Younger woman who is 21

Oh my god im like, totally, like offended by, like that statement, so whateverrrrr LMAO

Seriously though, that does not describe me at all...sure there are stereotypes, but if you judge a book by its cover, well....you get the idea. So find out about this girl the old-fashioned way - ASK HER! Rather than asking people on HF who have no idea who she is

 

May I just say thank you Voileen Glad to hear there are other "old souls" out there!

 

I'm 21 in June.
Music:
I listen to Nirvana, Grateful Dead, Iron & Wine,Led Zeppelin, Sarah Siskind, Bon Iver...the list goes on forever but mostly folk and rock.
What do I do:
I'm an art student. So I do a lot of painting and sketching. I read novels in my spare time and enjoy going to the tavern (it's basically a dive bar with great live music) and drinking jagger and cheap beer with good friends. I like singing along to bob dylan songs on my friends kitchen floor while a bunch of us improvise with home made instruments.


Then again most people my age don't share the same interests as me. Except for the odd few and of course the ladies on hipforums.
But good luck in your search anyways!

 

Darn, how could I have forgotten that?!?! o.o

 

Indeed. Asking questions promotes communication. The most sensible and essentially the best approach in my opinion.

To the OP - If I were to add, who cares if she was a "typical" 21 year old? Most likely, she still has something about her that makes her unique. Talking to her a lot and learning about her can be a really fun experience. I'm sure she'd appreciate that you weren't just interested in her physically but also in learning what she was like as a person.

 

I'm 23 with a 34 year old partner. We were 21 and 33 when we met.

You need to go into relationships not being so age-orientated. It's not about the age, it's about whether you click mentally (or just physically, if that's what you're after) or not. You can't go into it seeing her as just "a young chick" and you as the "older guy". Sometimes it just doesn't work like that. Sometimes the younger partner will be the mature one, sometimes you'll be level. It may be she doesn't even notice the age gap. I certainly don't notice it until it's either pointed out by others or I realise he has a fully fledged career and I'm still forming one, which really bears no relation to our communication.

Music taste and many other personality traits have no link with age once you reach adulthood. None of my similarly-aged friends like the same music. It seems you've made rather a blunder or you're just being a funny guy

Anyway, just go in seeing the person you hope to form a relationship with as an equal, screw ages, and have fun!

 

Hello,

and you are such a lovely couple .

I met -not for dating, just hung out- a few girls who where 20 years old, while I was in my mid thirties at that time. It was fun, but they were, hm, girls, not women. I don't want to generalise here, but there was not much common ground. We could talk for a few hours, but then it got slow. I joked that they wanted to talk about nail varnish, while I wanted to talk about my hurting back . As you said, it's about wether you click mentally or not. I guess it's more likely that the not part becomes true within this age constellation.

Regards
Gyro

 

I totally agree. :sunny:

 

haha! I've had this happen before too - but ironically the other way around. I want to talk about serious things (philosophy, life, spirituality, music, art, etc.) and the man or woman I am "with" (who is usually quite a bit older than myself, at least in their 30s or early 40s) just wants to talk about "basic" stuff.

Its funny because I have fibryomialgia so I live with a REALLY bad back and bad hips, so that's another reason why I get along so great with "older" people. I always get the, "You're too young to be in pain like that!" but hey, at least it gives me a common thread with others who are (that's not to say you have to be older to live with pain, people of ALL ages do).

There are many young "old souls" out there - you just have to search for them. There are some of us who have had a bit more life experience on our plate, despite our age, and are willing and able to see beyond ourselves. I key this up to having some of the most diverse, beautiful people in my life. Friends of ALL ages,shapes, sizes, backgrounds. I learn from them every day.