talking about yourself... i realize how often i talk about myself... do you talk about yourself a lot? even when it is not overt, even when it's not obvious.... it seems like everything i say comes back to myself... maybe it only seems that way in retrospect, when you reflect on past things... i don't think so though... i feel that i am trying to talk about myself even when i i am saying something completely else... but maybe all we can talk about is ourself - maybe that is alright, because all we know how to talk about is our self - ourself is all we have really truly experienced -- i would like to believe that is true.. but it feels self-indulgent to me to believe that... what do you think??
That really got me thinking. I think a lot of people mostly talk about themselves, but then again I have been called selfish a few times before. I think mostly because since a little kid I was always by myself.
Yep, I vent a lot on here, I think it's better to release that stuff than bottle it inside. Aside from on here though, I rarely talk about myself in any detail.
talking about yourself referencing experiences similar or displaying the topic within the conversation is how one connects and communicates
I talk about myself on here too, but not very much in real life. I have a friend that talks about herself aaallll the time, and it drives me crazy. I'm very careful not to end up like one of "those people" so I always try to talk about neutral topics or about the other person.
Hi Mason Grey, Thanks first of all for sharing your thoughts and insight on the subject, very enjoyable read. Curiosity leads me to ask if you've considered this insight you’ve shared as: reaching a new maturity level in your life, perhaps? :sunny:.....While we all begin life lacking experience to compare our lack of experience to. We begin far too conscious of ourselves and feel very apart from others. Once a mature level is experienced (IMHO) we begin to realize that all the people around us are just here figuring it out for themselves as well and we then begin to enjoy a connect and an appreciation for those that have lived a little (or a lot) longer then we have. Having people we can bounce ourselves off of meaning: trusting friends and relatives who are consistently reliable forms of support are a huge attribute to all of us. At least that’s what I’ve experienced from this neck of the woods anyway.*wink* -Again Thank you for bringing insight and this discussion of the subject to light also for the opportunity for us all to share our insights, Peace.
I think that most times there is a little bit of each person in most of what they post. We share from experiences we have or thoughts that we have so it stands to reason that when we post some of who we are is there.
i definitely talk about myself quite a bit in real life, and i wish people would talk about themselves in real life more often. i feel like we all have lived such wonderful, intricate, and interesting lives and there is so much to be learned from our stories, that it would be wrong NOT to talk about ourselves with one another. Hearing about other people's lives and experiences broadens my view of the world more than anything, especially when talking to people that are very different from me. And even when we aren't directly talking about ourselves, i feel like we are still expressing so much of our "self" in our dialogue, views, and opinions on the "neutral" topics we share, that we might as well be talking about our self.
it's my penis. it's hidden somewhere in each of my posts, but you have to look really close to find it..
in a conversation, you have to reflect what their saying to your situation, if not you'd be boring. that aspect i dont consider selfish, its just normal. but selfish is not giving someone else the opportunity to do the same. i'd say i'm self-absorbed, but not selfish because i like listening.
There's a difference between someone who talks about themselves all the time and a "one-upper". a one upper usually interjects annoyingly with bullshit to elevate their ego. I have come to terms with the fact that most of my posts are self absorbed "look at what I did" posts. I enjoy showing off. I have made a conscious decision to try to give feedback to other people when they appropriately talk about themselves, too, but I don't know if i put enough effort forth to do so.
If you want someone to like you, just get them talking about themselves a lot. people eat that shit up.
That's how I see it. I like reading posts where others share things about themselves, their ideas, thoughts, etc. We get to know others and relate to the world around us by relating to it, talking about it, and sharing our experiences with it. People matter to me more than random subjects, so it's nice being able to relate to and get to know people. I feel like I've learned so much in the time I've been here from what others have to say about themselves, their world, and things that have gone on in their lives, how they've dealt with it, etc. It's been a real learning experience for me and has really helped me mature quite a bit (with the exception of my sense of humour). I'm grateful for the stories people relate about themselves, it brings a lot of humility to the forums. Also, being a younger a person; getting to know some really great mature people (40 to early 70's) on here, what they've lived through, what they learned from it, etc., has really given me a lot of faith and confidence about my own future. I now look forward to aging so that I can enjoy the same compassion and wisdom that so many here have shown me. Judging by the older adults I've known personally in the past, I was starting to see growing old as a sort of wearing down of ideals and personality. I now know that's no longer the case. I probably wouldn't still be here if it was simply an impersonal exchange of words about a third party subject. I can find that anywhere. This is the 'talking about yourself' thread right...
I talk about myself a lot. I don't think it's a character flaw. What have you got to talk about in day to day conversation. Yourself, other people, or other events. You talking about yourself and listening while someone else talks about themselves is what most of human bonding's about.
