I know I'm wrong.....but starting not to care

Hmm. Well I was going to offer you something, although I'm not sure what - advice, words of encouragement...but I guess I don't need to. Its interesting to me that it ended up how it did because I'm in a similiar situation, except its a live in girlfriend instead of a wife in my case. I've often wondered what it would be like if we ever kissed or tried to kiss, if it would be weird or a disappointment compared to all these fantasies I've had about that moment.

Did you always feel like you had more of an emotional connection with this guy or was there a lot of lust there before you tried to kiss each other?

Do you feel disapointed about all the time you invested in crushing on him and imagining what it would be like to be with him?

I'm glad things turned out well, although I guess it still sucks that hes in a loveless marriage.

 

I would tell him you can't be with him anymore because of what it's doing to you. Give him space. Let him figure out for himself what HE wants.

I wouldn't touch him unless he has left his wife. You don't want to get in the middle of all that.

 

Yeah, it was waaayy more awesome in my imagination. In reality, it was just really weird and awkward. We definitely have a more emotional connection than anything. I don't think I have lust for him. I guess I just wanted to express the good feelings I have for him but lust? No. I think he is attractive and feel the urge to kiss him but it didn't work in reality.

I'm not disappointed about any time I spend thinking or talking to him. I just think he is great. Surprisingly, I am disappointed that there wasn't a strong physical connection to go along with everything else that is great about our friendship. Not because I wanted to be involved in an affair but because the idea of having all that I want in one person was exciting. its good that we don't have to hurt anybody or change our realtionship but, for a second there, I believed that maybe it could have been epic

And I do want him to leave her but not to be with me. I want him to leave because he is my friend and I want him to be happy. He's miserable and it sucks to see him like that. Its not my business what he decides but I hope that he chooses to be happy.

 

You only know his side of the story. It's easy for a guy to get involved with another person and not deal with things at home. It can get boring to come home to the same person every night, day after day, month after month, year after year. It's much more exciting to hit it off with the sweet thing at work. I haven't lived with her every day. She doesn't know about all my faults.

If I was you, I'd get away from this guy and make him sort out things on his own. You're not helping him any.

 

It should start from him. If he really loves you, he'll get a divorce. Do not let him cheat on his wife with you, even if she doesn't love him. If you were the wife? What would you feel? You should put yourself on her shoes. Ask him if he really does love you. And if he does, he won't think twice of divorcing.


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he got another job and is leaving. I'm heartbroken. We are just friends but not seeing him everyday is gonna hurt. I feel stupid for it cuz I know I'm too attached to him for what we are.......but like I said, feelings just are. So I'll spend some time getting over somebody that I was never with and hope that I can have, one day, what I had with him with somebody single.