Hi, I have recently got a new girlfriend but Im not too experienced. We have been sleeping together (not having sex) recently. Generally we spend like 40 minutes kissing and exploring each others bodies with our hands before going to sleep, the furthest it has progressed to is some naked rubbing but not penatration. I was wondering if anyone has any advice for good foreplay? And how I should touch her breasts, so far I have been very gentle and just brushed my fingers around her breasts and nipples. I'm sure we will move on to sex very soon but I want her to be nice and warmed up before hand, so what is the best way he get her wet with this type of foreplay? Thanks!
First off, every girl is different, so my method may not work for your girlfriend. I find that a lot of girls love it when you touch their nipples. If you focus on the nipples (don't be rough though) it will probably be a major turn on. There are a couple of different routes you could take from this point, but these are my suggestions... The first one: just play with her clit. A lot of guys think fingering is all about sticking your finger up her hole but really, focusing on the clit is what is going to turn her on. Be gentle, and if she starts getting really into it go faster. It is possible she may have an orgasm from this, but the chances are slim. The second one: have you considered going down on her? Eating a girl out really isn't for everyone, but for me it gets me wet the fastest. Hope I helped!
She is really sensitive around the pelvic region when I touch her there as I am when she touches me, so she normally jolts away when I start to go down there. I have asked to go down on her before but she didnt want to, I'm guessing she doesnt want to rush things? Or she is shy? I know she has had previous boyfriends and had sex with them before so Im quite sure what to make of it?
Before you try anything else, allow me to say what I always say... COMMUNICATE. Ask her what SHE likes. As BreakingBeautifully has said, every girl is different. It's better to ask be cause you'll know what SHE IN PARTICULAR likes. With that out of the way.... Sensual massage. This one is a great form of foreplay, plus, it's also relaxing for the one on the receiving end. Really the key is to take one step at a time. BreakingBeautifully has some very good tips. If I were to add, TEASE your girlfriend, lol. I mean not with words, but try to ALMOST touch the areas she wants you to touch, but DON'T actually touch... Try this for a while, it has been known to drive a girl wild. But it sounds to me like she wants to take things slowly, perhaps? This essentially leads back to the communication topic once again. Talk to her about this kind of stuff. Communication is the single most important thing in ANY relationship. All the best.
Alcohol might have helped but I ended up going down on her last night. I was circling her nipples lightly with my fingers and it worked, they were pretty hard, admittedly I maybe moved on a bit fast but I started stroking her pussy and once I noticed it was wet I started fingering her while kissing her she seemed to enjoy it so I eventually went down on her and she didnt try and stop me. I kissed around her pussy for a little bit but I was worried that she would lose her horniness so I started sucking in the top of her pussy and then started to finger her again at the same time in a downward motion. The only thing was that her friend was asleep (or at least I hope see was) in the same room, so I'm not sure if she wasn't making noises because she didnt want to wake her friend or because she didnt enjoy it? but she was still very wet inside her pussy but not much outside. We didnt have much communication and eventually I stopped. Another thing is she kept trying to put me on top with her legs either side of me like in the missionary position but I wasn't sure what she wanted me to so I just kissed her, and she would drag my hand away whenever I tried to stroke her pussy again. Do you think she wanted me to penetrate her? I didn't think so because her friend was in the room but I dont know why she kept trying to put me in that position. One thing about the communication aspect, I guess its because I know she is alot more experianced that I am and I dont want to ruin the mood or seem like an I dont have a clue by always asking her questions. Thanks for your help.
Next time just say "going down is new to me, so I hope you don't mind if I explore around a bit with my tongue to get to know the area better. you taste so good that i just want to lick you a little" it's okay to communicate. but its scary at first (as you seem to be sharing). so letting it slip that you are new there but she's so good and tasty you hope she doesn't mind if you lick her up a while is going to sound good to both of you.
Sex should be fun. Remember that. Don't put all of this pressure on yourself. Your still learning and experimenting-but have fun. Communicate. Joke about it. Ask her what she wants you to do. Tell her what you want to do. Ask her with a smile on your face-it will come out better.
every girl is different, so you are going to have to try a few things before you find what gets her going. Watch her body language cause it will change when you are doing something she likes. Also don't be scared to ask if she likes it. Don't ask it over and over, but its a good gage to see how she is feeling if you are not sure. Good Foreplay: Run your hands slowly over every inch of her body. Breasts, stomach, ass, clit. everything.
Thanks for the advice so far! Last night things were going as usual, we even communicated a little bit although when I asked her how to please her she just answered she wanted to know how to please me so that didnt help much.... especaily considering I have no idea how she can please me apart from jerking me off. Anyway, foreplay was going well, she was wet I had an erection then she says "want to do it?". At this point my erection decides to pack its bags and leave for the night, very frustrating!!!!!! I wanted to have sex with her but I could just not get an erection back after that. This has happened before but I dont know how to fix it. I feel comfortable with her for some reason my body wont let me have sex, the condom especially scares my penis. grrrrrr, I think my strategy is just to try and surprise my penis next time and not say we are going to have sex but just quickly throw a condom on it mid way through foreplay and hope its able to stay.
My boyfriend found it difficult to stay hard before and during sex when we first started dating, and I chalked it up mostly to the fact that he had little experience. With my coaching, he's able to last longer and longer every time we sleep together. If you really like this girl, and she feels the same, then she'll be understanding. It's a turn on to some girls if you admit you could use a few tips. It shows you trust her enough to be vulnerable and honest. Plus, being the sexy teacher is hot. You're very keen on pleasing her which is great but maybe you can tell her to play with your dick, give it stimulation right up until you quickly put the condom on and enter her. Practice makes perfect. And if you jerk off a lot, try not to the day you see her.
Gah! we still haven't been able to have penetration! Every time a condom goes on I lose my erection and it's game over :'(
