So i met this girl that i really like in my class, she is really pretty and really nice/cool. I kept on thinking about how she might be the right person to be my girlfriend, but then i was talking to my buddy and he asked me who it is, and he knows her. He told me that she has a baby. Honestly i'm not as interested anymore, for one thing i don't have much money at all. For another being a dad is a huge responsability especially at 18. I really like this girl, but i'm confused now on what i should do. My friend says i should just forget about her. If i was to be her boyfriend, i figured the baby wouldn't be my problem so much unless the relationship went further. In which case i would love to help with the baby. I kinda would like perspectives from other guys, but girls responses are welcome too.
first q is high school or college (18 can be either) secondly, you wouldn't be the dad. baby has a dad, or at least a sperm donor. dating with a kid is rough but can be done. How about just hanging out with her and see if she is gf material?
slow down man, if you did date her it would not make you the father. It is true you don't want to jerk around with a mother, she probable has enough problems in her life. Personally I lean towards caution in my advice and if you just want some sex and company you should find another girl. If you are a dedicated caring guy and really feel a spark you could ask her out and just take it one date at a time.
Yeah i really like her more than any other girls iv'e met. Iv'e already been "hanging out with her" in class, and it seems like she likes me, i just got her number today. I'm going to give it a shot see what happens. I do feel like i'm a dedicated caring guy.
There are an infinite variety of relationship types aside from "play house" mom-and-daddy. Additionally, there are many stages that you have to go through if you want a play-house relationship, and placing your worries on a play-house scenario as the only option before you even have a relationship per se would make me nervous. But who knows, relationships are mysterious. Good luck! :biggrin: Edit: And even if you try play-house and it doesn't work, you may be the better for it. Edit2: Or not.
just be friends with her... hang out a while go out to some places and chill and see where it goes from there... you might go to know her better than you do now and find out you hate the chick... or you might find out you love her and the kid could be an extra... kids are awesome but they do come with the territory when you date a single mom... thts something you have to accept no way around it... you cant evolve your relationship with the girl from friends to more than friends if you cant accept the child... im not saying its your to take care of but the child will be as much a part of the relationship as anything else... just start off slow and figure where you want to go after a while... if its not something you want you need to be straight if with the chick and just let her know you want to keep being friends
Well I haven't seen that girl I met in math class since, I actually failed that math class also. But I did meet somebody else that is really keeping my attention.
haha school is such a good way to meet people, but meeting people can make school way harder. I too have gotten a bad grade in a math class because I was interested in someone there. We flirted constantly and I don't remember shit about geometry. AND I blew my chances with him but he actually turned out to be a great friend anyhow.
if she is 18 and has a kid she is most likely going through a lot of hard times I'd imagine. I'm gonna assume you want a ladyfriend to have someone to be real with and connect to emotionally so in that respect she may appreciate you and it could be a good experience. The other guy is right too: don't go into knowing the girl expecting to get right into a relationship (or better yet live life without any expectations at all) or it will just come to be a shitty one. Furthermore unless you actively want to be a part of the kids life I'm sure she wouldn't pile the responsibility on you.
It's always nice to have a follow up on these things hahaha that's the great thing about forums like this that are around for so long with the same group of people, you actually can see people's lives change and keep up with what is going on with them. Makes it feel like a real community, quite nice.
Yeah, I was too honest about some things not really sure if shes that into me anymore. How would you know trippychick lol? No way you could possibly know I don't even know who you're talking about anyways. Oh woah this threads fuckin ooldd. Who the hell revived this one? lol.
