toward being in a relationship. Speaking of this issue I had another dream with a girlfriend in it last night. That's four in a row. I try to look at dreams from a analytical standpoint as the sub-conscience trying to tell you something but other hints have been dropped in these dreams as well that are point toward something in my near future. I do not claim to have premonitions but I have had visions of my future in the past that have passed as accurate. It is probably nothing but I'll keep you posted.
When it comes to analyzing dreams, unless it is a vivid dream (those are prenominitions/warnings) you never analyze the actual events that go on as usually they are incoherent anyway and make no logical sense. You must instead analyze the symbols that appear in them. What stuck out? Could be as simple as a horse. Certain animals and objects always mean specific things. It's your dreams telling you what you need to integrate or get rid of in your life.
invisible spirit friends can take many forms, or be giving apearent forms by your own mind. it is likely there is one that cares for you. don't let anyone try to tell you there is anything wrong with that. there is not.
I have these dreams every now and then too. It's always pleasant and always a different girl. I have no desire for a mate because I am very much focusing on my goals at the moment. I get out plenty as I am a theatre student and an actor so I get more company than I want sometimes. I do value my independence and alone time VERY MUCH but I also enjoy romance. Just not now. Maybe it's our mind's way of coping.
I have dreams like this but I DO have a girlfriend. Makes me feel really guilty when I wake up, almost like I cheated or something. I think you should listen to your dreams from a literal standpoint, doesn't seem like the meaning is hidden here whatsoever.
