What's it like to be in love?

Happy BIRTHDAY TOO YOUUU :baby:... :gorgeous: :ears:

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I heard you're a hippy defined by yourself, thanks hippy for wishing me a happy birthday on the incorrect date!!
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Oohh haha you're so very welcome!:daisy::sunny:

 

The above 3 posts are the answer to the thread question.

Where's my Cake it's my birthday!

 

Finally, words I can understand. Joking. :2thumbsup:

 

I know what you mean. Love is just one of those things. When you know, you know. I thought I was in love a couple of times before really falling in love, but once you start to fall in love you just know that this time, its for real. Thers nothing else in this world that feels like it. Its like a puzzle piece falling into place.

 

you know it's love if it lasts longer than this thread.

 

hahahahhahaahhahaahhaa

 

In effect you're asking for a man who's attracted to your personality but not to your body. There's nothing wrong with being loved for exactly who you are, 'physical flaws' included. You say a tiny minority of guys could find you physically attractive, and most of them would be attracted specifically to your condition. What about the men who are attracted souly to girls with huge busts and tiny waists? Trophy wives perhaps. It's a physical attraction. Like men would give as big a shit if they had tiny busts and huge waists.

My point is that there are lots of people with a whole variety of physical (and mental) 'flaws' that feel like you. Not that understand you and what you've experienced, but who feel the same way; that they won't ever find love.

I often think I won't ever find true, perfect requited love. When you find it, you hold onto it because it's hard to come by. It's not just hard to come by for you, it's hard for all of us.

 

But that's the whole point. I wouldn't be being loved for who I am. I am more or less genetically female, and only a mistreated intersex conditon in childhood left me with some secondary male sex characteristics. I am female, and have only ever identified myself as female, so to me there is everything wrong with someone being attracted to me because they dont see me as a real female, or some sort of "shemale" or "hermaphrodite". To compare my situation to men who are attracted to huge busts and tiny waists is silly, because they are still attracted to those women as women, and just have a preference for certain female physical attributes. Being "loved" for being "part male" is not loving me exactly for who I am, and so the situation is totally uncomparable with the scenario you just mentioned. Its more comparable to someone having a fetish for a physical deformity or disability.

The legacy of what happened to me has been the bane of my life, and to have someone finding that a good thing, and actually preffering that I've been left like this, is something that would leave me feeling disgusted and deeply uncomfortable. Being loved purely as a woman is loving me for who I am, and that is why it is very unlikely I will ever find someone who will be able to do that. My desires and needs as far wanting to find love goes are no different than for any other heterosexual female. However, having those needs met is a lot harder for me than it is for most other women.

Well, if it's hard for normal everyday people to come by, what chance have I got?

 

that good huh ?
not getting laid is about the best thing that could ever happen to anyone.
i like this definition the best

 

I like this idea in a way or another.

 

It's like nothing else matters and the world goes on without you and you're just lost
It's like being on a really awesome drug

 

Where you connect and really feel comfortable around each other. Where you can trust each other without any doubts. Where you both accept each others flaws and mistakes. where you feel like you can understand each other. when you care about each other a lot. and when this feeling lasts at least beyond 7 years then you can for sure say it is love.

 

its like being born and dying over and over again