So its basically a really long story, but I will try to shorten it down. Basically, about 3 years ago my parents split up, my Ma left my Da for someone else she was working with .. and all this drama happened and my Ma and her em "boyfriend" got fired from their jobs. I dont know the full story of that, so i wont try get into it. Then basically, my Ma is kind of a selfish bitch sometimes. In this whole situation anyway! My Da is crazy about her.. STILL!!.... So even tho she was living with this other man(this is still back three years ago) she was coming up to our house when my Da was in work (thats how it started off). Then she start being there when my Da was there, but still going home to this other dude and sleeping with him. When they were together they still acted as a couple??? I know my Da should have telling her to get out or whatever. But I think she fills him with false hope! One night she went out drinking with my Da (still around 3 or 2 1/2 years ago) and my Da bought her a take away (take out?) and she went home with it, she said she was living by herself. My Da followed her home, to see if she was lying, and of course she was!!!!!!!!!! and he beat up the other man, and threw a huge brick on his car... what annoyed him was, when he went into the house the other man was eating the food that my Da just bought. ha. so he flipped. so all shit went down because of that. This went on for ages, my Da hated her, then loved her, then hated her.. you know... BUT THIS IS WHATS ANNOYING ME NOW she just moved back recently, like i mean a month or so..she was doing it gradually, staying a night here and there , then two nights, then more.. now every night,. and when my Da is in work she goes back to that other man??????? i dont know what i am suppose to do.... she tries to lie about it, but the other night just got to me. She asked my sister to drop her out to this dude, so she could have a few drinks with him in the pub, and then pick her up after.. I went with my sister.. My Ma wouldnt leave the pub for over 20minutes we were waiting outside. Her boyfriend , or WHATEVER HE IS??? WHAT IS HE?????? text my phone saying "would yous not come in for a while your mam is enjoying herself " EEHHH NOOOO????!!!!!........ my Da was in work, to get money for my family and he wants me to go in and drink with them????? Then we finally get her out... on the way home in the car, i get a text, off her boyfriend thing "please let me know when you have her safe in bed its sad she has to suffer this black mail but just want her to be ok" soo i didnt write back because i didnt know what he was talking about. then i get another one "please forget what i said about blackmail sometime in future your ma might get around to telling you what i meant until then it really not my business" what the fuck????????? i dont know if my Ma is making up lies to him, OR if my Da really is "blackmailing" her... he can be sly like that. he might of said "if you dont leave him your not coming near this house when the baby is born" (my sister is pregnant) ... but what does she expect, she cant be with one man and keep running back and play happy families when she feels like it. it doesnt work like that! and i have to pretend to my Da shes not still seeing him... Its in my dreams and everything. i had a dream where my Da was trying to fight that man, and then sand kept on pouring out of my mouth. i googled it and it says that, when said is in your mouth in dreams its there because your hiding something. or you want to say something but you cant, so the sand stops you.. ugghhh i hate it... rant over.
Aww Lynz! What a horrible thing to be caught in the middle of! It's unfortunate that you and your sister seem to be the parents in this, your rents and this boyfriend of your mother's are acting like children. It's a shame your dad doesn't man up and tell her to either give him up or fack orf, likewise it's a shame her boyfriend doesn't tell her to do the same. As for your dad possibly blackmailing your mum regarding seeing the baby; even if it was the case, it'd be none of your dad's business. That'd be down to your sister. Regardless, I hope things all settle down soon. Especially with a new baby around
Seriously screwed up situation... for the most of it, I would just try to stay out of it. However, you shouldn't be lying to cover for anyone. What goes on between your parents, is their business, they are adults. You not lying, is not taking a side with either of them, it is simple not being a part of the game. Not knowing what type of relationship you have with your father, its hard to say anything other then that... if you can talk to him about how you feel, you should... but you have to decide that.
I hope so too!!! i know i wish he would do the same thing!! he's a pushover tho :-/ its been going on too long.. oh and when my Da actually did get a girlfriend, my ma went all crazy and start texting her giving her abuse :-/ not fair. oh and the baby thing, thats what i think the blackmail is. could be something different, i dont know I know, I'm trying to stat out of it, i dont want to be the blame of starting a big fight, and for them probably to still stay together anyway you know???
yer ma is taking the piss.... tell her she's gotta tell ya Da, or you'll tell him wether she likes it or not make her responsible for her actions, don't let her make you responsible for them i've known yer all this time and had no idea all that was going on... yer a strong lil' bugger lyn :sunny:
It sounds as if there are a lot of relationship dynamics involved that you have no control over. As difficult as it is you need to try to stay out of it for your own sanity. Do not allow either or any of the parties to put you in the middle of their issues. That is going to be really hard to do but if you do not then it is going to come down sooner or later that you are going to be accused of taking a side when you have no control or idea what the sides are. I am sorry you are in this situation, it is not fair. Sometimes so called grown ups are anything but. Hang in there.
ha yeah i try not bore people with my problems ha.. i just needed a rant, its been coming a long time haha :sunny: yeah i really dont want to take sides .. I keep it from my brother too, even tho he's older than me, he get very, affected by things like this. Whenever he does find something out he starts shouting at everyone and accusing everyone and causing trouble. I know WHY he does tho. At least i have my sister thanks everyone
Sounds so very similar to the situation that I'm in right now. I really hope you manage to find some peace in it all and that they figure it out one way or another. Peace
I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this - it really sucks. You didn't mention how old you are, but if you are getting close to the age of moving out, it's really something that I'd start considering if I were you. In my opinion your best bet is emotional detachment at this point. You're going to have to accept that as much as you like to fix this, it's not your responsability. Dad knows what's going on, so does mom, and they are the ones choosing to stay in this situation. I know it's sad to see your dad hurt and your mom acting like this, but the reality is they are both adults and they are making those decisions so there's no use torturing yourself over it. Do yourself a favor and remember that. You can tell them everything that is in your heart, that way you know that you have taken it as far as you can. After that you can move on telling yourself ''they know exactly how I feel about this situation and what I think they should do - the rest is up to them''. Be strong. Move out. Get some distance. Good luck, my thoughts are with you.
Either That Or Apply The Three S'..... Shoot.......:2thumbsup: Shovel......:2thumbsup:....And Shut Up....:2thumbsup: Cheers Glen.
Try and keep out of it. This "blackmail" allegation is a bit of a worry. Is it a lie? Is it the truth? What's the reason for it? Why does your mother keep going back and forth? Please, for your own sanity, take a step back!
