Hi, my name is Andy, and I have just outed myself and I feel fantastic. I'm 35, but from the age of 15, i've known that I felt attrated to both men and women. What confused me is that it wasn't in the same way. I have all the 'traditional' feelings towards women for a man, but I also have a strong sexual attraction towards men who I consider good looking. I thought it was just because I am quite an artistic person, and I was admiring them from the artistic side, but it goes much deeper than that. I came out as bi yesterday to a male friend who is gay, and he has been so supportive. I don't know about sharing it with anyone else at the moment, as I am still getting used to admitting it to myself, but I have made the first step.
Welcome Andy1975!! I hope you like it here. Taking the first step is always good. As far as telling others do that when you are ready. Its great that you have a friend that knows and it supportive.
Thanks very much Charmed262, and BTW I love the poster!! I suppose this has all come about because of the mad few years I've had recently. As I said before, I've had these feelings for quite a while, and never had the the guts to do anything about it; just watched from the sidelines, getting more and more confused. My life then changed dramatically in 2006 when I was diagnosed with testicular cancer, which reoccured in 2009. If you do the sums, TC x2 = no testicles . So I now face a life as a eunich, and testosterone replacement. I had even convinced myself that my feelings were all part of the traumas I went thorough, but this doesn't add up for the feelings I had before. I decided that I'd had enough of fooling myself, and that it was time to be true and face up to who (and what) I am. Life is too short not to.
Your very welcome Andy. Thanks. I'm sorry to hear about what you have went through. You are very right life is to short to hide who (and what) you are. I can somewhat understand what you are going through. Much like you I did not want to face who I was. I struggled with the fact that I am bisexual for years. Then I decided much like you did that life is to short to run and hide from who you are. I am only out to friends and some family (I have some close minded family.)Live each day like its your last. Believe in who you are and don't let anyone tell you other wise.
congrats Andy. you're moving in the right direction. being honest with yourself is one of the most important things in life. you gotta build your life around things you want and like. welcome to the HF.
Hi everyone. If I'd known the HF was so welcoming, I'd have joined years ago. Anyway, today was a REALLY big day. I decided (on the spur of the moment) to tell my parents on the way home from work. They couldn't have been more supportive and understanding. The obviously asked a lot of questions (how long have I felt that way? Why didn't you tell us sooner? that sort of thing), but basically said if it makes me happy, they are happy for me. I didn't know I had such right-on modern parents!! I also told my sister, and she was the same as them, so that is all the close family who know. We have decided not to tell anyone else for the time being, unless I get into a serious relationship, which does make a lot of sense. My mum did say that it is just like me to be confused. "Why can't you be straight up gay, and not like girls at all". I THINK she was joking.
Thats great!!!! Its always good to have family that is supportive. Its great that you can be honest with your family.
Sorry to disappoint Plasticfantasticlover, but I have fallen from the bi waggon. Having undertaken some exhaustive (and exhausting) testing of both straight and gay porn over the last couple of days, it seems that I am now OFFICIALLY 100% GAY. Ladies no longer do anything for me (sorry). It seems that that part of my brain has been switched off with the realisation of what I truely am. To be honest, although I thought the idea of being bi meant that it gives you more choice, I'm happier to think that the conflict has been removed for ever. So, it is bon voyage to my (for a short time) bi brethen, and hello sailor!! Andy xx PS - this does go to show how mixed up I had become with myself.
