I have only been in love once...and i wonder if/when i meet someone and fall in love again...is it possible to love that person as deeply as i loved my first? Or do we all just keep trying to find that person to feel that way again and it never happens?
I think this is an interesting topic. I feel that for some, their first real love will always remain their most special. For most this is not the case; but still this group will only find true love a second time if they let themselves.
I think "first loves" always remain special because of the fact that they are people's firsts in a lot of ways...the first of many emotions, sometimes in physical aspects, too...like losing virginity and whatnot. But when it comes to true love, I think that only happens once in a lifetime...and most don't get to experience that in their lifetime.
I personally believe we can experience multiple true loves in our lifetime. And then we experience more in various other lifetimes. I understand some people have difficulty falling in love because of various reasons. I recently made a post about the concept of "love" somewhere. Many people have a tendency to think too much about it, and not act in accordance to it when they feel it. When you love someone, you just do. I don't believe any logic is necessary there. It is a strong feeling, and it isn't something you can deny. Sometimes it can even be considered "forbidden". But that doesn't matter, whatever that love is, it's love and you recognize it as love. I'm personally a little uncomfortable with the term "true love" itself when it's used to describe some sort of "ultimate" love that you're supposed to encounter only once in your life time... Because that, to me, essentially sounds like all other "loves" you experience must therefore be "fake loves". But when you think about it, that's a bit of an insult to all of your past lovers. I remember truly loving my second girlfriend during our relationship. I love my friend who I had a ridiculously huge crush on a little over a year ago. She and I are special friends brought together by our destiny, our souls connected by special love. I loved my last ex, who I shared a psychic connection with at one point, with all my heart. These are all experiences of genuine love. None of it was fake, or untrue, or something disguising as love. But then I'm a hopeless romantic and it's easy for me to love somebody once I meet the right people. The only thing I require is the right kind of emotional/spiritual/psychical connection.
I agree with you, and that's part of why I said that even among those that don't just put a higher stock on their first love, that others may not be able to find true love again because they won't let themselves. For some people, either one person/relationship will be so dear, or they will come to think of it so much as "the love of their life", that they won't let themselves fall in love again, as to not do a disservice to their cherished relationship. Which is sort've romantic in a sad way.
i think you can love more than once, because love can manifest itself differently you get one first love, one pure lust and the one you will commit to. all three of these women have made me act like a pathetic man baby.
i only fell in love once, tis a shame cos i'd like to have done it all over again ... but even once is cooler than polar bear piss :sunny:
I've noticed this, too. And I agree, it IS romantic and sad at the same time. It's romantic because they are holding onto their special experience even after the relationship is over. Well, it's sad for the same reason too, but it's ALSO sad because, by avoiding any potential future romance, they are not letting themselves experience LIFE in its full sense. I truly believe a part of experiencing life is to expect all kinds of unexpected. Last year I met someone and fell in love. It was a truly amazing relationship that lasted a truly, ridiculously short time. Honestly, I thought I'd get back together with her someday. But it's been about 6 months since we broke up, and I've actually started flirting with some other girls as of last month. It would have been impossible for me to even imagine doing that a few months ago, but, lo and behold, an unexpected occurred. Such is life though, I think. One might believe one would never fall in love again, but one just might meet someone, develop some deep connection with them, and boom! And since someone else mentioned lust... I think it's actually easier to recognize lust than meets the eye. The physical aspect is way high when it's lust driven. But is there an emotional connection? Spiritual/psychical connection? Love in my view is a very deep thing that grabs your soul, and soothes you, and in a romantic setting, it's a 2-way thing. A couple deeply in love may be content just to be sitting there and looking each other in the eye deepy, communicating silently. A lust-centered couple may be sitting there, and may get bored with just looking each other in the eye, and may not be quite able to communicate without words because there's no sex involved. A couple deeply in love may finally decide to make love, and they make true love in bed. A lust-centered couple may have sex and feel good, but the pleasure may be mostly physical, not necessarily emotional/spiritual/psychical. Of course, that is not to say lust in itself is bad, lol.
I feel I love everyone in a way and some I fall in love with - I have fallen 'in love' a good few times and will always love my lovers and partners from previous relationships... I can go years without falling 'in love' and do not crave that love, but miss it from time to time. I believe I have yet to find the one that no matter what I will stand alongside, if he exists I am open to it, if not I shall enjoy the conextions of the heart I make along the way! :love:
