how to tell if he's just that into you or not

you should leave him and do love to me.

 

@lively_girl: Couldn't have said it better! Right, lovelyxmalia, as long as the guy is in a relationship, you have to hold back your feelings. It's going to be real tough but it's the only honest thing to do as his friend. After he broke up with her, and you waited some time, just go ahead and tell him. Don't make the same mistake I made, I waited for 4 month, afraid I could lose her as a friend. Now, I told her, she said, it's no problem but she can't be with me since I'm moving to another town in about a month. We're as close as before, nothing changed, but I wish I had told her earlier... So, just be honest and straightforward, a good friendship will survive this even if it goes awry. And, if you don't tell him, you'll regret it later and wonder "what if..."

 

Bravo for telling her how you feel, that takes guts! I think its much better to put yourself out there and risk rejection. At least then, you know. It seems like my friend feels the same chemistry I feel, but I'll never know for sure until I tell him. Which won't happen until after he and his girlfriend break up. I hate to wish death on someone's relationship, but she's really not that nice to him anyways and its obvious to everybody that they aren't right for each other, and of course for selfish reasons...i cant help but hope they break up soon.

If he doesn't love you back, he'll probably end up breaking up with you eventually anyways. I've been in that situation before, where I loved the guy I was with more than he loved me. I tried to make it work until the very end even though I knew I cared about him more, because what else can you do, really?

I can't help but feel like when they break up everything is going to fall into place very organically. I don't really envision having some awkard talk about it. Everything feels too natural with him. Maybe i'm deluding myself but my gut tells me that there really is something there for both of us.

 

Its soooo hard to tell...cause its easy to tell if a guy is into u...wuts hard to tell is if hes ONLY into u for sexual relations. Thats at least the difficulty Im having now that Im single for the first time since I was like 4.

 

heres a tip. when you first meet a guy, its almost always going to be just about sexual relations at first. After all, the guy approached you because he thinks you're hot. Once you get to know a guy its generally pretty easy to tell if there is genuine respect and admiration there or if he's still just out for sex.

and you are right, it is easy to tell if a guy likes you. My radar has never failed me on that one, so I'm hoping its not wrong this time!

 

Well, the hardest part wasn't telling her in itself, but it was telling her knowing she was still in a relationship. I was aware of the other option I had which was to keep my feelings to myself. But I couldn't see taking that option as the right thing to do. I had to listen to my own heart, so I did, and it worked out. Not necessarily the way I wanted at the time, but the way I now think was meant to.

Interestingly enough, sometimes you actually don't have to tell the other person how you feel about them. They just already know. It's a spiritual kind of friendship. This girl I had a crush on almost two years ago had a boyfriend back then. I think her relationship was a bit complicated. Except, I never wished for THIS couple to break up. The guy was really cool...actually I'm still friends with him, lol. And the girl and I just connected so well that I was generally content just to be her friend. But I think she knew I liked her then, and I'm 100% sure she now feels we love each other. Another friend has suggested once that she and I either were together in a past life, or will be together in another lifetime. I believe it. We'll probably just remain friends in this one, though.

 

Is the girl that had the cool boyfriend still with him? Have you ever thought about pursuing it if she's single now? Connections are pretty rare..if you find out she's single and you're still in touch with her you should go for it?

I don't really believe in past lives or anything, but it almost does feel like I've known this guy forever. We can talk with our eyes. There is definitely a spiritual connection there. Its so strange, he's always saying exactly what I'm thinking or we say the same things at the same time. Really random things too, sometimes its things that theres really no reason why we would both be thinking of it at the same time. We have a weird psychic connection, and I don't even believe in psychic connections! He would have to be an idiot not to know I have a huge crush on him.

I'm like you though, I am content to be his friend. I think he's so cool that I feel quite lucky just having someone like him in my life, even if its only as a friend. It just gets frustrating whenever I'm around him and I feel this intense heat coming off of him all the time and I just want to kiss him because I know it would be amazing....it gets hard just being his friend at times like that.

 

I don't think they are together....for now, lol. Like I said, they had a complicated, or more precisely, "non-committal" relationship when they were together. I knew she was more into him while he didn't want to commit. Somehow, though, they made it work. It's amazing, I know.. LOL Anyway, I don't think I'll be pursuing a relationship with her. I honestly don't know what would happen if she and I were actually together physically right now(we're very far away from each other now, geographically speaking). But I think she and I sort of went beyond the romantic stage. It feels like we've moved further into the spiritual/psychical realm. So I'm happy with our friendship right now.

Yeah, my best friend and I can be like that, too. She finishes sentences for me, lol. But connections like that can also be so intense they mask the truth. My last ex and I had what I would describe as the ultimate connection. It was just uncanny how so many things fit. I was 100% convinced she was the one for me. I saw my future, and she was in it. And we broke up. Just like that. It took me almost half a year to realize she and I wouldn't get back together. But hey, that's life. Things have a way of working themselves out in life. If you truly believe he'll forever be your friend no matter what, you and he are meant to be...at least as friends. Maybe more than friends. And you're about to find out.

May the Force be with you.:sunny:

 

This was my situation a year ago!

I had crazy strong feelings for one of my band members, he was the sweetest guy. We had so much in common it was crazy. He was my best friend, and I've never met a better man!

He was in a relationship. They were together for about nine years and had lived together nearly the whole time, she was a stripper at one point, cheated on him a bunch of times, and even had a kid with another man during one of those times and he still kept getting back with her. He was clearly unhappy in his relationship and she was even at the point of starting to move in with her parents because they were fighting so much, but he would still see her often.

After a few months of us talking every day, playing guitar and drinking beers, and just getting closer, I decided that if I really wanted to be with him, I would have to take a chance and tell him. He is the kind of guy that is loyal to a woman and I knew that as long as that skeez had a hold of him he wasn't gonna tell me how he felt. I could see that he cared for me, I could just see it in his eyes.

One night he was driving me home and I just blurted it out.
I said "I think you're really awesome."
He said "I think you're really awesome too."

Then we talked about his relationship, how he was very unhappy and wanted to break up with her, but that we should be friends for a while until he ends it. It took only a few days for him to make up his mind and choose the better woman. Our one year anniversary is on May 29th, we are so happy together! We're even planning a move to Costa Rica this Fall!

I say, if you have strong feelings for this guy, let him know. Don't expect anything back yet, just put it out there and let him know you're there for him if anything should happen. It shouldn't affect your friendship if you don't push any boundaries (jumping on him and making out with him - haha!) Good luck!!!!

 

Your story makes me happy. I am glad things worked out for you! Thanks for the advice as well. I've been thinking lately that saying something as simple as "I think you're awesome," really might be the best course of action. That way it will be out there, he can do what he wants with that information, and I'll get a clear picture of how he feels either way.

 

Its in his kiss that's where its

 

Does he love me? I want to know. How can I tell if he loves me so?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQvnr-hREz4"]YouTube - Its in his kiss - Tiny Toons

this video fucking rocks, by the way. I just found it. I forgot how much I loved Tiny Toons.

 

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