hey guys, well first of all, i must say i am 16 years old..... now, a year and a half ago, when i was 14, i met a girl whom i spent one night we and fell in love with immediately... now after that came almost two years of bullshit, confusion, and pain for me i won't get into. basically i was in love with her for at least a year and i didn't know if she loved me back because of rumors eetc and basically it made me insane, and strung. i was super into this girl, more than you can imagine.... now, since then, (i got over her around 8 months ago) i find that i have no feelings for anyone else... like i am incapable of liking a girl romantically, and i don't know why... I am worried that she was the one, and now that i lost her, i will never find one for me again. like i don't even know what it means to like a girl anymore. sure, i lust, and hook up, but i have not had feelings for any girls since her.... am i fucked for life? what's wrong with me? it is making me worry that i may either spend the rest of my life alone because i will not be able to have feelings for another girl or that i might be gay and have never known it until now... what is wrong with me? i am confused, and it's driving me crazy.
I wouldn't worry about it: usually it just takes some time and it seems that your breakup was fairly recent. You're still young and you'll meet someone else eventually.
i haven't had "feelings" for someone in a couple years. if you aren't meeting anyone, you aren't meeting anyone.
No man, you were just bitch slapped with the reality of how women really are. You are looking for that "oneness" with a woman. They are not that deep man, it's sad but true. Accept it and don't be mad about it. You can still have a great thing with a woman though. You just have to shift your perception some. Men are the poets and romantics. A man wrote Romeo and Juliette. We are the ones who sweep them off their feet. If you allow yourself to imagine them as more than what they are you will dissappointed repeatedly. They are just chicks man, sorry dude. That girl was not "the one", she was just the one who broke you in to a reality that you will get familiar with soon enough. Just get laid man and stop falling in love so fast.
Yeah. You don't need to be looking for that single female yet. Worry about that later. Buy a box of rubbers and have fun for now.
This. OP=hopeless romantic. I am, too, STILL. The only girl I ever trusted to any serious degree, with anything important, TOTALLY fucked me over. 98% of women are really shallow. It's hard to see this as a man, because we're not supposted to see this. Men evolved to presume women very complex, like some sort of puzzle. So we do the equivalent of using a governmental super computer to solve 2+2. And then when it says 6 we think there's some secret code, instead of realizing that it's just lying to us and/or broken. Meanwhile, women evolved to think that the worlds most unintelligent douchebaggy men are somehow mysterious and secretly subtle, romantic men, if you just look deep enough. They go chasing older men who don't care about them, and put themselves in horrible situations that WILL emotionally damage them-yes, I just said women evolved to put themselves in abusive situations, while thinking that the rest of the world looking out for them just doesn't understand what a catch this brutal brainless football player really is. She WILL be hurt, and then go on a slutty rampage lasting years, while she manipulates and tramples all over the nice guys who tried to save her from the asshole in the first place, and she might even trick one of them into having a kid, by saying that it's the last thing she wants and that she would do anything to avoid it, and then not telling him until it's born, as a hook to lead him around with because she's so wounded that she doesn't know that nice guys stay around because they're nice guys, not because you're a crazy bitch to them. And so continues the war of the sexes, simply because thousands of years ago things that made our species survive involved underhanded manipulation and whatever gets girls to have as much sex as possible, while somehow feeling bad about it and blaming guys. Yeah, I'm a bitter one (but I don't give up hope that eventually I'll either find a woman with a mans brain, or teach one to think like a man)
^ the above three posters obviously never met a woman in their life. OP don't listen to that childish nonsense of disappointed men, their opinions are based on their experiences with girls, exploring their sexuality, 1 -2 of those girls fucked with their feelings and they concluded that 98% of women are like that. Women are capable of deep feelings and you cannot imagine what a woman can do for a man she loves. You are still way too young and you have experienced the chemical impact of love on yourself for the first time. It was strong and overwhelming, but it definitely wasn't the one and only chance in your entire life to feel like that. As time goes by you will learn to enjoy what comes and let it go, when it goes. And I am positive that one day you'll meet someone who will never want to leave you and who will make you feel the same way about them. Just take it easy.
