Sex before of after?

Did you have sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend before or after you started going out, dating, etc.?

 

Last 3gf's before, wife after.

 

I must be getting old. I barely understand the question. How does it happen that you have sex before dating?

 

Usually after, but if I did have sex with them before we were officially dating that made it official.

 

i wish i knew, because that's literally the only way couples get together anymore.

 

That's my point of this question.

 

Please explain how this happens.

 

in my case i live about 6 miles from one of these mega adult bookstores.
i have gone into the store from time to time; i have seen people hook up inside the store and, then, go into one of the individual movie rooms... you think they went in there to watch fine art films?
the hell they did!
i've seen several of those outside that bookstore some time at a later date.
i guess some of them found their soulmates for life.
other's found the best fuck buddy ever for themselves.

 

Interesting, but I don't think most people meet in adult bookstores ...

 

I've never had sex, but I'd definitely only ever do it before dating..I find it quite sick tbh that people do it before they start dating someone.

 

well personally, i don't have a girlfriend, or much if any sex. the little i have had though, was not with anyone i was dating.

i don't know the details. in my observations, a group goes out drinking, then two of them randomly disappear, then the next day you find out that they had sex. as news tends to spread, you hear about them having sex several more times over the next few days, and then after a couple weeks they just are a couple.

this is how relationships start these days, period. i've never heard of anyone going on a date since i was in high school, and even then it was extremely rare.

i find it sick when people judge others for something they don't have enough experience to comment on.

 

i think we're referring to a one night stand type situation, but the people involved eventually just get together.

i have never been in a relationship with someone that i slept with upon meeting. i have had one night stands, but ultimately

i would never date someone i hook up with in such a way because the relationship, in my eyes, would be built on the idea of both people being a bit slutty. i don't date sluts - i'd like to hope the feeling is mutual, because otherwise they are terrible at meaningful first impressions.

 

It's not even about experience. You're obviously desperate or something if you want to do it before you're dating someone..it's just weird.

 

i suppose it's just a question of morales - i support your judgement

case in point, i have never murdered anyone, but i know i wouldn't want to. i don't need the experience to have an opinion on it.

if you don't want to have sex before dating, well, that's personal preference and there's nothing wrong with that.

 

Well yeah I guess you're right. That's true, and I don't have a problem with others doing it if they want to, it's just something I would personally never do and find wrong.

 

you're obviously trolling if this is seriously the argument you're making.

 

i never ask for sex so its what ever the other person wants i dont care

 

I'm in college, but in high school, all of the guys that 'liked' me just wanted to hook up, and that's why I was very close minded to give guys a chance. And then I met a guy who I thought really liked me, and he told me he wanted to be in a relationship, but he wanted to have sex first, and then a few weeks later he didn't want me anymore. So either my sex was really bad (although he never complained about it) or he just used me.
I'm tired of getting treated this way, but underwear, your right. No one goes out on dates anymore. And it's like sex is almost expected before getting serious with someone. I mean, I'd like a nice date, you know?

 

I think young women should expect better behavior from guys. They are just trying to use you and you shouldn't let them. They've watched too much porn, listened to too much rap, and they think they can get away with it. But it takes two to play this game.

This is from a guy who's never had a one-nite stand.

Tell me if you think I'm being an old fuddy-duddy.

 

it has nothing to do with porn or rap. they do what they have to do if they don't want to be celibate. what music they listen to has nothing to do with what women respond to.