Hi.... I'm a guy trying to understand bisexuality .... I myself am... Curious I'm very shy so sorry for the dots but I have alot of questions that I would like anwsers too if anyone can help please do.... One question is it ok to be Bi? Where I live it is bad anyone who is gay or bi is beat up bullied and becomes an outcast... And obivously I have not tryed or told anyone I know I am curious pls if anyone can help please do.
You may want to reconsider your question here. Wondering if it is OK to be "bi" indicates that you are looking for other people's approval of your sexual orientation. It would make more sense to ask yourself, why would you want to receive approval for something that is purely your own business? Your bisexuality is no one's business but your own. Asking for anyone to be in agreement with it is not only uncalled for but also potentially challenging for them, too. A few people will feel that by expressing their approval, they too, may be considered different from the mainstay. The others will likely try to see what is in it for them if they approve of your sexuality. You do not want to take any of these challenges. You are who you are, and you should live your life as you find fit. It seems that you live in an intolerant and bigotry-ridden environment. Do everything that you can, to move out and live in an environment that would recognize your individual freedom and your inalienable right to live as it suits you. KD
If one is not bisexual or gay, that does give anyone the right to beat up another. If they are defending themselves in a very UNlikely situation that one is being raped be a gay or bi person maybe. I agree with KD66 it's not anything you need aproval for. If it is you, and I or anyone else don't like it, too bad, but it still is what and who you are. Bigotry and homophobia is something you should not need to deal with. Just be yourself.
I can be very difficult if you live in that kind of area. I grew up in a place where you'd probably be beaten up or worse for being gay or bi. Of course I was stupid and set slip that I was bi while drunk. I told a very close friend who was very supportive, but unfortunately was overheard by a bigot. I got hell, but i suppose it toughened me up and made me grow thick skin. They're not so keen to fight you when you can fight back. The key in my experience was my friends; they stuck out for me and defended me. My advice is to spend more time figuring out what exactly your feeling are. Of course, you're never really going to know until you're forced to defend them, but don't deny your feelings. The next step would be telling a very close friend, one who you know will not run off and tell anyone without your consent. It's always good to have someone to talk to, face to face. The internet will only help to an extent. There is nothing wrong with being bi or gay. Who you choose to have sex with is your buisness and yours alone. You've come to the right place to talk about this. After all: Peace and Love. eace:
Be proud of how you feel, there is nothing wrong with being attracted to both sexes - after all we're all the same human beings with some different bits. Be at peace with yourself - you are lucky really, you have the possibility of being attracted to a bigger pool of potential lovers. The hardest thing, and it sounds that you are in pretty 'redneck' country, where the guys that will beat you up if they know are probably repressed gay/bi people anyway who are too frightened to even admit it to themselves. You can admit it to yourself, even if you don't/aren't able to display your sexuality openly - as a poster above said, fuck them, it's solely your business and that of any lover you have; no one elses. Good luck, Simon :sunny:
Is it okay to ask someone whom you dont know very well if they are Bi? Or is that rude? And at what point during a relationship should you talk about sexualtiy if at the time of meeting the person you made friends with u thought was bisexual or gay in the first place?
A hard one - a person's sexuality is a private thing to my mind and unless the subject is being discussed or comes up in another way then it is not a question. But it is really a matter of openess because people who are comfortable with being 'out' will quite likely offer you the information, as often will an openly bi-person but probably less so since bisexuals are not as accepted by many in both the hetero or gay worlds. I'm happy, even proud to acknowledge myself as bisexual but am not out to many of my friends at all, though if asked now I would tell them. Simon :sunny:
I agree with the posters above, its your business who you have a relationship/sex with no one else. I know its hard to be who you are when you live in an environment that does not except other sexualities other than straight. Be proud to be who you are. Live your life as you see fit. Don't worry about what others think of who you are, just be you. No one should be bullied or beaten for who they are that is just plain wrong. There is nothing wrong with who you are, and don't let anyone tell you any different. Anyway I wish you the best of luck.
