Hello everyone! I have born with a disease, its called haemophilia. If I starts to bleed, it will not stopped, until I get my medicine trough injection. 8th factor is missing from my blood, and it must be substituted with this medicine. -When I was younger, I was not able to accept this fact, and always played soccer with the other kids on concrete, until I have got osteocondrosis(bone problem in my right ankle). -After this, I did not do anything anymore, because I was kind of scared of the long term consequences. -Everybody underestimated me because of my sickness, and that felt very bad. Not only I have never been able to feel myself in a mainly way, but I turned out as a coward. My question is what is like being a man?What is like being brave and strong?
youre brave enough to ask the question.... and man enough to know your weakness... thats what it is to be a man.. you do not have to prove anything to anyone, we are not slaves to any masters but ourselves.. I would feel like a man if I put together this model of a Hearse together. It looks like it will be a really cool car. Instead i put it off and have no patience for it.. Patience would make a man out of me, none that I have.. Be proud you have patience for your illness, some people wouldnt be man enough to be in your shoes... you could also join a shooting range, get yourself an Colt M14 and fuck shit up..
Thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it! Generally in our world, is no one patient enough though.
When somebody talks about thier accomplishments; tell them good... When somebody talks about thier feelings; say I understand.. and most of all ... Don't worry about what anybody thinks!
from my point of view---being a man is knowing who you are, what you want in life. it's not about buffing up and growing the biggest muscles in the world. or getting into fights and coming out as a winner. you win some, you lose some. it's about staying true to yourself. living your life through positive and the negative experiences and valuing both. following through your ideas.
Why do you say you're a coward? Knowing your limits and learning to live with doesn't make you a coward. Was there something I missed?
You are not a coward. It must be terrible living with that illness. It sounds like you've been able to accept your illness and take responsibility at the sacrifice of your own interests. Many men would not be able to do this. To do what is necessary even though you do not like it is what I think part of being a man is.
Thanks for all of your replies! Where was I acting as a coward? For example -I went abroad to gain "language skills", and the school where I went, found a place for me to live. I had to live with guys who came from other countries, and not everyone could speak english, and that made it a little harder to live together. The problems were caused by ukraine people. These guys were cool sometimes, they did give me cigarettes and, I smoked with them, but in overall they were rude, stupid, and aggressive. I hated being with them under the same roof. A quarrel was to begin between the ukraine guy and the venezuelan guy. They have been shouting, but none of them could understand a word. -In the end the venezuelan guy got kicked in the face by the ukraine guy. So I saw the opportunity to get them thrown out from the apartment, and I tried to use the "they are dangerous, and it is dangerous for me to live with them. After this I felt like I would be a traitor or something, because they have never even touched me.And the funny thing is, that nothing happened, eventually I was the guy who had to move out. At the time it seemed, that this the the way how I was punished by the world for my cowardly act There was one more incident by the second ukraine guy but in that I was not involved, because it happened on the street. Btw, my life is full of stories like this.
You're only 20, don't write yourself off as a coward. If you've done things in the past that you feel were cowardly or whatever, learn from them. Be honest with yourself and try to be the best possible version of yourself that you can be - I know that sounds hideously trite, but I can't think of any other way of putting it. Anyway, everyone has weaknesses, fears & insecurities, no shame in that, the thing to do is recognise them & strive to live in spite of them rather than letting them rule you. Easier said than done, but being a man's an ongoing thing & being a decent man is a day to day struggle that has to be worked at.
