This is hardly the first, or last, time this will come up. And this has one hell of a back story, so bear with me. I fell in love with my girlfriend last year. We became best friends, she asked me out, long story short I freaked out after telling my parents. While loving and accepting, yada yada yada, they refused to accept that I wasn't straight and kept telling me "but you've always wanted a family, children, you fancy men" etc. I also want to act, and was very concerned that not being straight would count against me, which they fostered. I broke up with her, which was torture for both of us. To try and get over her, I acted like I hated her. My parents have since decided that she alone is responsible for a great deal of my upset over the last year - while I suppose that is true, it's not because she did anything. It's because I loved her and couldn't accept that I wasn't straight. So. I am now dating her in secret. It is a total nightmare. My parents hate even hearing that I'm talking to her, let alone dating her. Secondly they don't know I'm not straight, even after last year, because I conceded that I didn't know and they assumed I'm straight. I came out to my sister, who was totally fine with it, but I love my girlfriend. I can see forever with her. And I need to tell my parents but dear lord, I don't know how. Sorry for the essay. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. Jen.
you broke up with her because of what your parents said? i've been there too, its not a good spot to be in. this issue is your parents' issue of accepting, not yours, and you shouldn't have to worry about staying away from your gf completely because of it. i would say your situation is more beneficial than coming out for the first time because what you would tell them is that this isn't just a silly phase, and the fact that you are telling them that you still have feelings for her proves it more. and even if they still say its a silly phase in your life, explain that even if it turns out to be a phase in the end, its not just silly, its a major part of your lovelife you or they shouldn't deny. also ask them exactly why they have a problem with it, and keep questioning that to provoke thought. you need to weigh the cost of "keeping them happy", with keeping yourself happy; draw a line somewhere. and how old are you?
That is one hell of a back story. You weren't kidding. I'm sorry your parents weren't receptive to the truth about you. And it is nothing to be ashamed of. In a way, I can relate. My parents know I'm bisexual, yet they only encourage me to date men. The same with my therapist. Coming out about being other than straight isn't easy, and its damn unfair. No one should have to endure what you and your girlfriend have gone through. My heart goes out to you both. Pixie
Hey boguskyle. Yeah, my parents psyched me out about a relationship, I broke up with her and lost her. I'm trying to get myself ready to tell them I'm at least properly out the closet - because either way, I'm in love with a girl. So they'll have to get used to that. I'm 17, so still living at home. My family life is a nightmare for a multitude of reasons, so talking to them tends to be difficult - to the extent that my girl has suggested I move in with her. She's 18, but only lives with her mum who a) knows and b) totally adores me , and I her. So yeah. I just don't know what to do now :/ Lol Pixie, I did warn thank you love, that does mean a lot. How did you tell your parents, if you don't mind me asking? Thanks for reading Jen.
