warning.... Long post. I've been through two marriages. The first was great. Then, she had all the kids she wanted and the "switch" got thrown the other way. After that, I got told "YOU GET ALL THAT YOU NEED".... Once in 4 months... once in 5 months. If I got lucky during leap year, I enjoyed 3 times during the year. (And, masturbated 6 and 7 times a day) After I'd heard "NO, I'M GOING TO STAY UP TO WATCH THE NEWS AND WEATHER, THEN I'M GOING TO SLEEP" too many times, I gave up. Another year rolled by, with no activity at all. Then, I got accused of playing around on her, and she wanted to know who the other woman was. From there, it went into a divorce, and 3 days after the divorce was final, she was remarried to another guy. To add insult to injury, the otther guy had spent nearly 10 years in prison for molesting his own son. (Wish she'd told me if I enjoyed the other woman.) I met another woman. Although we were not very sexually active before the wedding, I expected that would improve. Prior to getting married again, she said that 2 to 3 times a week was not excessive or unreasonable. But, after the wedding, I got told that she can live with it or without it. And, mostly, she can live without it. The second marriage became celibate much sooner than the first. She was also an alcoholic. Not something I really realized before, but after she got her DUI, she seemed to wear "I'm an alcoholic" like a badge of homor, rather than something to try to imporve. (I don't drink or do drugs.) When she'd come home from the bar, she'd come into the bedroom and get belligerent with me. (Now, that, and the smell of beer on her breath sure works like soft music and candle-light, doesn't it? That smell of beer is enough to make me want to puke.) And, if that wasn't bad enough, she'd tell me that I make love just like her Daddy. (Oh, yeah... That's SUPER ROMANTIC, that is.) So, now, my ideal place to live is somewhere that I can shoot a 4-inch cannon and not have anyone close enough to hear it. And, another woman? I suppose it's possible, but I'm thinking not, because she'd have to convince me that the relationship would be anything but celibate. Just exactly how she'd do that, I really don't know. Maybe a good start would be to wait till I'm asleep, then come into my house, into my bedroom, and not wake me until it's too late to say "NO". Of course, that would mean she'd have to be good friends with my dog or the barking would wake me up too soon. And, she'd have to be able to lure that 90 pound animal off my bed without waking me. (When the dog has to go outside, it stands up, turns around, and lies back down again. I'm awake instantly.) So, I don't think there is another relationship in my future. First of all, I don't believe any woman has what it takes to try to convince me that our relationship would not be celibate. Second, even if there is, getting the dog off my bed, alone, would wake me up while there's still time to say "NO". (Challenging, isn't it?) No, I'm not looking for advice. But, maybe some part of this will do some good for one or more of the rest of you. I've heard many women state that sex iosn't that important. But, if you have a guy that has been sexually frustrated for years on end, you might want to reconsider that concept. If a guy is worth keeping, he's also worth keeping happy. If I'm going to be celibate, I'm also going to be single. If I'm dating "Rosie", then I'll support Rosie, and not a woman.
I don't understand why so many women are like this. I love sex. It's wonderful. I'm not an addict or anything, I can go days without it, but it's definitely something I like to enjoy anytime my bf shows an interest in it.
^^I agree. But most women are programmed differently, and generally to not have a very high sex drive. I wish you the best of luck!
same here. I don't understand it. A few of my friends have gotten married in the past few years and they have NO sex drive at all. I couldn't imagine not having sex almost regularly...
