So, I have been fan of analsex since I can remember and I have had it with almost everyone of my ex girlfriends for the last 15 years. Three years ago I met my current girlfriend and she was basically an anal virgin. I put the cards on the table in an early stage and told her about my penchant for analsex - she was very open minded and gave it a try and loved it. Orgasms were much stronger, more passionate and.....you guys know the rest. Before I knew it we had an anal-only sex life :sunny: After a while she started getting urinary tract infections. She had them treated but they come back stronger and more violent than before. And last year she went about two months without treatment because she thought she could self treat it by drinking a lot of cranberry juice and water....big mistake. Apparently this infection found it way up to the kidney which then shut down - causing a bunch of other problems. I won’t go into details but it was pretty bad. She is slowly recovering now but anal is a no-go for her and I totally understand. I love her and don’t want to cause her any more pain. I felt really bad about it too. Anyway, this whole thing has put a wet blanket over our sex life which has become less frequent and quite "vanilla". Sometimes I lose the erection during sex and sometimes I don’t cum but usually it works out nicely...... but ..... vanilla sex simply does not do it for me, it never did. When I watch porn it is only anal and when I fantasize it is only anal, no exceptions. She has noticed that and is really frustrated she can't satisfy me the way she wants and I guess she misses that good sex we had before. And that is were we are today. We are by nature both very sexual persons so this is kind of big thing for us but we are clueless what to do. Can you guys and girls give us some ideas? We would probably be willing to consider everything and anything. She has said it is better we break up so I can find someone else’s ass to abuse but she is the one for me so this is not an option. Threesome? I would be ok with it, but she is a very jealous type so I sadly think that would be a recipe for disaster. Go behind her back? No, I love her to death and I haven’t cheated before. Don’t want to start now. Besides, I love seeing and feeling her getting anal orgasm more than my own. Get anti-analsex psychological treatment? That would be like castrating me. As to WHY she got these infections, no idea. I never did ass-to-pussy with her and after a while I got afraid to do her ass in doggy because of lube and ass juices running down the crack to her pussy might cause the infection. It seemed like no matter how careful we were that infection came back. Hell, even when we stopped having analsex she got infections. I was like wtf?!?! I believe it was mostly caused by her almost compulsory need to clean her pussy all the time. I am no expert but the pussy is self-cleaning right? And aren't you suppose to leave your natural vaginal bacteria (or whatever you call it) to do its job? After we stopped having analsex the infections still kept coming back the doctor told her to stop ramming up industrial cleaners in her uterus and stop wearing that pad some women likes to wear. And when she stopped doing that, the infections also stopped. Coincidence? Maybe not, but anal is still off the table anyway. Sorry for the long post.
Dude, you need to shell out money for a gynecologist to treat her. It will be likely she will be on antibiotics until she recovers. After she fully recovers and wants you in her ass again, go ahead and keep fucking her in the ass hard. Until then, quit thinking that this is a permanent condition when it is actually a temporary one. I suggest waiting it out for one more year, and if she still won't do anal, it will be time to move on because if she won't give it to you, over time you will instinctively search for someone else who will. "I love you" in the Backdoor Man's world translates to "I enjoy fucking your ass." Anal sex is part of you, no doubt, and without it from her you would be incomplete.
When she douches (cleans out her vagina) she is killing the good bacteria that keep the bad ones in check. If she has that "not so fresh feeling" there are wipes on the market that allow her to wipe the exterior of her vagina and remove any funky smell. From the information you provided, it seems unlikely that anal sex had anything to do with her problem. I would have her gyno refer her to a urologist. Here is a link to an article on WebMD regarding douching: http://women.webmd.com/vaginal-douching-helpful-or-harmful Some of the complications/side effects are pretty bad, such as higher cervical cancer risk. I completely understand how you feel regarding vaginal sex. It really does nothing for me. Luckily for me, my wife feels the same way. She has only had one yeast infection in the last 20 years, which may not have even been related to the anal sex. I had one reproductive tract infection (RTI) in all this time. When I told the urologist my wife and I had regular anal sex, he said I was just as likely to get it from oral sex. Much to my surprise, he also said he thought I was a lucky guy. Good luck! I hope she gets the treatment she needs and lays off the douching. With any luck, you'll be back in her ass in no time.