What a silly answer. Typical girl who thinks she's something deeper than she is. Also, your theory of women would almost be interesting, except that women grow out of...... girls. They become women after breaking a few guys and themselves. Which is exactly what I said: we HAVE to fuck up before getting it right, in the case of nearly everybody. But most people take themselves seriously about the whole thing (like political squawker here) The sexes do not understand each other, in such a perfect way that it causes the proliferation of our species at the cost of the happiness of the individual animals of the species. It's an accidental harmony, achieved when we fail, as we are destined to do, at the harmony that we attempt to create. Political squaw's name pretty much says what she thinks of herself and how downtrodden and whatever she is. It's part of the female identity, which involves resenting genuine care and help and considering it oppression, while loving your actual oppressors with all your super "deep" womanly ability. And part of being a man is falling for it hook line and sinker. I don't mean to rag on women, I just have a front row seat, being a strait guy. Neither sex would APPEAR made for the other, it's both of us, and only through this failing that I've explained that any(most)body survives. Logic alone wouldn't do it, or we would have evolved that way. Don't forget, we're just complex systems of interdependent chemical reactions. /most sexist post evar (PC's not always the way to bee) It's 7:08AM, about time to cry myself to sleep, if anybody needs anything.
you really shouldn't judge people by their nicknames on the internet son anyhow, not engaging in the gender battle with you, I am just going to point out, that it's not about that I think I am deeper than I really am, I know what I am. It's about YOU, thinking that you know what I am, that you know what I think about myself and that you know that I am wrong, which makes your opinions about anything be questionable and only reinforces my previous post. I am not a girl, I am a woman , you are still a boy though, it's time you start turning into a man.
Are you saying you take issue with my general model of evolutionarily compatible yet personally incompatible sexes? Because I'm quite proud of it I know at least one female who agrees with me, girls are programmed to put themselves in abusive, hurtful, pointless situations, before figuring that out. There's a way out, which is to be totally fucked over. I'm just giving you shit, not making any personal judgment on your character, maybe you've already gone through this unpleasant but generally necessary human bullshit, or maybe you're one of those lucky ones who's magically biologically exempt for some unfair reason.
I will explain to you my model of evolutionary compatible sexes in person. I am sure you will agree with me XD
I'm gonna have to be a little less pessimistic and tell you that what I think is that there is no such thing as ''the one''. There are many girls who can awaken those feelings in you. A real connection is rare, but it DOES happen every once in a while. Youre 16, relax, it'll come around again. I'm not saying the next time is going to work out though. Sometimes it happens and one of you isnt ready for it, sometimes the timing isnt right, sometimes it just doesnt work out, but you can see all of this as learning opportunities, because one day, everything will be aligned, and you will meet a girl you have a real connection to and is at the same place that you are - and that will grow in to a relationship.
Either you did not have the intellect to understand my romeo and juliet reference or grasp anything I said for that matter... or I hit a nerve... My guess is a bit of both.
Thank you for meeting my expectations of you. Oh and please check to make sure that I've spelled expectations right (I just couldn't be bothered), if not then you should have something amazing to say in your next post.
I've had a similar experience to yours. Had my heart broken when I was 19, a girl I was engaged to. She had been my only girl up to that moment. Since then, I've had infatuations here and there, but no mutual feelings for anyone quite the same way. I can almost feel sure that every girl that I like will despise or ignore me, and vice-versa. There are several explanations to this. The Freudian one (which must be true since he was into opiates and cocaine) is that I am seeking women who will reject me because, like my mom, they won't be sexually available to me. Which also explains my profound attraction to extremely promiscuous, ugly, and unfit-for-relationships women. In other words, I'm trying to fuck my mom. So, the gay thing is really softcore...once you go incest, you never go back. :biggrin: But, seriously, singlehood might not be as bad as you think. At least you won't have a nagging, soap opera watching, gossip magazine reading, credit card maxing, overeating, depedent in tow. Now go on out there and whore out with your cock out! :2thumbsup:
