In a psychology class concerning aging and sex. I have met three people recently, my age (in college) whose first gay experiences (in early teens) were with much older gay men (in their forties, fifties and sixties), who were strangers in neighboring towns, or friends of relatives. Admittedly, my own homosexual sexual imaginings had always been of the older gay male. What is the gay view on older/younger relationships? Are gays more accepting of the older/younger relationship? Is the gay community youth-centered? Why might the older gay male be appealing to the younger male? How have your individual experiences involved these questions? How has your attraction, your attraction to a certain age group perhaps, changed with time? Would you consider an age-disparate relationship for yourself, why or why not?
What is the gay view on older/younger relationships? the consensus? there's no such thing. every person has his own views on things, generalizing opinions to the level of groups of people with the same sexuality is nonsense. gays may come off as more tolerant, because most have gone through a personal experience with other people's intolerance, but that doesn't translate into a single attitude/opinion/point of view that can be applied to all gay guys. so from my viewpoint: subjectively a very huge age difference seems weird to me, objectively i don't care. everyone can be with whoever they want. Are gays more accepting of the older/younger relationship? gays have their own different views on things just like heterosexuals do. Is the gay community youth-centered? i don't think it's any more youth-centered than the heterosexual community. Why might the older gay male be appealing to the younger male? hmmm.....i certainly don't get what older guys see in twinks. but the other way around....probably maturity, experience, sth along those lines. maybe some guys just are attracted to certain age groups. could be various reasons. How have your individual experiences involved these questions? ? involved? How has your attraction, your attraction to a certain age group perhaps, changed with time? it changes as i get older. meaning, the older i get so do the guys i'm attracted to. i've had some deviations with some specific individuals, but generally i've always been most attracted to guys +/-5 years my own age. Would you consider an age-disparate relationship for yourself, why or why not? no. unless i got to know the guy in depth and really formed some connection with him, that would inspire the relationship, but by default no. so far that hasn't happened. i just don't have much in common with guys much older or much younger than me. so there's no ground to build a relationship on.
I'm attracted to old and young guys but I think what I like about older guys is the idea that they are more mature, more financially stable, more experienced, and since I'm young it makes me feel more wanted. Like they're getting something they can't have easily I guess. It's also to me the feeling when you're little and see grown men that you're sexually attracted to but of course it would be taboo to do anything with them. When you get older sometimes that feeling is still there even though its no longer taboo. Idk but I'm into "daddy" types although it creeps me out to use that term I still like them. Another thing which creeps me out to talk about to but could maybe subconsciously have something to do with it is that when I was young I was much closer to my dad than my mother. I think Freud would say that young boys fight with their fathers to be closer to their mothers and that has something to do with their sexuality but I never had that dynamic when I was young.
Since the 9th grade I’ve wanted to be taken over by an older guy preferably a married one. Even though to this day I want to get a serious pounding from an “adult”, I wouldn’t want my son to have a relationship with an older man. I don’t know how life would have been for me if every fantasy of mine came true.
Well I'm 30 and the guy I'm currently dating is only 18, and my last boyfriend was 19. I'm very feminine and I look at lot younger than my age, so I don't think age is a factor with them. I've been with people my own age and with guys much older. I'm strictly a bottom, and I and get more excitement/just enjoy being submissive to much younger guys, as opposed to older ones. Another factor I consider is 18-20 yr olds have had less sexual partners and less likely to have and STDs, than someone who was sexually promiscuous in the 1970s-80s. Just my opinion though.