do what the above posts say, and in the meantime, buy one of those anal-type flashlight mastabatory toys dont give up yet!
thank you for the posts. My girl read this thread and said I provided wrong information. She says she never douches but only clean the vagina externally - and she says she always pee after sex. She has been to several gynos and urologists and every time it is the same bacteria, e-coli. How the e-coli found its way up into her bladder when we didn't even had anal sex I do not know - she says it is because she did me with a strap-on which happens occasionally.
Have you ever gone down on her ass orally? You can get e coli from anal/oral contact, and if you then did vaginal/oral, it can transmit the e coli into her urethra.
Isn't e-coli a food-bourne illness? That would cause severe gasterintestinal upset, not UTI's, I thought, but I could be wrong and am too lazy to google. Either way, perhaps it isn't totally you. This is gonna sound silly, but after you're done fucking her butt and she pees after sex, is she wiping FRONT TO BACK or BACK TO FRONT? Wiping back to front will get all of your lubes, jizz and ass juices into her vagina and can cause havoc to her lovely lady parts. Another thing to think of is how she is washing. Every lady loves to smell clean and feminine, but some body washes/shower gels are absolutely terrible for vaginal pH, and it also depends on the woman. If her vaginal pH isn't within normal levels, she could have an off odor, unusal discharge and even get infections, such as UTI's. And also, if she just has her loofa/bath sponge/wash cloth and is just rubbing a-scrub-a-dub-dub all over the place down there and isn't using an antibacteral body wash, and she scrubs her ass and the scrubs her pussy, there could be a potential transfer of ass debris that is harmful to vaginal health. The bubbles from the soaps (and eventhe soapy residue! Not all soap has actual 'soap' in it) can irritate the vagina. Good luck on your quest for a life long relationship with you, your woman, and anal sex.
A urinary tract infection from anal sex? That's odd. You aren't double dipping and not telling us are you? My wife came to prefer anal sex not only for the great orgasms but because she has not had a urinary tract infection ever since we graduated to anal only. Vag sex, with no anal play at all, almost always gave her an infection. Good luck figuring out the cause of the problem.
She had the right idea with the cranberry juice, but the problem is that most juices on the market are mostly sugar (bacteria love sugar) and water or other juices mixed with cranberry and not pure cranberry juice which would be VERY tart. The active ingredient in cranberry is d-mannose, that's what cleans out her kidneys and bladder. The concentration of d-mannose in juice would not be nearly high enough to have a therapeutic effect. My wife had problem with UTI's before and this is what I did. D-mannose supplements for 30 days along with colloidal silver (silver 100) for 30 days. I recommend silver 100 over other brands not only because the micron-size but because silver 100 has a patented silver ion delivery system that allow MUCH more bio-availability than any other silver I have used before. http://www.amazon.com/Now-Foods-D-Mannose-Powder-3-Ounce/dp/B000HCMK90"]Amazon.com: Now Foods D-Mannose Powder, 3-Ounce: Health & Personal Care I also recommend sovereign silver as a close second option to silver 100. http://www.silver100.com/ All those antibiotics in the hospital don't work very well, the infections just kept coming back trust me my wife is a nurse. After we did the silver 100 and d-mannose NO MORE PROBLEMS! Colloidal silver is the best antibiotic/antiviral on the planet and it comes right from nature. The d-mannose is used to flush the bacteria out of her urinary system and the silver is a powerful antibiotic that kills off what ever is left. Remember, hospitals make money with REPEAT business, so curing people is not nearly as profitable. A hospital above anything else is a business, period! Sucks that your girl tried just using juice and wound up getting a serious kidney infection and is now turned off from anal, I wish you would have posted sooner this advice would have truly helped her. But, you guys need to work more on hygiene as well, this will prevent the infection in the first place. Remember, 1 oz of prevention is worth a pound of cure. She needs to clean her ass before AND after sex.
