Am I a piece of shit?

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by greg2011, Apr 12, 2011.

  1. greg2011

    greg2011 Guest

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    so, I just turned 18 last month

    Ive started dating a girl whos 15, (she turns 16 2 months from tomorow) and I dont know what to do..

    I was always the one who thought that 15 is waaay too young for an 18 year old, and Ive always dated older girls. But I really like her a lot.

    we havnt had sex or anything, but I know that if we continiue dating, its going to happen. (not sure if she´s a virgin or not)

    i dont know what to do.. should I just break it off now? (that would suck.. i really like her)

    or am I making a bigger deal out of this than it actually is?
     
  2. FreshDacre

    FreshDacre Senior Member

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    Yeah society makes that kind of shit a big deal so take it easy. If you can't go out with her for 3 more years without fuckn her then break it off. Or just be shady and break the law I don't care. But its pretty harsh punishment for that underage shit I hear.
     
  3. trippychic09

    trippychic09 Member

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    age is just a number dear... although the whole sex thing is kinda sketch, with her being under age and all. but that choice is up to you. my advice is to just take it slow, dont rush into anything. really get to know her and see if she is really what you want. just be careful not to get charged with sagitory rape or anything like that. best of luck to ya
     
  4. sodabandito

    sodabandito Member

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    Yeah, I got to agree. Even though you like her and it will suck to break it off, it would suck so much more to end up in Chris Hansen's kitchen on Dateline. Trust me, man, this kind of drama will haunt you long after she is in her thirties and has long forgotten about you. Just being real man.
     
  5. greg2011

    greg2011 Guest

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    wow.. so I´m in Colombia (moved here about 2 years ago) and I´m looking up their sex laws. (since that seems to be the main concern..)

    apparently age of consent here is 14. (according to wikipiedia)

    Sex isnt my main goal or anything, it was just my main concern because of the age thing.

    so, I guess ill have to think about it...
     
  6. newbie-one

    newbie-one one with the newbiverse

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    bro, you're two years and two months older than her. it's not that big a difference in age

    certainly don't push her into anything if she's not ready. you can take things gradually

    but if she's ready to be fucked, go ahead and fuck her. you don't have to be all scared about it

    just don't go faster than she is ready
     
  7. MagicalTophat

    MagicalTophat Member

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    If its legal and she's emotional stable enough, go for it. But trust me, younger girls can SEEM to be chill and stable but may end up way too attached and unable to deal with it when things come to an end.
     
  8. The_Phantom

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    Something more for you to consider.

    The more she is willing to have sex, the more likely she is to become pregnant. For some reason, when a woman is most fertile, she is also more inclined to have sex.

    A substantial number of teen relationships fizzle when pregnancy enters the picture. Most times, there are also legal issues that arise, not to mention what parents have to say about it when they find out. And, it's a bit difficult to keep something like that away from them.
     
  9. Fingermouse

    Fingermouse Helicase

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    This is clearly fine. You're two young people doing young people stuff. Enjoy it.
     
  10. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    I wouldn't worry about it. Not that I'm even for the whole age of consent laws in their current forms to begin with, but the way I understand is that they often also have what is known as "close-in-age exemption". Usually around 3 years difference, though it varies in each state or country(mind you some countries don't even have this). Anyway you look at it, you should be fine.

    All the best. :)
     
  11. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    I feel it's as big a deal as you make it. And that also goes for jail. :eek:
     
  12. lunarverse

    lunarverse The Living End

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    I don't see a problem. If she's above the age of consent and she's willing to have sex (perhaps not right now, but maybe in the future) than there's no problem.

    Keep in mind though, many younger girls 15-18 can get very attached after sex, especially if the guy is their first. You'd be a piece of shit if you fucked her and left her. However if the relationship runs its "natural" course, no problem.
     
  13. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    a 2 year age difference is nothing. it's probably about as common among high school couples as same-age. and it's legal. so i see no problem.

    of course, if you don't feel like she's mature enough, then move on.
     

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