I know I'm not alone in the "Been there...done that's" but I think I have a gay crush on my straight best friend. Ugh. She knows that I identify as gay and I know she identifies as straight but she admittedly has no real interest in sexual relationships. I don't know if I should flat out be like "If you were gay, I'd date you." or just let the whole thing slide and keep the madness bottled inside. What would YOU do?
I believe I have a little experience in this realm. In my case she does know how I feel about her and she's cool with it, in fact she loves when I flirt with her! She hints about coming over to my side often and has admitted to daydreaming about if we were to be together. It didn't make me feel great that she now knows but at her birthday party we did shotgun a little herbal refreshment and I thought my heart would explode in front of everyone. Gay girls and straight friends and the crushes we inevitably develop ...
Hello. I think I have some experience too from, perversely, the other end. I have never known my sexuality and still don't, but last year she started flirting with me. We were best friends, and eventually she asked me out. I was so terrified of my own sexuality that I completely destroyed our relationship. It took a year for me to realise that I am not straight. But I would be prepared to note that if you like this girl, and she believes she is straight, the realisation that she isn't could be destructive in the extreme for your relationship. Ultimately, I've ended up happier than I ever knew I could be and discovered who I am, but it took time and a lot of pain. Jen.
I might find a straight woman attractive time to time and we may click...but if she didn't flirt with me or show any hint that she is interested...i wouldn't pursue...but if i got even the slightest hint she liked me...i would pursue..but only if she is as hot/hotter than my ex lol...
So I handled the situation just as I said I would..."I'm not passionately in love with you, but if you were gay I would TOTALLY date you." We laughed about it, talked briefly about it, and I made gay jokes for the remainder of the evening...We laugh a lot, and we're as best as best friends can get, but we're not destined for each other, which is fine with me, I just don't want to freak her out...You know? Alright, that's all that I've got!
