Respecting your Elders.

So I work at a restaruant that is popular with older people and so I respect them all very much as they are customers, and I have no reason to disrespect them. I also work with older persons and an older gentleman that is 64. They all like my respect for others and maturity level. I was raised like this, and also feel if I want to be respected I should respect other's as well. So, I respect everyone and everything I can, except for my boss. He does not respect anyone or anything, and treats all his employees as if we are all beneath his respectable and knowledgeable self.
He gave me a raise, which I vocally was thankful for to him and I try to please him with my work. But, he usually puts down my work and finds side work for me, uses sarcasm when addressing my work and makes comments to my manager about how I don't do what I should. He stated I seem to not want the job(he is right as of recently). But my manager told him I am the best worker there and that I deserve better.
So, now the boss is always on me about some other odd and end task while I am picking up other's slack. It really disgusts me because this has happened before with similar bosses that think they're smarter and better and think because of their posistion of power they are able to put other's down. They never even work the job, except dealing with the money and being the "face" of the company. How are you supposed to work and respect someone that is your authority figure at that time when they aren't even working half as hard as you. I really don't like this about our culture, because I have realized this alot. It just makes me wonder how these people think they can just have the right to be so rude and yet expect respect back.

 

Respect is respect and assholes are assholes...therefore elderly assholes are simply assholes with lots of practice. As an "older gentleman" myself (65) I earn your respect only in so much as I am worthy of it. If I'm an asshole (and I qualify at times) you certainly are within your rights to regard me as such. Tell the old asshole you're really trying to do a good job and ask him to appraise you with a bit more clarity. If that doesn't work piss in his Geritol and turn him into AARP.

 

haha^^. thanks for the reply. i really like the people i work with, it's just that asshole, so i try to just bare with it. maybe i should just tell him how i feel sometime though, without the harsh words i would rather use.

 

Get another job or get a small tape recorder and record the butt hook and go over his head if you can show him dis-respecting you. But I will say that unless you work for yourself,you will find that there's always an ass wherever you work. Always. By the way,if you quit ,you can draw unemployment if you can show a clash of personalities drove you to quit if you were doing your job to the best of your ability.

 

^ thank you scratch. yeah, i have thought about quitting, but in michigan times are rough. i bare with it, it's good money and a good environment with the other co workers. the thing is, the boss has treated everyone with disrespect. it happens once a week really, and some past employees and current do have complaints against him. i just play it smart and stay a step ahead of him, do my job to help my co workers and move on.

 

You deal with shitheads and bullshit no matter where you work. Best thing to do is just go to work and do your job and then come home and forget about it.

 

Maybe if ALL of you complained about him to --say--the district manager(if there is such) they'd have a talk with him or fire his ass. I'm a shit stirrer when it comes to working people getting fucked over. My girl friend worked at a restaraunt in Hawaii where the management called meetings on a time when the place was closed and told them they would be fired if they didn't show up. I asked her if she punched her time card when she showed up and she said no--no one did. I told her fuck that--mandatory= paid. She punched in--the only one and the prick of a boss said in a pissed off manner-"I think Margaret has something to say" She told them how it was and everybody punched in after that. Fuck 'em.

 

For the most part, I prefer the elder generations.

But anytime someone talks down to me, or like I'm their son; I'm likely to put them in their place.
This mostly seems to happen at Walmart, when I have some sort've complaint =S

 

Take it easy now,son.jk. --------People that don't give respect don't deserve respect,regardless of age.

 

"age is just a number"..thats what they say when they want to fuck children

"respect your elders"...thats what they say when they want to belittle you

 

Haha, we used to not get paid for meetings, too. When a new manager came in and was asking her bosses about meetings and how we are supposed to get paid, they seriously said, "Just buy them a box of donuts, that's enough for them." And the box of donuts? Came out of the manager's pocket, not the company's. Then my boyfriend got a job there and at the first meeting, he asked how we'd be getting paid. The district manager stumbled and stuttered and eventually let us clock in. Stupid bitch. Now we always get paid for our meetings, so I'm glad he had the balls to stand up and say something. I was getting pretty sick of having to waste an hour of my time for that place every month and not getting paid to do so.

 

I find the majority tend to de-mature as they get older

"Life begins at 40" Is what they say when they've given up, the kids move out and yet they still spend all their time sitting on the couch watching TV

 

There's a certain disdain from "on high" against working people sometimes--well a lot of the time- that a fricken box 'a donuts won't change!! Dick-heads. Good for your boy friend. I could tell some stories about working in a Ford plant years ago. I won't ,but suffice it to say--a few cars caught on fire as they came down the line. Take no shit from management.

 

when you want to stay up past bedtime, "you're barely 15."

when they want you to clean the bathroom, "you're going on 16."



no i'm not 15. i was just having a childhood flashback.

 

After having a child I've come to the conclusion that I was right in thinking "they just had me so I could do dishes and mow the grass" My son's gonna wash a lot of dishes... I actually like cutting grass though. He'll definatly pick up sticks before I do it however.

 

How can you respect somebody that won't stand up for themselves?

 

I agree with you!

 

fooook respect.... it's all about growing old disgracefully :mickey:

 

What you describe at your employment is what in old school was said to be a management style. Today it is considered harassment. There are laws that protect against this but the onus is on the employee to prove it.

I state there are laws and there are but the reality is that many of those who are management/owners do not have people skills. It appears that you are employed by someone who come under that statement.

My suggestion to you is that you keep a log/journal of incidents including those who may witness the situations you describe. You may never wish to do anything with it but it will help to protect you in the scenario of either harassment, unjust dismissal or needing to validate a claim for future unemployment benefits if the need arises.

If you ever need to deal with any of those situations it will give you a record of a pattern which is legally what you would be required to produce.

 

A camera phone is a wonderful thing in cases like this...

As for the "respect your elders" part...

Respect is not earned simply by the passage of time, people must do things worthy of respect to become respected and continue to do them to maintain it.